Ask the Astrologer

So this concerns my current ex-boyfriend of 3.5 years. His birthday is August 8, 19**. We’ve broken up twice in the past 4 years, but we always end up back together. Although we match up in so many ways, were very different in many as well. I just need to know if the reason we keep coming back is because there is a future for us? Or are we just wasting precious time and opportunities for finding other people that were meant for us?
Birthdate: 2/13/19**

You and your boyfriend were born under opposite signs of the zodiac. These are the signs that are six months away from each other in the calendar year. You were born under Aquarius, which means that you were born in the heart of winter and he was born under Leo, which means that he was born in the heat of summer. This means that you guys will always run hot and cold with each other. These types of relationships are as irresistible as they are impossible. That’s because opposites attract, but just because opposites attract doesn’t mean that they will stay together.

One of the things that we look for in Astrology is common ground. This can be established by a Sun/Moon conjunction between horoscopes, Ruling planet connections, or even something as simple as being born in the same season of the year. These create bonds between zodiac charts so that people can lay down their comfort zones and get close. Opposite sign attractions are pretty much star-crossed because the lovers involved are rarely in sync for very long. Imagine two people sitting opposite each other on a seesaw. When one person is up, the other person is down and vice-versa. This gives the relationship a constant on-again, off-again quality. It can be dramatic in a break-up-only-to-make-up sort of way, but after a while it becomes exhausting.

Using a phrase like “my current ex-boyfriend” is never a good sign because it says that you’re stuck in a loop, which is what I’m talking about. This can also set up some pretty unhealthy relationship patterns if you let it go on for too long. My advice is to kick the habit and move on to someone new. You may be surprised to discover that men don’t have to be such hard work after all.

I was married for 7 years, got divorced in 2009 and since then I have only met men who just don’t want to commit. They are narcissists and egocentric. All I want is to find a nice and funny guy to start a family with. My question: when will my love life turn around for the good and will I ever have children?  -Anika  Birthdate: 1/19/19** 

Every man you’ve met since your divorce is narcissistic and egocentric? Either you stumbled upon Peter Pan’s island of lost boys or there’s a whole lot of projecting going on. The truth is often a mix of the two.Listen. Dating nowadays isn’t easy. And like many people you will have to invest a lot of time separating the wheat from the chaff. That comes with the territory. But what concerns me as an Astrologer is when I hear this kind of anger coming from a Capricorn woman. Capricorn isn’t an easy zodiac sign for a woman to be born under. That’s because it’s so male and stern and fatherly in character. Indeed the more that you take on the mantle of “dad” in a relationship, the more you will attract juvenile types into your orbit. This can become a self-fulfilling prophecy if you’re not careful.  I know that you want to find someone right now. Venus is in Capricorn (she entered your sign on Nov. 5) and she’s going to be pushing you to make a love connection. However Saturn is currently in Scorpio and this says to me that you’re dealing with a lot more anger at men than you’re aware of. Saturn in Scorpio says that you need to detox and to purge yourself of all the poisons – only then will you be in a place where you can make friends with men instead of seeing them as the problem.  I know that you want to find a nice, funny guy to settle down with. And that will happen once you get to a nice and funny place in your life, but you’re not there right now. If the men that you are attracting are narcissists and egocentrics then you need to take a long hard look at the signals you are putting out there. The good news is that Venus will be in Capricorn until March 5 because of its retrograde. This gives you plenty of time to rethink your approach and to change your message. Venus believes in playing nice with others. Learn to play nicely with men and they will play nicely back.

All my life I've been a loner.  Acquaintances are few, friends are scarce and after a couple of hours with them... I'm ready to go home.  I like it that way.  Is it because of my Scorpio moon?  3/19/57.

Your Scorpio Moon would certainly explain your desire for the solitary life.  Scorpio is one of the few zodiac signs that really enjoys being by itself—especially if it is surrounded by its favorite things like books or collectibles or whatever passes for a personal treasure.  There is never enough time in the day to contemplate a deep thought, to envision a great masterpiece, or to research a favorite topic.  If people with Scorpio Moons could go off and become hermits, they would do it in a New York minute.

Retreating into yourself is also supported by the heavy presence of water in your horoscope.  The water signs all prize the interior and private experience over the exterior and oftentimes hectic-paced one.  You have your Mercury, planet of the mind, in Pisces along with Venus—the planet of what I like.  You enjoy images, reveries, memories, and dreams.  You also have one of your Ruling Planets, Neptune, in Scorpio along with the north node next to the Moon.  The north node acts like a waxing energy in Astrology—it augments and empowers the planet that it is closest to.  In your case this creates an even stronger Scorpio Moon energy, so that the desire to be at home (you have your Moon in the fourth house of your horoscope and the fourth house is the house of home) becomes even more pronounced.  Your home really is your castle.

I wouldn’t be surprised if you find—like the hermits did of old—that people just can’t leave you alone.  They may come seeking your advice and your counsel.  They may do this in person or they may do it over the Internet.  It’s something that seems to follow solitary types despite their best efforts to escape.  If this is the case (like I suspect it will be this summer) then I would advise that you be a good sport about it.  You exude a kind of wisdom that people trust and want to be around.  Share your knowledge and insights and you could wind up wanting to spend a couple of more hours than usual with this new group of acquaintances.  One or two may even graduate to your inner circle of friends.

I just read that I was born with both of my Ruling Planets retrograde.  In my case it's Uranus and Saturn.  It all makes sense, but now I feel doomed.  Am I?  DOB February 13, 1975.

Don’t worry, you’re not doomed. 

Now it’s true that things don’t come easily for people born under a retrograde Ruling Planet.  It will take you longer than most to reap the rewards that you deserve and you will definitely have to cope with unexpected wrinkles.  But dealing with these kinds of setbacks actually does more for you in the long run than what you might think.  For instance you don’t take anything at face value—which is a plus in a world where we all have to deal with phishing, identity theft, and fly-by-night get rich quick schemes.  You won’t throw your hands up at the first signs of trouble because you’re a seasoned veteran when it comes to managing all of the monkey wrenches that get thrown into your best laid plans.  And finally the last minute reversals that a Retrograde Ruling Planet brings teaches you to think on your feet and to rework plans on the spot.  These are all qualities that you probably wouldn’t have developed if things had come easily.

I have found that to be born under a retrograde Ruling Planet confers a special type of genius.  I have seen retrograde Ruling Planet clients of mine become more resourceful, inventive, and resilient.  Now who’s to say whether this would have happened had the planets been situated differently?  It’s a moot point because that’s just the way that things turned out and nobody really knows how life would have been otherwise.  We have no choice but to work with the horoscope we walk in with.  It’s no different than working with the body we’re born into.  However I have known a number of people who were born extremely talented and I have known a number of people who have gotten every break that one could hope to get.  Have these good turns guaranteed success?   Sometimes yes; sometimes no.  I have seen talented people fail to live up to their potential and I have seen lucky breaks lead to others’ stagnation and even ruin.  Fortune is capricious.  One person’s blessing is another person’s curse and vice-versa.

In the end your Fortune—like your horoscope—is what you make of it.  And if you can develop an appreciation for what your retrograde Ruling Planets bring to the table, then you will find that you’ve been given some very special gifts.  The first is a “if at first you don’t succeed, then try, try, try again” perseverance -- that’s the Saturn retrograde-- and the second is a “make-it-up-as-you-go-along” spontaneity that only a retrograde Uranus can bestow.  These two planets may disappoint when it comes to immediate gratification, but what they deliver in the long run is self-sufficiency, wisdom that comes from hindsight, and a creativity that will never grow stale or complacent.  And these aren't such bad things to have if you think about it

My Libra boyfriend has been studying for massage therapy licensing.  He previously took the test twice to obtain the certificate, once in 2006/2007 and again in 2007/2008 and did not pass.  He has been studying for about a year now and still isn't confident that he will pass the test.  Will he ever pass?  Will he find good massage therapist employment so he can quit his day job that barely pays enough for him to survive?

Saturn, the planet of trials and tribulations, is currently winding up its 2-year stay in Libra so I’m not surprised to hear that your boyfriend is looking to take a test that will have an enormous impact on his future.  Saturn doesn’t make things easy.  It preys upon our insecurities and fears and can really do a number on one’s self-confidence.  However Saturn is a teacher, not a tyrant; a builder, and not a destroyer.  It’s clear from your question that a lot of anxiety has risen up around this massage certificate and that the only way that your boyfriend is going to get it is by working through the knots of his fears.

Now just because your boyfriend isn’t good at taking tests doesn’t mean that he’s not a good massage therapist.  In fact he’s probably quite gifted given the fact that his Mars in Leo is forming a powerful sextile to Pluto in Libra.  But this test thing is probably driving him crazy and will through July 2012.  I don’t know when these sorts of tests are given, but I would advise that he not take it before August 2012.  If anything, I would advise him to take the test between mid August and mid October 2012.  This is when the planetary energies will be squarely in his corner.  His transition to working full time as a massage therapist may not happen until 2013, but I certainly do see him becoming a success in his own right.  These sorts of successes are hard-won under Saturn’s influence, but once secured the rewards will stand the test of time.

I am at a "job" right now-- a fairly boring office job-- which drains me and prevents me from fulfilling my life's purpose.  I just fell into this job because I needed money, and four years later I am still here.  I have had a dream to be a "healer" for years, always read and practiced alternative health, and started taking energy healing classes in December 2010, but I have a block about actually starting a business doing it.  I have owned a different kind of business (retail) in the past, so it's not the business aspect that scares me.  I just don't ever think I'm ready or will have the confidence.  And now I'm ready to give up and just resign myself to an underwhelming job to fill up the rest of my life.  A wasted life.  I'm not usually so dramatic, but it feels like I’m watching my life pass me by.  I feel like I'm missing a piece of the puzzle, the main piece that pulls everything together.  My DOB is 2/12/1969.

Are you familiar with the phrase “physician heal thyself?”  When I first heard it I thought it sounded rather challenging and provocative.  And it is.  But “physician heal thyself” isn’t so much a negative challenge aimed at making you feel inadequate as much as it is a creative challenge aimed at getting you in touch with the very art that you want to practice.  One cannot heal if one has never been wounded.  You wouldn't know what you were doing.  It’s the wound that teaches us how to relate to something broken, it’s the wound that gives us our compassion and sympathy, and finally it’s the wound that serves as our motivation to get better.  However one can also identify a little too much with being wounded and reject the power of healing because it will always be the nature of pain to keep you focused on pain.  Pain doesn’t like to be healed which is why it will fight against it.

You were born with your two Ruling Planets—Saturn and Uranus—in opposite zodiac signs.  This says that you’re apt to be split about most things that you do because one planet wants to head in one direction and the other planet wants to head in the opposite direction.  This tug-of-war between them can produce long periods of paralysis where they cancel each other out and/or conflict that winds up thwarting your best efforts to reconcile them.  Right now each planet in the sky is passing over the point where the other planet was in your horoscope.  In other words Uranus is now in Aries (you were born when your Saturn was in Aries) and Saturn is now in Libra (you were born when your Uranus was in Libra).  That’s probably more astrological gobbledygook than you wanted to sit through, but the point is that this kind of opposition between Ruling Planets doesn’t happen all the time.  In fact it’s quite rare.  And what it says to me as an Astrologer is that you are at the breaking point when you will either break down or break through to the other side of the wall that blocks you.  This will happen sometime between June 27, 2012 and October 5, 2012.

I feel like this will be a breakthrough.  But this breakthrough is predicated on you taking hold of the reins in your life.  You know that you can work a boring job to bring in money, so if worse comes to worse you can always go out and get another boring job if you need to.  So if you know that you’ve got that base covered, then why not give healing a chance?  You’re never going to know if you can do it unless you practice it.  My sense is that the practice of your beloved art form is the very thing that will build confidence, bring fulfillment, and allow for you to earn a living.  Saturn in Aries has a tendency to deny you the very thing that you’re passionate about.  It does this to test your passion.  Sometimes the test shows that you weren’t all that into it.  And sometimes the test shows how dreary a life without passion can be.  I think you know a lot about the how dreary life without passion can be test.  In fact you know so much about it that you’re probably sick and tired of having to take it over and over again.  But remember that frustration is an enzyme.  Not a particularly pleasant one, but an enzyme nonetheless--which means that frustration will act upon you to make the change you need to make.  Choose the life you want to live instead of the life you feel like you have to live and you will heal the wound that has been draining you for far too long.

Is there a way to tell if you are related to someone by looking at their natal charts?  Is there a pattern to look for?  My sister & I have nothing in common other than our family and the fact that we were both born on a 19 day.  (We don't even get along.)  Her DOB 1/19/56; my DOB 3/19/57.

There isn’t any clear-cut way to tell if you are related to someone just by looking at the natal charts.  If there were, then issues of paternity would have been settled a long time ago.  There is, however, such a thing as astrological “signatures” that will appear in family horoscopes.  These signatures are the Stars’ way of assigning a particular theme to a family tree, something that plays out through the many branches.  These signatures could range from repeating rising signs and Ruling Planets that fall within specific seasons to Moons that appear in Saturn-ruled signs, Saturns that appear in a Moon-ruled sign, etc. 

People who practice psychological Astrology see these signatures as issues that need to be worked out in the lives of the family members.  This is why they will practice a more therapeutic type of Astrology based on trying to identify and then heal the family “wound” through counseling rather than through consultation.  It stems from the idea that some ancestor somewhere did something wrong to set into motion a kind of energy that acts like a domino effect rolling through the generations, knocking down each life in its path.  It’s as old as Greek drama and the House of Atreus.  In fact that’s where the idea comes from.  I don’t really buy into this idea.  I do believe that there are planetary patterns that appear in family charts, but these patterns serve to bind the charts to each other.  Just as we would expect to see certain genetic traits passed down from one generation to the next in a family, then it only stands to reason that we would see certain planetary dispositions emulate this inheritance as well.  It is the nature of horoscopes to form constellations—to group and gather together.  I see this all of the time with families as well as in the workplace and even more “random” get-togethers like workshops, gym classes, and vacationing tourists.   Like gets like and it’s this similarity in planetary patterns that allows people’s horoscopes to click into place.

That said, I’m sorry to hear that you and your sister don’t really get along.  But an examination of your horoscopes shows that this isn’t really a disaster either.  She will always be the “down-to-earth” one and you will always be the dreamer and you will take up these positions accordingly.  Ironically it’s the fact that you were both born on the 19th that forms the strongest bond in your horoscopes.  She was born on the 19th of January and you were born on the 19th of March which means that your Suns form a sextile.  A sextile is a very particular type of planetary relationship.  A sextile is when people agree to put aside their differences in order to help each other out.  When your Sun sextiles somebody else’s you don’t have to “get” each other.  In fact you don’t even have to like each other because sextiles are Astrology’s strategic alliances.  They appear in the horoscopes of people who are joined together by the pursuit of common goals rather than by sharing common interests.  Simply put, sextiles are the “I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine” Astrological relationships.  You and your sister may not have much to say to each other, but you can count on her to be there if you and she ever face a common problem.  You would put aside your differences in an instant and race to her side because safeguarding her interests means safeguarding yours-- and vice-versa.  This sextile relationship between horoscopes may not make for the most heart-warming holiday gatherings, but you should know that your sister will always have your back in a crisis and that’s not a bad thing if you think about it.

I’m dating a Virgo who’s the total opposite of me.  We have been dating for over 4 months and I find myself still struggling to be patient when he speaks and I have a hard time with his laid back attitude.  We do have a lot of chemistry and he told me he loved me on New Year's Eve!  I'm a bit freaked out!  Anything in my stars either holding me back or moving me forward?  My DOB: March 30, 1963. His: September 7, 1959.

Strength comes in different shapes and guises and that’s a hard concept for an Aries to wrap their head around.  Aries is ruled by Mars—the planet of power.  Named after the roman God of war, you want to see action, not peace; passion, not “laid back”, and you thrive on fights, arguments, and competition.  Dealing with someone who won’t fight back—or who becomes reasonable when you want to lock horns-- isn’t going to be easy.  You may even ask yourself: where’s the fun in that?

But just because your Virgo friend doesn’t lose his temper—or simply chooses not to let you see him sweat-- doesn’t mean that he’s not powerful.  There are different kinds of power.  There’s outshouting power.  There’s not showing up and leaving the other person hanging power.  There’s bullying power.  There’s sensitivity chip missing power, etc.  I think you could gain a lot by learning about the way that your Virgo friend exercises power in his life.  It’s a lot more subtle, controlled, and directed than you might think.

Meanwhile your Ruling Planet Mars turns retrograde in the zodiac sign of Virgo on January 23, 2012.  A retrograde refers to a backward motion and it describes a period of time when the planet behaves contrary to the way that it acts when it’s moving forward in the sky.  A Mars retrograde could symbolize a sudden drop in energy, a loss in resolve, or a period of time when you feel adrift and confused.  A Mars retrograde could also symbolize a time when you go back over ground that you had covered before and when you may discover some things that you had overlooked the first time.  This could signal a reboot when it comes to the way you deal with men.

I don’t think that it’s a coincidence that you’re dating a Virgo man at a time when your Ruling Planet is in Virgo.  I think that this is the Stars’ way of challenging your view of men, power, and strength.  You may find that you come to really need him during this time that Mars is traveling backwards through the sky (Mars comes out of retrograde on April 13, 2012) and that he is there for you in ways that you didn’t think that a man could be.

But he isn’t you and he never will be.  Like you say, his temperament is the opposite of yours—which would be perfectly in keeping with someone who was born almost six months away from you in the calendar year.  However your Ruling Planet Mars is in Leo, his Ruling Planet Mercury is in Virgo and this puts your Ruling Planets in zodiac signs that sit next to each other on the zodiacal wheel.  This is one of the strongest pairings that you can hope to have in Astrology because the Ruling Planets are in same season signs (Leo and Virgo are both summer signs).

I would recommend that you focus more on getting to know your Virgo friend and less on the things that drive you crazy.  I feel like you will develop a healthy respect and appreciation for qualities that you may have undervalued before.  The good thing about Mars being retrograde in Virgo is that Mars will be in this sign through the beginning of July 2012.  That’s an unusually long time for Mars to spend in a zodiac sign.  This gives you plenty of time to decide if you’re in or out as far as this relationship is concerned.  Meanwhile: he looks like he’s very much in.

My question has to do with my life purpose.  I always feel like I am "waiting" for something . . . like waiting for the answer, waiting for the meaning of my life.  I have a couple of pokers in the fire in that I am a Reiki Master, I run a monthly law of attraction meditation group, I am part of a women's networking group.  But I feel like there is something out there for me that is just out of my grasp right now.  What do you see for me?  DOB 11/20/1961

Your question is interesting to me because in one line you describe yourself as “waiting for something”—like an answer or to discover the meaning of your life; yet in the following line you describe all of these activities that don’t sound like you’re waiting at all.  You say that you are a Reiki Master, that you run a monthly law of attraction meditation group, and that you are part of a women’s networking group.  You sound pretty busy to me and like you’re a go-getter.  It makes me wonder if your problem isn’t so much waiting as it is in recognizing all that you do? 

As a Scorpio, you have two Ruling Planets: Mars and Pluto.  Most people have one Ruling Planet, but you were born under one of the three zodiac signs (the others are Aquarius and Pisces) that have two.  What this means is that you have to answer to both planets.  Now in some cases these planets may be conjunct in a horoscope (which means they’re right next to each other being all buddy-buddy) and sometimes they may occupy totally random points in the sky (which means that they have little to do with each other), but in your case your two Ruling Planets form a square.  A square between planets means that they are in conflict and that the conflict is over who gets to be in charge.  Mars?  Or Pluto?  You can think of your Ruling Planets as locked in an arm wrestling match.  Each is trying to gain the upper hand, but ultimately they will have to work together.

Your Mars is Sagittarius is higher purpose driven.  This is the part of you that needs to have something to shoot for.  What else would you expect from Mars in the sign of the Archer?  But Mars is driven by more than just an aim or an ambition.  Whatever you accomplish in your life must have some sort of spiritual, philosophical, or religious impact.  Connecting to your life purpose is integral to Sagittarius.

Your other Ruling Planet Pluto is in Virgo.  Virgo is all about seeing tangible results for your efforts.  In other words you need to have something to show for yourself at the end of the day.  Pluto in Virgo challenges you with questions like: how much money did you make today?  How much work did you get done?  Are you doing better this week than you were doing last week?

Mars and Pluto will pit your idealistic side against your practical side which is good because the nature of this planetary square is to be collaborative.  Both voices have something to say and both voices need to be heard.  However right now Mars in the sky is traveling through the zodiac sign of Virgo which means that it will be weighing in on Pluto’s side.  Translation?  You’re going to feel like you should have more to show for yourself and you will feel frustrated when you don’t.  This could lead you to question your spiritual work and maybe even discount it all together.

The trick to working with Mars in Virgo is to not get down on yourself.  It’s easier to criticize than it is to train and practice, but the beauty of Mars in Virgo is that it is one of the most self-motivating, disciplined signs that Mars could be traveling through.  You may start off this period feeling like you can’t get to where you want to go from where you are now but you will certainly cross that divide by the time that Mars leaves Virgo.

Mars will be in Virgo until early July 2012 which means that you will have to find practical ways to utilize your spiritual experience in your day-to-day life; in essence you will have to practice (Virgo) what you preach (Sagittarius).  This won’t be easy and it may even be discouraging at times, but the Mars energy will push you to push yourself.  That’s just what Mars does.  And who knows?  Perhaps it’s because Mars will be holding your feet to the fire during this time that you will find new ways to bring your dreams of a higher purpose-driven life down to earth into your day-to-day interactions.  You may even discover that that vision of yourself that always seemed beyond your reach is well within your grasp and ready for the embracing by the end of the summer.

Does transiting retrograde Mercury affect someone with a natal retrograde Mercury differently than normal people?  If so, in what ways?  DOB 2/23/1987

There are a number of different theories about this but no real hard fast rules. None of the old school Astrologers like Firmicus Maternus, Ptolemy, or William Lilly wrote about this in their books.  Yet in my experience as an Astrologer, I have found that Mercury retrogrades do affect people born with Mercury retrograde in their horoscope differently than those people who were born when Mercury was moving direct in the sky.  And the effect appears to be a positive one.

One of the advantages to writing a daily horoscope column is that I get to see the effect of the planets on huge swaths of my readership instead of just on a chart by chart basis.   And what I came to discover whenever I would post a “watch out: Mercury is about to turn retrograde” type of warning is that some of my readers would write in to say that they were actually experiencing a good period rather than a bad one.  I began asking them for their birthdays and sure enough—a good number of them had Mercury retrograde in their horoscopes.  Now this wasn’t always the case, but it happened enough times for me to rethink my thinking.  Simply put the periods of time when Mercury is retrograde feels “normal” for people who were born with Mercury retrograde in their horoscopes.  Indeed these even appear to be times when they can take full advantage of the planet’s energies.  It’s kind of like someone who’s left-handed being allowed to use his left hand when he’s writing instead of being forced to write with his right hand.  Believe it or not this was the case for many left-handed children learning in school until recently.

To be born with Mercury retrograde gives you a very special genius.  You may not know what it is right away, but you will eventually.  Mercury retrograde in Pisces may give you a unique emotional intelligence or an uncanny ability to work with images or music or it could make you amazingly prescient.  Then again the retrograde may reverse the traditional meaning of Mercury in Pisces as being “dreamy” and “impractical” and turn you into a very down-to-earth and analytical type of thinker.  Remember that Mercury turns retrograde three times a year so you can try experimenting with its 2012 retrograde dates—Mercury will be retrograde from March 12 to April 4, 2012; July 15 to August 8, 2012; and then again from November 6 to November 26, 2012—to see how it works for you.

I've been feeling a general sense of unease that I have no explanation for.  It prompted me to ask whether something is up with the planetary alignments.  I'm happy at work and I’ve been with my current company for about a year.   Interestingly enough I worked for this company seven years ago.  I was working for a different company when I was laid off in September 2010 so I’m fortunate to be able to come back to this company.  I can’t put my finger on any issues in particular, so maybe you can help?  I was born on February 5, 1964.

It makes perfect sense that you would be feeling a general sense of unease nowadays with Ruling Planet Uranus preparing to come out of retrograde on December 9, 2011.  Uranus is the planet of revolution and change in Astrology.  Essentially it’s the Cosmos’s version of a wild card.  One never knows whether life is going to be up or down when Uranus is activated so it’s always a good idea to brace yourself for the expected unexpected.

That said, Uranus has been traveling through the zodiac sign of Aries since Memorial Day Weekend of 2010, so if there was ever a time when you would have experienced a major change or upset in your life then it would have been between August 13, 2010 and March 12, 2011.  This is my way of saying that you should be safely passed the surprise-curve-ball-out-of-left-field window.  So why are you experiencing feelings of unease?

It’s true that Uranus is the planet of revolution and change, but Uranus doesn’t just upset the status quo for the fun of it.  Uranus has a job to do and that’s to wake us up to ourselves so that we can live the best life ever.  Children of Uranus believe that there is an intelligent design to the Universe and that if we can figure out what that design is then we will be able to unlock our inner potential and tap into creative energies that we never dreamed existed.  Children of Uranus are always struggling to bring lofty principles (like eternal truths) down to earth while lifting the sights of the people around them so that they embrace the highest that humanity has to offer instead of settling for the lowest common denominator.

Now that you’ve re-established yourself career-wise, you may be wondering if there isn’t something missing from the life that you are living.  And if that’s the case, then perhaps that feeling of dissatisfaction may prove to be a better explanation for the sense of unease that you describe.  There’s nothing wrong with being dissatisfied.  Material concerns are all fine and good, but they don’t really speak to the Aquarian higher plan.  That’s because material comforts are meant to satisfy our day-to-day needs—like an appetite or a craving; material comforts aren’t really outfitted to fulfill us on a self-expressive or a spiritual level.  

My feeling is that you’re seeking greater fulfillment in your life and that you may not have the clearest idea of what that is supposed to be or even where that might lead.  And I don’t think that you need to know at this point.  In fact the best thing that you can do right now would be to leave an empty space.  It’s funny how uncomfortable people get with empty spaces.  There’s this feeling in our society and culture that empty spaces need to be filled immediately—even if we don’t know what we’re filling them with.  Be open-minded and open-hearted and I think that you’ll like what materializes in your life between March 24, 2012 and April 4, 2012.  I don’t know whether it will be a person, place, or thing, but it looks to me like whatever shows up at this time will act like calling card from your higher purpose.  It’s not quite a burning bush in the desert, but it could turn out to be the next best thing.

I noticed that Dr. Conrad Murray, Casey Anthony and Chaz Bono are all on my planet and that they are all having some very interesting times.  I get that Neptune is in Pisces, but what's the deal?  I don't want to go to jail or barely miss it, but I wouldn't mind dancing with the stars!  Whoops!  Didn’t Chaz get the boot?  Anyhow I thought this was our time to shine?  I feel all over the place myself and as everything falls away (relationship, region, job) I have no idea what will emerge. Any advice?  3/1/1980

Remember that Toni Morrison, Rihanna, and Justin Bieber are all Children of Neptune too and they seem to be enjoying a stellar year.  Well, an almost stellar year if you’re willing to overlook little things like paternity lawsuits and flubbing the lines to "Santa Claus is Coming To Town".

The simple truth is that Pisceans everywhere are on the cusp of change, but that change won’t really take place until Ruling Planet Neptune enters the zodiac sign of Pisces on February 3, 2012.  What makes this a little confusing is that Neptune actually did enter Pisces earlier this year on March 4, 2011.  This gave Pisceans a taste of the good life to come.  But no sooner did Neptune enter Pisces then it turned retrograde on June 3, 2011 and reentered the zodiac sign of Aquarius on August 5, 2011.  A retrograde like this is analogous to someone making a splashy entrance into a room, stopping short, and then suddenly departing back the way he came.  It leaves everyone wondering what happened and whether or not he’ll be coming back.

Thankfully Neptune just came out of retrograde on November 9, 2011 which means that you will no longer be left guessing about your future.  You should begin to feel a forward movement almost immediately and the momentum will pick up on December 25, 2011 when your other Ruling Planet, Jupiter, also comes out of retrograde.  However you will not really be “in season” until February 3, 2012.

It’s best not to begin anything new during this time or to make any promises you can’t keep because you just don’t know where things stand.  In fact you will be seeing a lot of the old fixtures in your life unravel and collapse by the wayside.  But I doubt that this will be in a catastrophic way.  I imagine that it will be more along the lines of saying good-bye to those relationships, situations, and life choices that have outlasted their purpose and no longer fit who you are now.  A Ruling Planet changing signs is Astrology’s version of a regime change and the longer that a planet takes to pass through one zodiac sign (Neptune spends 13 years in one sign) the more powerful that regime change will be.  My advice would be to let yourself tread water until February 2012 and to follow developments as they unfold.  This is one of those rare occasions when you can let the Universe do the driving for a while.  The wonderful thing about this new day dawning in your life is that it will truly be new.  You really don’t know what to expect.  But given that Neptune will be returning to its own zodiac sign after 156 years, there’s every reason to expect the best!

What does it mean to be a child of Pluto and Mars?  How do these two strong planets affect me as the strong sign of Scorpio?  And more so, what does the retrograde have coming to me this year?  November 12, 1961.

When you are a Child of Mars and Pluto then you have to work with both planetary energies.  Mars is the planet of willpower and drive.  It is all about motivation and self-improvement.  When you add Pluto to the mix, then this drive takes on a life and death intensity.  That’s because Pluto is the planet of ordeals and the transformations that arise from them.  In other words Pluto says that you can’t transform without enduring the ordeal first.  It’s the Pluto part of your dual planetary rulership that attracts these sorts of dark passages that push you to evolve as a person.

You were born with your Mars in Scorpio—which already gives you a strong Pluto energy.  This says that you are ruled by your emotions more than anything else.  Moreover because you were born with Mars in your own sign you see yourself as making the personal difference in people’s lives or crisis situations.  You are there for others in ways that they cannot be there for themselves.

Your other Ruling Planet, Pluto, is in Virgo.  Virgo is the zodiac sign of the body, health, work, and service.  This could indicate that you work in the health profession or you help people to better themselves in some way—perhaps by training or educating them.  There is also a love of hidden knowledge with these particular planetary combinations, however it’s the Pluto in Virgo that says that you have to find a way to utilize it.  Virgo is also a woman’s sign (more than a man’s), so women’s issues and concerns may be important for you.

Mars will enter Virgo on November 10, 2011.  It will pass over Pluto in your horoscope from November 18 through December 11, 2011.  On January 23, 2012 Mars will turn retrograde in Virgo and will pass back over Pluto in your horoscope again from March 2 through April 7, 2012.  Mars comes out of retrograde on April 13, 2012 and does its third pass over Ruling Planet Pluto in your horoscope from April 22 through May 21, 2012.  The first pass (November 18 thru December 11) will signal the appearance of the issue or problem you will be dealing with.  The second pass (March 2 thru April 7 2012) concerns your response and the third pass (April 22 thru May 21, 2012) is the outcome.

Retrogrades are often challenging times and it looks like you may be facing a challenge in the areas of life ruled by Virgo—which is the body, work (i.e. job), and service.  What’s encouraging is that your two Ruling Planets are working for you which means that whatever happens during this time you will get through it and you will be made all the better for the experience.

I’ve worked in documentary films and loved it.  I would like to make my own documentaries and share stories that could change how people see their lives.  I think I can be especially good at it, but I can’t seem to get started.  Well . . . I’ve started one, but I can’t seem to finish writing the script and editing it.  I love the shooting and directing part, but putting the final story together makes me feel terrified.  I’m worried that the final film won’t meet my expectations.  Am I procrastinating because I’m terrified or am I just not meant to make movies?  Last spring I took a painting class and it was the most effortless thing I’ve ever done.  But I’ve stopped that too.  I feel really bad about it.  Do you have any insight as to what my hesitation about making documentaries—or doing anything creative—is all about?  My DOB is 3/30/1979

You were born under Aries, the zodiac sign of the spring equinox.  People born under Aries have strong starts, but often suffer from weak finishes.  It’s very hard for people born under your sign to maintain the passion and enthusiasm that you initially felt when you were first seized by the genius of an idea or the thrill of starting a new project or enterprise.  Being born under a spring sign means that you need things to be fresh and new and exciting.  Once they become settled or typical or staid then you begin to lose your way.  It’s like the trail has grown cold and you will go off in search of something else that captures your attention.

The fact that your Ruling Planet Mars is in Pisces doesn’t make this easier.  Pisces is the zodiac sign of dreamers and visionaries.  It’s also the zodiac sign of film and filmmaking, so your Ruling Planet Mars in Pisces is a strong indicator that you are on the right creative path.  However people with strong Pisces energy have a hard time choosing between the worlds they want to live in.  There is your day-to-day world.  And then there is the world of your dreams.  I have worked with a lot of artists whose Ruling Planets are in Pisces and the big problem I’ve seen them grapple with is that what they see in their mind’s eye is so perfect that the act of trying to translate it into their medium (whether it’s painting or sculpture or video) feels like a huge downer.  Some of them have even told me that they feel like they’re betraying their artistic vision by even trying.

But this grappling with the imagination (what you see in your mind’s eye) is the keystone to any creative process.  Chances are you aren’t going to replicate your ideal, but who’s to say that you won’t end up with something better?  Yet you will never know unless you try and that’s what you must do if you want to be a filmmaker.

Deadlines are an artist’s best friend.  They force you to produce.  If you want to make a film then set a deadline and keep it.  I would advise steering clear of what I call “navel gazing” questions like—“Am I procrastinating?  Or “was I meant to do this”?  Truth is in the action and either you actively pursue your art form or you don’t.  And there’s nothing wrong with deciding not to.  Sometimes dreams are just meant to be dreamt and one shouldn’t torture oneself over it.  If you want something bad enough then you will find a way to make it happen.  You’re resourceful, you’ve worked in the industry, and it sounds like you know what you’re doing.  And if you decide not to make documentary films, then you need to make peace with that and to let yourself off the hook.  I am sure that you will find another outlet for your creative energies.  Many artists start off in one medium, grow disgruntled, and then wind up succeeding in another.  It’s all part of that mysterious and creative journey.

I’ve been dating this amazing Libra man (10/21/62) for about 3 months now and everything was going really well.  We seem to get each other and have a lot in common, but in the last 2 weeks we have been experiencing some difficulties and I’m not sure if there in something going on with the planets or maybe we’re not as compatible as I thought.  My birthday 6/4/71.

This isn’t an easy time of year for Libras.  The Sun entered their zodiac sign on September 23, 2011—which is usually a good thing, except that it immediately formed an opposition to revolutionary Uranus in Aries on September 25, 2011 followed by a square to gloomy Pluto on September 28, 2011.  Translation?  This would have been a very upsetting time for your Libra man—fraught with a lot of anxiety and insecurity.  I wouldn’t be surprised if he beat a quick retreat or just got really ornery.  If this indeed happened, then you should see things improve after the Sun conjoins Saturn on October 13, 2011.  However it still begs the question of whether the two of you are as compatible as you initially hoped.

What I like about the two of your horoscopes is that your Moon at 24 degrees Libra forms a conjunction to his Sun at 27 degrees Libra.  A conjunction is when two planets are at the same place at the same time in the sky.  It's like being on the same page astrologically speaking.  This is one of the strongest pairings you can have in Astrology and it used to be known as the marriage signature.  When you have a Sun/Moon conjunction like you guys do then that means that you would have connected immediately and that you truly enjoy being with each other.  Your relationship feels like home.

However there is a drawback and that’s the fact that your Ruling Planets are opposite each other in the sky.  You were born with Ruling Planet Mercury at 25 degrees Taurus while he was born with his Ruling Planet Venus at 27 degrees Scorpio.  Oppositions create “make or break” tensions because the planets push and pull in opposite directions—like in a game of tug of war.  You will each believe that you are right and it will be very hard for your partner to convince you otherwise.  Now your Mercury in Taurus is pretty straightforward and easy-going.  However his Venus in Scorpio can tend to get a bit sulky and maybe even snippy.  Venus has a hard time in Scorpio because Scorpio is such a heavy sign and Venus just doesn’t like heavy.  Venus wants to be open and inviting, not on guard and suspicious (which is the way she can get in Scorpio.)  This can create emotional distancing that’s based on a very strong fear of rejection.  This doesn’t really mesh well with your friend’s Libra Sun.  The result is a kind of disconnect between what you hear him saying and what you feel like he really means.  This can leave you feeling like you’re walking on eggshells with him and that’s not good.  The best way to address this is to get him to talk about his feelings.  Libra is an air sign like you (a Gemini) which means that you can talk through your differences and problems.  He values communication as much as you do.  But you do have to brace yourself for some potentially stinging critical comments.  Children of Venus with Venus in Scorpio don’t have the best bedside manner when it comes to sharing misgivings.  That’s because they feel guilty about having them in the first place so what comes out often winds up sounding stronger than what they really think.

I think the two of you have what it takes to make a terrific relationship if you’re willing to build a bridge that spans your differences.  You’re both accustomed to being by yourselves and it’s going to take a while to really get into each other’s groove.  Yet the nature of your horoscopes shows that you have the potential to bond on a very deep and long lasting level.  You just need to decide if that’s what you want.  If you do, then this will be a relationship that will go the distance.

I am curious about what a Jupiter retrograde means for me.  I have interviews at 3 different places in the next 6 weeks and would like to know how this retrograde "works".  I hear a lot about Mercury retrograde and have experienced the reversals and communication disruptions that that particular retrograde is known for.  But what about this Jupiter retrograde?  How does that manifest?  DOB 12/03/1954.

There are two things to watch out for when a planet turns retrograde.  The first is to expect reversals in whatever area of life that that planet rules and the second is to anticipate some kind of delay or postponement.  Reversals are connected to the retrograde planet’s backwards motion in the sky which is why astrologers will warn you not to make any big purchases or to sign any contracts when Mercury is retrograde for example because Mercury is the planet of buying and selling.  Unforeseen delays and postponements are also typical during a retrograde, which is why astrologers will advise you to wait until the planet comes out of its shadow period to see what the final outcome will be.

You always want to pay special attention to the period of time when your Ruling Planet is retrograde because this is the planet that will affect your concerns most of all.  Jupiter retrogrades will have an impact on you because you were born under the zodiac sign of Sagittarius which means that Jupiter is your Ruling Planet.  Jupiter is the planet of good fortune and higher purpose in Astrology and it turned retrograde on August 30, 2011.  Now Jupiter retrogrades are really intriguing because they often bring a test of faith.  A lot of times people feel like they’re on a roll in the weeks before Jupiter turns retrograde and then suddenly there’s this change in the winds of Fortune.  What used to come easily turns into a struggle and there can even be a loss in confidence and faith.  It’s analogous to feeling like you’ve come to the end of your lucky streak.

Now most people would say, “Ok, my luck’s changed so I’ll just move on to something else.”  And they do and that’s about it.  It’s an easy come, easy go relationship to life and Jupiter has no problem with that.  But let’s say you were involved in the beginning stages of a relationship when Jupiter changed direction in the sky or maybe you were just getting going with a project or a start-up venture.  And let’s say you really believe in its success and that you’re not going to give up—even if things do slow down and the way ahead is littered with doubts and questions.  Well, this is when Jupiter makes the transition from being the planet of luck to being the planet of higher purpose.  A higher purpose is something that inspires us in a way that’s different from drive and motivation.  A higher purpose is based on belief and faith and these are things you either have or you don’t.  A Jupiter retrograde tests your faith.  It says that what you want isn’t going to come easily and so it asks: are you going to give up and go back the way you came or are you going to take a leap of faith?

Jupiter comes out of retrograde on Christmas Day, 2011.  Chances are that you will have worked out your employment situation by then, but how you work it out will all depend on the choices you make while Jupiter is retrograde.  For instance, you may have to choose between a job that’s ready to be filled immediately versus one that you would have to wait for.  You would then have to ask yourself which one matters most to you.  Another scenario might involve a temporary situation that has a set deadline (like in December) when you will then be reviewed as to whether you will continue or not.  In any case you can expect something iffy about your new position and you may feel like you have to prove yourself.  But what’s important to keep in mind is that this proving yourself has less to do with proving yourself to an employer and more to do with proving yourself to you.  Make choices based on being true to your vision of what would make your life feel meaningful and you can’t go wrong.

Currently, I feel at a loss financially and career wise.  Although employed, it is not a career but a job.  I am very proactive in the job search but seem to not be able to catch a break and move forward.  I am not being paid what I am worth so my finances are not improving.  Is relief coming sooner, within the next couple of months, or later?  07/11/1974 born at 9:18 pm in Orlando, FL.

Right now I see a tremendous split between the life you want to live and the life you feel you have to live.  This is symbolized by the two very different approaches to life espoused by your Cancer Sun and Aquarius rising.

It’s the Cancer Sun side of you that insists that you have a roof over your head and a bed to sleep in at night.  When you’re born under Cancer you need to feel safe and secure—especially when Saturn is also in your sign.  This is the part of you that conserves and protects and saves for a rainy day.  It’s also very conscientious and disciplined.  I imagine that you’re very good at what you do and always finish what you begin.

However the Aquarius rising tells a very different story.  When you have Aquarius rising then you can’t help but be a lightning rod for controversy and change.  Aquarius energy makes you much more open to the unpredictable energies that life can bring.  In fact—it may even invite it.  This is the side of you that revels in the diversity of life experiences and feels like you need to be doing something that’s truer to who you are.  I don’t think you lack vision as to what that true calling would be.  I suspect that you lack faith in your ability to make the changes you need to make to bring yourself into alignment with that life you want to live.

So how do you reconcile these two sides of yourself?  How do you find common ground between the need for consistency and security and the need to be doing something that makes you feel alive and enlightened?

Believe it or not I think the answer lies in your dilemma.  I think the reason you’re not catching a break is because you’re looking for a job that’s really a higher paying version of what you’re already doing.  I don’t know if that’s going to cut it with the Aquarian rising part of you.  I also think that the only way you’re going to move past the “money first; personal fulfillment later” mentality of the Sun/Saturn conjunction is by things becoming so unbearable in your work situation that you can’t help but pull up stakes and go in search of something more enriching.

I can see how your frustration is reaching the boiling point.  You have had certain planetary aspects going on upstairs that have been subtly tightening the thumbscrews.  My feeling is that there will be a breaking point in November 2011.  Breaking points are challenging, but they’re also necessary because it’s only by hitting the wall (so to speak) that we make the changes we always talk about making, but never really get around to doing.  November looks cathartic and liberating for you.  Yes, it will feel like somebody kicked over the game board in your life, but it will also bring to an end the constant compromising and juggling of circumstances that result in diminishing returns.  I think there’s a whole new career path out there waiting for you, but the only way that you’re going to find it is by going through the kind of world-rocking experience that only the planetary transits of this November can bring.  This is when I see the scales falling from your eyes and you recognizing that you can really do more if you would only give yourself the permission to pursue the kind of life work that you truly want to do.  Once you reconnect to your passion (remember that your Ruling Planet, the Moon, is in Aries) then there will be no stopping you.

I began talking with a man from a dating site who is a Leo (July 11).  He is the first man that I have been attracted to since the end of my last relationship 2 years ago.  I know Aries and Leo are turbulent at times and I have never actually dated a Leo.  Was hoping to get your input if there is any chance for this to work?  I'm very excited about this and don't want to mess it up with my pushy behavior!  My DOB is March 30, 1963.

I wouldn’t worry about coming on too strong with your prospective Leo love interest.  Leos have no problem standing their ground.  He’ll let you know if you’re being too pushy or demanding.  Besides he probably enjoys your spunk and spirit.

Meanwhile I’m surprised that you’ve never dated a Leo before.  You were born with your Ruling Planet Mars in Leo which means that going out with men born under this sign would be a natural fit.  You’ll feel like he just “gets” you right away while he will feel very comfortable and relaxed in your presence.  Leo men love feisty women with a lot of gumption and drive.  Like their namesake the lion, Leo men are more than happy to let their female counterparts take charge just as long as everyone knows who’s boss at the end of the day.

The wonderful thing about dating another fire sign (the fire signs are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius) is that this person is just as committed to being himself as you are to being yourself.  No one places such a high value on authenticity and individuality as a fire sign.  Fire signs are all about pursuing their passions, fulfilling themselves as individuals, and embracing their higher purpose in life.  Fire is the element of the spirit and it’s the fire signs that are driven most by their excitements and enthusiasms.  Sometimes this includes fighting, but that’s to be expected when two strong personalities get together.  The wonderful thing about fire signs is that they really don’t stay angry or hurt for long.  Resentments burn fast and furious in the moment and then they’re gone.

The only thing to keep in mind is the difference in Ruling Planets.  You’re a Child of Mars, so you’re always going to push for more.  Mars isn’t happy unless it’s going after something—whether it’s the object of your affection or the pursuit of happiness.  Mars children are afraid of losing their edge, which is why you don’t like to relax and why you prefer to keep things lean and mean.  You will fight for what is right.  Your friend, however, is a Child of the Sun.  He likes life just the way it is.  Leos can be ambitious, but they’re not big on self-improvement.  That’s because their Ruling Planet is really a Star and more specifically it’s the Star that all of the other planets happen to orbit around.  Sun Children see themselves as the center of everyone’s existence.  But this is not an ego thing.  When you think of how much we rely on the Sun for life then you’ll get a glimpse of why Leos take themselves so seriously. They see themselves as the solar batteries in everyone’s lives.  It’s a Sun Child’s job to bring heat and light and love to everyone around them.  Things don’t get done unless a Sun Child is on the scene just like the day can’t begin until the Sun rises on it.  Sun Children don’t fight for what’s right, because they are right.  It’s as simple as that.

If you can get into the headspace of letting yourself enjoy life, then you will have a lot of fun with your Leo man and your future will be golden.  My sense is that he’s here for the express purpose of reacquainting you with the joys and pleasures of being alive.  Sometimes the biggest challenge for an Aries to master is the challenge of taking it easy.  That challenge is steeper than it looks, but if anyone can teach you about the delights of basking in the heartwarming rays of the Sun—it’s a Leo man.

I'm wondering if I'm on the right track with my current studies of massage therapy?  School began in October 2010 and lasts for one year.  I'm asking because I'm having a difficult time with my studies.  It feels like the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.  Even though I really want to learn massage, I'm having a hard time with remembering all the techniques while the science classes come more easily to me.  Is there a square in my way or is it because I'm a Pisces?  3/19/57 @ 1:44 p.m., Harvey, IL.

It’s not every day that you hear a Pisces say that it’s the science classes that come more easily.  However this is explained by the fact that you were born with your Ruling Planet Jupiter in the analytical zodiac sign of Virgo.  Virgo is ruled by Mercury, planet of the mind.  When one has their Ruling Planet here like you do, then it’s very easy for you to absorb systems, formulas, and anything that lends itself to classification in a consistent and standardized way.  Virgo is also the zodiac sign of the body, so it makes perfect sense that you would be drawn to massage therapy.  You should have a natural aptitude for this sort of thing and it should really come quite easily.  So why isn’t it?

The simple Astrological answer is that you were born when your Ruling Planet Jupiter was in Virgo and when Mercury (the ruler of Virgo) was in Pisces.  What this means is that you were born when both planets were in detriment.  Detriment means that the planets are working at a disadvantage because they are placed in zodiac signs that are six signs away from where they should be.  This is what I call “out of season” and like with fruits and vegetables it simply says that the planets are not the best that they could be.  So does this mean your damaged goods?  Not at all.  If anything you possess a secret genius given that Jupiter and Mercury are in mutual reception.  This rare planetary aspect means that you will benefit from the natural talents and gifts that Jupiter and Mercury bring to the table.  But it won’t be in an orthodox or typical way.  You have to be ready to experiment with different ways of thinking when these two planets are opposite each other like they are in your horoscope.

You began your studies when Jupiter was in retrograde.  Indeed Jupiter was in retrograde in Pisces (passing right over your Sun) in October 2010.  The Jupiter in Pisces (your sign) says that this was clearly the right path to take.  However Jupiter was retrograde, which means that the time that you began your studies was a difficult time for you.  Retrogrades bring reversals, postponements, and delays.  You can almost think of a retrograde energy as paddling upstream against the river current or if you’re right handed, teaching yourself to write with your left hand.  It can be done, but it’s extremely difficult and things don’t come naturally.  Nevertheless you will succeed if you persevere.

I would strongly counsel you to trust in your “body” memory.  We all have different ways of remembering, different ways of retaining information.  Some of us remember with words.  Some of us remember with visuals.  And some of us remember with our bodies.  Body memory is something that shows up a lot with athletes, dancers, and musicians because they physically practice their craft to such an extent that the muscles and reflexes learn faster than the mind does.  The repetition of “doing” stores this information directly into the body parts that are being utilized so that a baseball pitcher doesn’t think twice about the act of pitching any more than a pianist has to study where to put the fingers on the keys.  Memory comes in the “doing”.  I suspect that if you were to let yourself just “do” massage, then you will bypass that more analytical side of your brain and get into the creative energy flow of the massage itself.

Now there can be a “this or that” disconnect to the sort of opposition that you have in your horoscope.  You may feel that you have to either be analytical or intuitive in your approach and the simple truth is that you can be both.  You were born under Jupiter—the planet of incorporation—which means that if you were to simply expand your mental margins then you’ll see how your thinking shifts from this OR that to this AND that.  The magic of being a Child of Jupiter is that you have a natural ability to weave all the disparate strands of thoughts, feelings, intuition and pragmatism into an overall holistic experience.  It’s this rich and varied tapestry that will serve you in the end.

I'm hoping that you can help me figure out what needs to be done to heal the multiple lifetime karma between my ex husband and myself. I'm not sure how much of a part our son plays, but I suspect that he plays a big part.  My hope is that we can work out our karma in this lifetime, so that we can move past it in a good way.  

We were all in a tragic car accident in 1973, when our son was just 7 months old.  My ex fell asleep at the wheel of the car and as a result my ex became a quadriplegic and our son has a traumatic brain injury that affects him still.  My ex was born on 5/1/55, my son was born on 3/30/73, and I was born on 2/8/54.

I am so sorry to hear about this car accident.  It saddens me to learn how your life was turned upside down in an instant and that this tragic episode took such a heavy and exacting toll.

It makes perfect sense that you would want to know what the point of all of this is.  You were born under the astrological sign of Aquarius and Aquarians believe that there is a greater design at work in our lives, that nothing happens by chance, and that there is an explanation for everything.

I don’t have an explanation for why this accident happened.  And I have too much respect for the mystery and history of karma to offer you one along those lines.  Personally I get very uncomfortable when the subject of karma and past lives comes up.  It’s not that I don’t believe in it.  It’s a fascinating and intriguing subject.  But I don’t know if any of us is truly in a position to comment on anyone else’s karma—much less their past lives.  In my experience I often find that people—although well meaning—seize upon this concept to draw a moral to the tale that allows them to put the onus on the sufferer while distancing themselves from the question of why bad things happen.  One person trying to decipher another’s Karmic lesson puts me in mind of Job’s friends who gather around Job in his lowest moment of abject despair to speculate about what he must have done wrong to make God so unhappy.  I don’t like the way that karma can be turned into a blame game.

Astrology won’t tell us why things happen.  Astrology tells us about when things happen and that’s because Astrology is a calendar.  It was designed to help us navigate our way in a world beset by the vicissitudes of fortune.  It shows us that there is through-line in the chaos and that things that come around once eventually come around again.  Astrology truly is our Wheel in the Sky that keeps on turning.

What strikes me about year 1973 and the date that you give (I’m counting 7 months from your son’s birth) is that the accident happened in late summer.  I also see that you and your husband were undergoing an eclipse cycle that was moving through the zodiac signs of Cancer and Capricorn.  Indeed the lunar eclipse in July of that year casts its shadow across the south node in your horoscope (23 degrees Cancer) and your husband’s Uranus (which is also at 23 degrees Cancer).  Uranus is the planet of “what I don’t expect” and Cancer is the sign of hearth, home, and family.  This kind of energy can bring a sudden and shocking split.

So there is a greater design at work.  But what does it mean?  

The meaning is what you make of it.  I think it’s interesting that you would be asking this question at a time when the current eclipse cycle is winding up its stay in Capricorn and Cancer.  This infers a return to the event that took place in 1973.  Perhaps you’re being given an opportunity to come to terms with what happened so many years ago and to move on?  I don’t know if you talk to your Ex husband much, but you may want to consider a phone call or an in-person visit?  Maybe a discussion with your son right now may shine a different light on the matter?  There could be something in what they say to you right now that would carry a great deal of meaning and resonance.

Whatever our past lives or karma, the thing that matters most is the life that we’re living now.  The car accident stole your hopes and wishes for a happy and healthy family, but it didn’t take away your family.  Married or not; living at home or not—they are still here for you and touching base with them now will probably give you the understanding that you’re looking for.

I am a Leo (7/30/1970) but I have always considered myself a very mild mannered Leo; more interested in getting along with people rather than dominating them.  I place a high value on manners and consideration for others in both the work place (I have a stressful job) and in my regular life as well.  I believe in being nice.  I consider myself pretty easy going and have been told I am a good communicator.  But as I get older I have noticed that not all people can act in the same manner.  No biggie, I just go about my business.  However the older I get, the more difficult it has become.  Sometimes it feels like I am actually attracting these nasty people into my life more and more.  It’s gotten to the point where I find myself in situations where someone is screaming at me and making personal attacks.  It’s happened 3 times in less than a year.  So why do I attract these seriously unstable, nasty people?  Can you tell me how to handle this or if I can change its course?

Someone screaming at you and making personal attacks is a problem.  But the problem doesn’t lie with you.  The problem lies with the person who is screaming at you.  If you find yourself attracting seriously unstable and nasty people, then you need to do something about the situations you find yourself in.  If someone behaves inappropriately at work, for instance, then there are certain things that you can do to re-establish professional boundaries.  You may want to meet with someone in HR to get some ideas or ask you boss for direction on how to handle matters. If this is something that happens in your friendships, then you can choose to stop socializing with this person.  There is nothing written into the social contract that says that you have to abide by others’ misbehavior.

It’s hard to not feel responsible when you’re a Leo.  Your Ruling Planet is the Sun and as a Child of the Sun you want everyone to like you.  You believe in accenting the positive and you want to bring heat and light to your relationships, not Sturm und Drang.  As a Child of the Sun you naturally attract people into your life.  When you remember that the planets orbit the Sun in our solar system and that our days and nights revolve around this burning star, then you get an idea of how much people will turn to you for love, respect, and approval. You might also get an idea of how some people could resent that.  They may envy your happiness and confidence or use the fact that you will always be upstanding as an excuse to be beastly.

You were born with Mars, the planet of willpower, conjunct the Sun in your horoscope.  When you have Mars near the Sun like you do then you will give off the impression that you are stronger than you actually are.  People will see you as a take-charge type of personality who’s driven and tough and who can “take it.”  But that is not the way that you see yourself.   When you have Mars near the Sun like you do, then Mars falls under the rays of the Sun so that all of that combat and drive that’s connected to the warrior planet disappears from view because all you see is the Sun.  You can almost think of it as a personal blind spot.  You see yourself as mild-mannered and easy going—because you don’t see the Mars; however others may react to you as being arrogant and single-minded in a “my way or the highway” sort of way and that’s because they see the Mars that you don’t.

The solution is to own your Mars.  It’s true that Mars was named after the warrior god in Roman mythology and he certainly had a reputation for stirring the pot.  However the plus side to owning your Mars is that it sends a “don’t mess with me” message and that might not be a bad idea now if you feel like the people in your life are overstepping their boundaries.  I am certain that if someone truly had a problem with the way that you are acting then you would make a sincere effort to sit down with that person and get to the bottom of things.  But if someone is just acting out to act out, then you really shouldn’t be wasting any time or energy on this person.  There’s nothing wrong with having fewer friends or deciding not to socialize with people you consider to be untrustworthy.  In fact many might say that being choosier about company you keep is the wisest way to go.

I am curious about my daughter (DOB 4/5/90).  She has always struck me as an older, wiser soul.  She is an only child and as she is moving out into the world and finding her way socially I am seeing where that fire energy of hers is getting channeled.  Will this girl slow down long enough to build anything?  Is there a time period in her life when things will get easier?  Or is this level of frustration with life not happening quickly enough-- along with endless disappointments with the opposite sex-- her destiny?

The world always moves too slowly for anyone born under Aries.  That’s because your daughter’s Ruling Planet is Mars, the planet of gumption and drive.  Mars children are driven by their passions and their need to get on out there and make things happen.  Although Aries is often portrayed as aggressive and domineering in most Astrology books, people born under this sign are usually quite shy and self-deprecating.  Aries women in particular tend to put themselves down.  This is because Mars is a male planet (men are from Mars remember?) and so they feel like they have to apologize for being too assertive or strong-willed.  One of the things that Aries women have to work on is giving themselves permission to be the powerful personalities that they are.

Another thing that Aries women have to work on is the way that they relate to men and women.  Like I said Mars is a man’s planet so it’s likely that your daughter has an easier time relating to men than she does relating to women.  Men recognize the Mars energy in her and so they feel comfortable striking up a conversation or just hanging out in her presence.  I would imagine that your daughter has a lot of male friends and acquaintances.  But just because your daughter friends men well, doesn’t mean that she will romance them well and this is where gender roles and cultural expectations can get in the way if she’s not careful.  Once things become defined in a “now I’m the guy and you’re the girl” type of relationship then your daughter’s going to run into trouble.  Why?  Well, simply put her Ruling Planet Mars energy means that she’s better at being a guy than the guy is.  This can turn into a power struggle if both parties aren’t comfortable with their identities.  If your daughter is experiencing disappointments with the opposite sex then it’s because she has yet to grow into her Mars energy (i.e. her assertiveness).  Once she does that then she’ll see a major sea change in her romantic relationships.  Things will improve in her late 20s when she will experience more of the easy-going camaraderie and love of adventure that one sees in Aries relationships.

Meanwhile your daughter’s Mars energy can wreak havoc on her relationships with women if she’s not vigilant.  This is because women may feel threatened by the easy rapport she has with men and suspect her of ulterior motives (like trying to steal their boyfriends).  Again this has more to do with social stereotyping than it does with your daughter’s behavior.  Nevertheless it’s something she should keep an eye on if there’s a pattern of girlfriends turning on her for no apparent reason or if she finds herself the target of female ire in the “mean girls” syndrome vein. 

Your daughter was born with three planets in Capricorn so things will get easier for her once she’s into her 30s.  This is also reinforced by the fact that her Ruling Planet Mars is in Aquarius, which like Capricorn, is a Saturn-ruled sign.  Life always gets better with age when you’re born with a strong Saturn imprint.  Meanwhile you shouldn’t worry too much about your Aries daughter.  Children of Mars know how to take care of themselves.  Scraped elbows and bruised knees are de rigueur for their personal growth and psychic evolution.  Facing life’s challenges head-on is the very thing that spurs them into becoming such dynamic and intrepid personalities.

I am really trying to stay connected with my boyfriend.  His birthday is 6/11/1964 and mine is 1/4/1967.  When I am around him I am very calm for the most part, however I get stressed at times thinking about what he may be thinking and if he is ok with our relationship.  I am working on getting my finances in order and figuring out if I should file bankruptcy or what the next step should be.  My boyfriend will bring this up about every 3 months and complain that he feels like l have been letting this part of my life go and not dealing with it is upsetting for him.  I need advice on how to handle this relationship issue.

Money is the number one cause for break-ups and divorce.  It’s a highly charged and personal issue that can’t help but bring up feelings of self-worth, value, trust, and respect.  It sounds to me like you want your boyfriend to keep his nose out of your financial business.  As you say in your question you are trying to decide if you want to file for bankruptcy or not and that’s a pretty heavy decision to make—especially for a Capricorn.  On the other hand it sounds like your boyfriend doesn’t feel like you’re handling this in a timely fashion and he may have a point if he’s bringing this up every 3 months or so.  Filing for bankruptcy would change the relationship between you two and it could put you in a position where you are beholden to him and he is responsible for you.  I can understand how that could be stressful.

Capricorns tend to procrastinate when it comes to facing a decision that they don’t want to make.  This becomes compounded by feelings of guilt and inadequacy which are the telltale characteristics of your Ruling Planet, Saturn.  These feelings can make you defensive and off-putting.  My concern is that you would spend so much time feeling bad about your money decisions that your financial situation could worsen—putting you more into debt and increasing your dependence on your boyfriend.  This isn’t conducive to a healthy relationship.

Your boyfriend was born under Gemini and his Ruling Planet is Mercury.  As a Child of Mercury he’s going to want to help you with your problem and the sooner, the better.  It probably hurts him that you don’t take his advice (Mercury is the messenger planet) and that the money issue has now becomes a liability—both financially and emotionally.   It’s important to remember at times like this that you are in a partnership, after all, which means that to some extent your business is his business and vice-versa.

You need to decide if you want your boyfriend’s input or not.  If you do, fine; if not, then tell him so.  Your next step is to take action to work out your finances and to keep him in the loop with what you are doing.  This will assure him that you are doing something proactive and not just adopting the ostrich policy (i.e. burying your head in the sand).  Follow these simple steps and you will see the stress level in your relationship decrease—probably by late July or early August 2011.  You may also learn a very important lesson about trust.

I am a Virgo born 9-4-1970 in Fairbanks Alaska.  I feel like I am picking up the pieces from a very difficult time in our family.  It mostly had to do with our daughter born on April 9, 1993 in Sumner, WA.  What is next for us?  Will the rest of the year (years) be an improvement??  Is she destined to be a famous actress or is all this just the dark side of raising a Mars child?  Help me understand her better please!

I can see where life with your daughter has been a bit of an adventure.  She has had an extraordinary line-up of planets passing through her zodiac sign this year and these energies would have made her extremely temperamental, challenging, and nearly impossible to please.  Thankfully things should settle down after July 14, 2011.  You will still have a rough patch ahead in late August, but this will be during the time when the Sun is traveling through your sign, Virgo, so your daughter will be easier for you to manage.  She will have to follow what you say.

I don’t need to tell you that your daughter has an extremely willful personality.  She comes by this naturally being a Child of Mars, but there are a couple of other factors as well—like the cardinal squares invoking Mars (her Ruling Planet) as well as Uranus and Neptune in her horoscope.  This gives her a great deal of strength, power, and purpose once she grows into her horoscope.  The challenge of course is maintaining your sanity until she comes into her own.

Your daughter was also born when her Sun was at nineteen degrees Aries.  Nineteen degrees Aries is considered to be an “exalted” degree in Astrology which means that the Sun is the most powerful here.  It’s the sort of placement that one would want if one wanted to pursue a future in the arts and entertainment.  Your daughter’s Mars in Cancer trining her Moon in Scorpio and Mercury in Pisces shows that film would be the way to go.  I would imagine that your daughter is very photogenic.

Your daughter’s Mars in Cancer also says that she actually does listen to you.  She doesn’t want to, but she knows that you’re pretty much right about things.  The best way to reach your daughter is to engage her through her mind and to engage her through her work.  Aries rules the head and you were born under Virgo, which is ruled by Mercury—the planet of the mind.  Translation?  Your daughter gets you on an intellectual level, BUT you have to speak to her in positives and not prohibitives.  In other words you need to find the two to three things that she’s doing right in her life (whatever they are) and to get behind those in terms of your support and encouragement. You will get a lot further encouraging her to go for what she wants then you will by listing all the reasons why she can’t pursue her ambitions.  

But don’t hand things to your daughter on a silver platter.  She has to make an investment, too.  For instance you might begin by telling her that if she wants to pursue acting seriously then she’s going to have to raise the money for her own head shots.  This may require her getting a summer job so she can do this.  Or maybe you make an agreement with her that she takes the summer to appear in plays or showcases in order to hone her craft.  These are just a couple of different ways that you can steer and direct her energies so that they are going in a more creative direction rather than a combative one.

Rest assured that you daughter will be successful once she marshals these energies that are now running rampant through her horoscope.  It will take a few years-- and a lot of time and fortitude-- but it will be worth it in the end.  One of the best things that you can do as a parent is to believe in your child even if she doesn’t believe that you believe in her and to try to show her the way even it looks like she won’t follow.  It may not feel like she’s listening now, but she is and she’ll thank you for your faith, persistence, and patience in the years to come.

I am finding the older I get the less tolerant I am.  I find myself sticking up for myself more and stating and sticking to my opinion no matter if it helps or hurts people.  I used to be a person who had to please and make sure everyone else was ok before my needs.   I also am learning to pick my battles and to not care about what others think of my opinions.  What has happened?  My life if filled with Geminis and my other half is a Scorpio.  DOB July 30, 1970

Getting older and becoming less tolerant is a byproduct of aging.  It comes with time, routine, and fatigue.  This is why it’s so important to keep a limber mind and an open heart.  As stretching and flexibility become a must for the body as you grow older, the same is equally true for the psyche.  You want your muscles to be pliable, not rigid.  Rigidity—in body and mind—puts you at risk for injury.

Sticking up for yourself and sticking to your opinion no matter if it helps or hurts people isn’t a very good place to be.  It tells me that you aren’t listening nor are you taking responsibility for your words and actions.  You may think that this is empowering, but it’s not.  It’s a false strength that would be analogous to a child blurting out what he says and then cupping his ears and talking at the same time as the other person in order to drown out what he has to say.

The simple truth is that you’re always going to care about people’s opinions and you’re always going to want to make them happy.  You’re a Leo, a Child of the Sun, and it’s your mission to bring heat and light to people’s lives.  You’re the solar battery that energizes them.  You give them love and strength and purpose.  This is why people come to you seeking your approval, your thoughts, and your opinions.  You couldn’t abdicate this responsibility if you tried.

If your life is filled with Geminis then that means you value their inquisitive minds.  Geminis are always playing with words and ideas.  This is a good sign because Geminis will always introduce flexibility and keep you playful—even when you’re feeling frustrated and surly.  And if your other half is a Scorpio then that says that you aren’t quite the pushover you think you are because a Scorpio will always challenge you to be your true and authentic self.  This doesn’t always sit well with Leos because they want their authentic selves to be warm and golden—like the Sun.  Yet your Scorpio other half is going to insist that you show every aspect of yourself—warts and all.  This insistence that you own your dark side as well as your light is one of the great lessons in self-acceptance that only a Scorpio can teach.  Scorpios are famous for keeping life real.

My advice would to be to value the people in your life.  It sounds like you’re in good company.  It can get frustrating balancing your needs with the needs of others, but this is an ongoing process in life.  It’s how we learn to transfer our energies from confrontation to cooperation.

I am terrified to go to the dentist.  I really am in need of lots of dental work.  Can you tell me when would be a good time for me to look for a dentist?  I have not had the best of luck, it seems things always go wrong with the work they do.  DOB 8/30/1949 born in KY

The best time for you to look for a dentist would be after June 12, 2011 when Saturn comes out of retrograde.  Saturn is the planet that rules teeth and right now it is traveling backwards through the zodiac sign of Libra.  Retrograde refers to a backwards motion and it’s really not the best time to start anything new which is why I recommend that you wait until June 12 before you start your search.  

After the 12th things look good because Saturn is exalted in Libra.  Exaltations are always positive because it means that the planet is on its best behavior when it’s in this zodiac sign.  Instead of working against you, Saturn will be working for you.  This is made all the more favorable when I see that you were born with your Ruling Planet Mercury in Libra in your horoscope.  Translation?  Your Ruling Planet Mercury in Libra gives you strength and protection so that the affiliation between Mercury and Saturn at this time ensures that things should turn out better than they have before vis-à-vis your dental health.

I think it’s a good idea to interview dentists in person before you sit down in that chair.  This is the best way to separate the wheat from the chaff.  Any dentist who can’t make the time to meet with you is clearly a dentist that you don’t want to be working with.  Most dentists nowadays understand people’s apprehensions and are happy to walk you through what they do.  I believe that this would go a long way towards putting you at ease.  You need to be at ease with the person who will be doing all of this work—especially considering the tremendous investment of your time and money.  Do this and you’ll feel more informed, empowered, and like the dentist is your friend.  This will make all the difference in the world and turn a potentially frightening experience into a productive one.

I am a Gemini, born 5/23/1966 and my husband of 25 years is a Pisces, born 3/2/1967.  We have owned and operated our business together since 1993, which provides beautiful unique custom services that touch people's and communities hearts and our products and services have always been commended and sought after year after year.  And even with a slow economy, our small business has survived the struggles.  Since 2007, we have been on a slow down slope and it seems now that we are at the bottom and don't know how we can climb again.  We have always handled finances with difficulties, with different opinions, with arguments, never agreeing to how to pay bills or even how to bring in more sales.  We both want to be the boss.  We think and work in such a different way of each other, we are very opposite in so many ways.  After so many years of "just working" and "just living" comfortable but never reaching a peak, will we ever reach a financial peak and finally get out of a small business slump?  And will we ever get over the financial arguments?

Arguments come with any creative collaboration.  It doesn’t matter if you’re in business with your husband, best friend, or a complete stranger.  If a creative collaboration is truly creative (and not just stagnant) then the two people involved will inevitably argue.  It’s the friction that keeps the fires burning.

You and your husband were born under zodiac signs that form a square to each other.  Squares symbolize conflict because one sign is always trying to overpower the other sign in order to get its way.  Think of it as two people who find themselves handcuffed to each other and on the lam like in Hitchcock’s 39 Steps or the movie The Defiant Ones with Tony Curtis and Sidney Poitier.  You will never really see eye-to-eye so the square forces you to find a way to make the relationship work.  This may sound like it flies in the face of what we see as being a “healthy” relationship, but I have seen squares work as the lively dynamic that keeps a partnership or marriage up and running long after other relationships have petered out.  Yes the fighting can get tedious and exhausting at times, but there’s no question that you and your husband are in each other’s corner given that one of his Ruling Planets, Jupiter, is in Cancer which is the zodiac sign that follows yours, which is Gemini.   This is a very strong bond and it will get you through the rough passages.

I would imagine that you have had a hard time with your business since September 2007.  This is when Saturn, the planet of tests, entered Virgo and began forming challenging aspects to your Sun in Gemini and your husband’s Sun in Pisces.  Although Saturn left Virgo last summer (2010) you guys still had to contend with the Jupiter and Uranus conjunction at 29 degrees Pisces on January 4, 2011.  This may have been when you felt like hit rock bottom with your business.  I wouldn’t be surprised if your husband floated out the idea of closing up shop—which is something you would have found untenable.

Thankfully your husband’s Ruling Planet Jupiter enters the very industrious (and money-making) sign of Taurus on June 4, 2011.  I can’t tell if this reflects an increase in your business or if this is when he gets another job to supplement your income but Jupiter in Taurus should definitely bring a brighter financial picture.  Nevertheless you two have some very big decisions to make vis-à-vis your business this year and you should know what’s what by November 25, 2011.

It’s important when you’re in business with a spouse to keep your personal affairs and your business affairs separate.  It’s hard not to feel that if only one of you had been more cooperative or supportive or forward thinking or etc that you two would have been able to avoid the obstacles thrown your way.  This is not the case.  That Saturn in Virgo was very difficult and impacted all of the mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo, Sagittarius, and Pisces) very hard.  Moreover I happen to think that you and your husband really do balance out each other’s perspectives by questioning, arguing, and haggling over the details in your different approach to things.  That said it’s abundantly clear that you two will have to do some major re-thinking when it comes to the future of your business.  This will probably involve a new business model, expanding your clientele through PR and outreach, as well as updating your mission statement.  Every business has to evolve and grow in order to survive and flourish.  Reinvention is the key to success.  If you and your husband can get into the spirit of this—which means discussing, debating, and brainstorming—then I think you guys will find that you’re out of your slump and heading towards a whole new peak in later 2012 and 2013.

My birthday is March 3rd, 1980 and I am from Seattle, WA.  I would like to know if the rest of 2011 is going to get better. This year has not been as good to me as I thought it would be. My job is stressing me out more than ever and I'm not feeling fulfilled as I once did.  I would greatly appreciate your insight.

Thankfully your year improves when your Ruling Planet Jupiter enters the zodiac sign of Taurus on June 4, 2011.  This will do a lot to make you feel like you’re back on solid ground financially, however you may still be grappling with some larger-than-life questions.

Jupiter is the planet of good fortune and higher purpose in Astrology.  When you’re a Child of Jupiter then it is very important that you believe in what you do for a living and that you feel fulfilled both spiritually and financially.  If you don’t feel that then something’s wrong and you need to change course so that you can get your life back on track.

You were born with Jupiter in Virgo which means that you have a knack for finding jobs and for making yourself indispensable in them.  You may be drawn to the health or service professions or anything having to do with sales, consulting, and media.  You need a lot of mental stimulus doing whatever it is you do and you would gravitate towards jobs where you are always “on the run” or have to race to meet your deadlines.  The downside to this is that you can get so caught up in the job that you end up feeling like you’re a hamster on an exercise wheel where you’re running in place but getting nowhere fast.  This is something that I see happen repeatedly to people whose Ruling Planets are in Virgo.  They can wind up working hard at working hard with little to show for it.

You have another Ruling Planet—Neptune.  If Jupiter is the planet of “what I believe” in Astrology, then Neptune is the planet of “what I yearn for”.  There’s a visionary element to Neptune which is why it’s often derided for being too dreamy or “pie-in-the-sky” for its own good.  But that’s because people don’t really understand the power and purpose of Neptune and now that Neptune is in its own sign again after 156 years—they will.  When you’re born with Neptune in Sagittarius like you were then you really do need to feel like there’s a higher purpose to doing what you do for a living.  And though it’s no fun feeling the frustration level rise like it has been doing since the start of 2011, it’s pretty clear that the planets are pushing you to make something of your dreams and to live according to your higher purpose.

This may sound a bit “out there” but being a Pisces with Jupiter in Virgo means that you have to feed your soul as well as your bank account.  And the creative challenge is to find a way to do both.  Like I said you’re in luck because Jupiter moves into Taurus this June and over the summer it will form a trine to your own Jupiter in Virgo.  Not only will you discover an opportunity to pursue a more higher purpose driven life, but it looks there’s money in it as well.

Let yourself think big and push yourself to think outside the box as well.  Focus on the words “cause”, “creativity”, and “community” and you can’t go wrong.  The Stars aren’t too subtle when it comes to trying to get their message across, but I’m pretty sure they’re telling you that you’ve outgrown the life you’ve been living.  It’s time to live the life you want to live; rather than the one you feel like you have to live.  And there’s no better time to do that than now.

Can you tell me what’s in store for my partner in the next 6-months?  He's been up, down, and all around.  His DOB is 11-13-53.  Mine is 07-28-59.

There are a couple of things that are going on in the Stars right now that could contribute to your partner’s emotional ups and downs and all arounds.

The first is that your partner is currently “out of season.”  What that means is that the Sun is now traveling through the zodiac sign of Taurus (April 20 through May 20) and Taurus is six signs away from your partner’s zodiac sign Scorpio.  We all feel a drop in vitality during that time of year when the Sun is opposite our zodiac sign in the sky.  For instance, you’re a Child of the Sun, a Leo, and you may feel very on top of the world in the summer (which is when you are “in season”) but out of sorts in the winter (which is when you are “out of season”).  The same would hold true for your partner.  He may feel alive and raring to go in the fall but insecure and moody in the spring.

Adding to this is the fact that one of your partner’s Ruling Planets, Pluto, is in Capricorn.  Capricorn (like Scorpio) tends to be heavy and depressed in temperament and people can get morbid and self-critical when Pluto is in this sign.  Moreover your partner’s Pluto in Capricorn is forming a square to his other Ruling Planet, Mars, in Libra, so this is apt to make him even more withdrawn and solitary.  He’s not going to be much of a happy camper these days.

Talk to him-- but don’t try to talk him out of the mood that he’s in.  This will be a tall order for you because you’re a Child of the Sun.  As a Child of the Sun you believe that the Sun will always rise on a new day and your antidote to depression is to do something upbeat and fun.  As a Child of the Sun you will want to warm him with your heat and light and to lead him in a more positive direction.

This doesn’t work with Scorpios.  If anything he will tend to get darker the more you try to get lighter and this can turn into a fight that neither of you will really want to have.  The reason Scorpios do this is because they don’t like it when people try to talk them out of their feelings.  It undermines the validity of their deep and dark experiences.

Solution?  Get him to talk and let him unload and unburden.  That’s all he really needs to do.  He doesn’t expect you to have the answer to his life questions.  He just wants you to understand.  Lend him an ear (along with a shoulder to lean on) and this will do a lot to alleviate the tension between you.  Meanwhile rest assured that your partner will be in a much better headspace this fall.  Not only will he be back “in season” after the autumnal equinox (September 23rd), but Pluto won’t be leaning so heavily on his Mars like it has been these past few weeks.  This will come as a relief to him and you.

My husband was born April 4, 1975 and I was born February 13, 1975.  What do you see for us in the coming years?

You are both moving into a time when you are truly coming into yourselves as individuals.  It looks like you are finally getting to a place in life where you feel like you get to be you.  The past few years haven’t been easy as you have felt overburdened by heavy obligations and responsibilities.  These obligations and responsibilities appear to have been tied to your family.  Loved ones’ problems were your problems—whether you chose this or not—which means that you felt duty bound to help them out; perhaps even at your own expense.  This cycle ends after the solar eclipse on July 1, 2011 when it appears that you will be free and clear of this weighty energy that’s been dominating your life.

Meanwhile your husband is experiencing a personal renaissance of sorts.  On January 22, 2011 Jupiter entered the zodiac sign of Aries and it was closely followed by Mercury, Uranus, the Sun, Mars, and Venus.  This line-up of planets is very rare so your husband is feeling the urge to pursue a new direction in his life.  Sometimes these planets light a fire under one’s feet and sometimes they just say “hey—you’re on a bus heading in the wrong direction and you need to get off it and board the right one now!”  Needless to say there can be a lot of surprise upsets and blind leaps over the furniture during this period of time.  This energy will stabilize in mid May.

So what does this mean for the two of you?  You are coming out of a time when you didn’t feel like you got to be yourself and your husband’s in a time when he feels like he has to make some major changes if he’s going to live an authentic life.  This is great if you guys are on the same page with all of this.  If not, then it could get a bit bumpy between now and November 2011.

Your marriage is being tested right now.  Saturn is hovering over your Pluto in Libra (Libra is the sign of marriage) and it is testing the strength of your bond.  The good news is that your husband’s Ruling Planet Mars in Aquarius is conjunct your Sun in Aquarius.  This is one of the strongest planetary bonds that you can hope to have between horoscopes.  However I think it’s worth asking if “coming into yourselves” is something that can be done together?  In other words can you support each other in your efforts to be true to who you are as individuals?  Each of us is still an individual-- even in a marriage.  Sometimes we have to wear our “couples cap” and sometimes we have to wear our “I’ve got to be me” cap.  Support each other in your journey to fulfill yourselves as individuals and you will see your marriage take on a whole new life in the fall.  Marriages, like people, go through growth cycles too.  Growing pains may not be fun, but they ultimately lead to a richness, maturity, and love that will last throughout your entire lifetime.

Can you give me some insight into spiritual breakthroughs and shifts of consciousness to higher states that you see for me in the next 12-24 months?  DOB 1/10/65 Place of Birth Bangalore, India

You were born under the zodiac sign of Capricorn which means that you are a Child of Saturn.  In the original line up of seven planets, Saturn was the slowest moving—which is why he was associated with old age.  Sometimes this meant wisdom (many Children of Saturn are “old” souls) and sometimes this meant a cantankerous personality.  As a Child of Saturn you may tend to be critical and skeptical because you have been disappointed so many times.  This can make you wary and full of doubt.  It could even lead to a pessimistic view of life.  But the reason you’re like this is because you secretly believe that there is more to life than what you see in front of you.  Indeed you can feel it—and on a very deep and profound level.  But how can you access that in a way that you know is real?

You were born with your Ruling Planet Saturn in the mystical sign of Pisces.  Pisces is ruled by Neptune—the planet of “what I yearn for.”  It’s clear from this planetary placement that you truly want to experience a spiritual breakthrough and a shift in consciousness.  But that experience isn’t going to come to you as some eye-opening epiphany where the clouds part and you suddenly see your future path stretching out before you.  That is a more Uranian experience.  Neptunian experiences tend to be “drowsy”, because Neptune rules the collective Unconscious.  The planet of visions and visionaries, Neptune speaks to us through our daydreams, our imagination, the music that we’re listening to, a compelling picture, or maybe even the play of light on the water.  Neptune can also speak to us through fantasies, drugs, and alcohol—which is why you always want to be careful. 

Are you looking for fulfillment?  Escape?  A connection to your higher purpose?  These questions would make perfect sense because Neptune has just entered Pisces.  The last time Neptune was in Pisces was 156 years ago.  Neptune in Pisces will stir up all of these soulful energies and they will have an especially powerful impact on you because you were born with your Saturn at 2 degrees Pisces.  You will feel a tug at your soul as you try to answer Neptune’s siren call, but keep in mind that Neptune is the planet of illusion and disillusionment.  Visions in the desert don’t necessarily translate into our day-to-day lives.  Thankfully you were born under Saturn and it’s Saturn’s job to bring those visions down to earth where you can make something of them.

Your journey begins on April 4, 2011, however Neptune’s retrograde from June 3, 2011 to November 9, 2011 could leave you feeling like you answered a dropped call.  Don’t give up hope, because you will pick up the signal again when Neptune re-enters Pisces on February 4, 2012.  Neptune passes over your Saturn at 2 degrees Pisces on April 3, 2012.  This is when you will finally begin to drink from those waters and experience for yourself the insights and fulfillment that Neptune can bring.

My birthday is April 11, 1956 in Oceanside CA and my sister's is Oct 23, 1959 in Pensacola FL.  We do not have much contact with each other.  I know that I am scary to her and recently I offended her.  I usually just give her lots of space.  Do you have any other ideas?

Did you consider apologizing?  This is not an easy thing for a Child of Mars to do, because it connotes weakness.  But it sounds like you’re feeling guilty about offending your sister and that it may be time to do something more proactive than just giving her lots of space.  You might want to reach out across the aisle and offer her an olive branch.

You were born under the planet Mars and Mars was named after the Roman god of war.  Now this doesn’t necessarily mean that you go looking for a fight.  On the contrary, Children of Mars will usually go out of their way to avoid confrontations because you guys know all too well what can happen when you lose your temper.  You can go into a kind of berserker fury when you just won’t stop until you’ve had your say and vented everything you felt like you needed to vent.  There’s a kind of scorched earth policy when it comes to these knockdown drag-outs and that’s because when you fight you fight for high stakes.  Yet what people often don’t notice about your temper is that it cools down just as quickly as it heats up.  You can be angry one moment and then over it the next.  Unfortunately others aren’t as quick to recover and this is where you can start to feel ashamed, guilty, and maybe even suspicious that they might be making a bigger deal out of their hurt feelings than necessary in order to manipulate you.

It is not your sister’s job to manage your anger.  If you know that you can be scary and a tad offensive on occasion then you have to take responsibility for that and the best way to show accountability is to apologize.  Apologizing is not a sign of weakness.  If anything it’s a sign of strength because it shows that you know that you overstepped the line.  Now your sister knows you well enough to know that you aren’t going to act any differently or repress what you feel.  She can no more soften you than you can get her to toughen up.  You have two entirely different approaches to life which is reflected by the fact that you and your sister were born under opposite zodiac signs.  You were born under Aries and she was born under Libra.  Opposite sign relationships are the most volatile relationships in Astrology and they bring with them a make-or-break intensity.  Given the difference in temperaments, I would say that limited contact suits you both.  I don’t think either of you really wants to play a bigger part in the other one’s life which then begs the question: is it really that hard to be on your best behavior when you’re around her?  I think you’ll find that it’s a lot easier than having to kiss and make up.

I have been very unhappy with my job for a long time.  I just recently moved to a different boss, whom I worked for in the past, and my unhappiness has decreased-- but not by much.  I am thinking of a career change, but am having a hard time finding something that I am passionate about that would also provide me with sufficient income.  Is there anything in particular that would be a good match for me? 9/15/84

Virgos often put the cart before the horse when it comes to doing what they truly want to do in life.  Virgo is an earth sign and earth signs are driven by the question of how do you live in a world where everything falls apart.  Earth signs (the other two are Taurus and Capricorn) are desperately afraid of not having enough.  This is why they focus on making sure that there’s food on the table, a roof over their head, and a bed to sleep in at night.  Earth sign people are industrious, resourceful, and extremely responsible.  But they can also neglect those talents and skills that are not in strict adherence to the formula for success that they’ve set up.  This would be OK if the paycheck is all you care about, but it creates a very real quandary if you find yourself yearning for greater fulfillment at work.

You’re a Child of Mercury.  You could make money at just about anything you set your mind to.  But you have to set your mind to it and not talk yourself out of it because what you aspire to doesn’t look like it will pay the bills.  Your insecurity about security can get in the way of maximizing your talents and abilities and will wind up shortchanging you in the end if you’re not careful.

On June 4, 2011 Jupiter will enter the zodiac sign of Taurus.  This will bring more money into your life which makes this an excellent time to commit to what you really want to do for a living because you will make money at it right away.  It won’t be that “sufficient income” that you’re looking for, but it will be something that you can build on.  This could be part-time work or even some business that you do on the side.  However if you stay in your current position (or even find a job in a similar field) then the income will rise in such a way as to keep things suitably comfortable.  Jupiter in Taurus is good news for your bank account, but it’s not a risk taking energy.  It would be up to you to step out of your comfort zone and to take the plunge.

As for career possibilities?  Ongoing intellectual stimulation is a must.  Something that involves a revolving door of new projects and endeavors would be ideal as it looks like you enjoy research, brainstorming and development.  You also need to be out and about and talking to people.  Sitting behind a desk is deadly dull.  It’s not too difficult to do this, but you need to take off the blinders.  You’d be able to make a lot more money if you let your creative energies take full flight.

My birthday is March 30, 1963, my ex-husband’s is March 29, 1954 and my son was born on August 9, 2001.  My son and I live in East Haven, CT and my ex lives in Wallingford, CT (I think).  We divorced several years back and he stopped seeing my son 4- 1/2 years ago.  He keeps claiming he will do the right thing but never does.  Can I expect anything more at this point?

I don’t think you should expect anything from your ex-husband.  4 ½ years is a long time to go without seeing his son and that pretty much backs up what his horoscope has to say as well.

I’m afraid that your ex-husband’s horoscope makes the perfect poster child for Astrology’s version of a Deadbeat Dad.  His Ruling Planet Mars in Sagittarius already points to wanderlust tendencies and Jupiter in direct opposition increases his “anywhere but here” proclivities.  This is emphasized by Venus, the planet of betrothals, being in Aries.  Venus is “out of season” when she’s traveling through the sign of the Ram.  Although this is good for exciting passions in the moment, it’s often the case that that moment doesn’t last and that those passions burn out quickly.  Venus in Aries can leave behind a trail of wounded hearts and broken promises.

My biggest concern is with you wasting any any more time and energy on trying to collect money from this man because each attempt to make him honor his commitment winds up costing you more.  This is evidenced by the fact that his south node falls on your north node and vice-versa.  The north node and the south node are holdovers from the days when Western Astrology was based on a lunar calendar.  The north node was called Caput Draconis (which means the Dragon’s head) while the south node was called Cauda Draconis (which means the Dragon’s tail).  It is said that good planets become better and bad planets become worse when they pass over the Dragon’s head while good planets become bad and bad planets become good when they pass over the Dragon’s tail.  When someone’s south node falls on your north node then that means that this person benefits from siphoning energy off of you—even if you’re trying to do good by him.  In fact the more good you do, the more this person drains you which is why I recommend severing ties.  This is not unlike throwing good money after bad into a business that you know is failing.  You’re better off cutting your losses and steering clear of him all together.  He’s just bad news.

Meanwhile your son was born with good money making planets in his horoscope.  He is a Leo with Jupiter (planet of prosperity) exalted in the neighboring sign of Cancer.  This points to a well-heeled future.   Interestingly enough your son’s north node forms a conjunction to yours, which means that he’s a gain and not a drain.  The north node conjunction also reinforces the idea that you two are a team and that you’re better off without his dad.  Your son’s north node in Cancer along with his Jupiter indicates that he gets his money savvy from you.  You can both look forward to finances improving after July 1, 2011.

My brother is being unfaithful to his wife and I do not know whether she knows it or not.  He has tried to include me in his infidelity by asking me to be his woman friend’s friend.  I REFUSED.  He is not happy with my decision not to get involved with his cheating.  I also believe that he is bad mouthing me behind my back to family and friends.  Can you tell me if he is bad mouthing me?  I still love my brother but I do not like him very much for what he is doing to his wife and to me.  His birthday is November 5 and my birthday is April 1.

Why are you covering for your brother?  I know this isn’t what you meant to do, but it’s what you’re doing nonetheless.  Your brother would never have approached you about his woman friend unless he could be sure that you would keep quiet.  I know that you refused to befriend her but that’s not the way other people are going to see it and your brother knows it.  Scorpios can be very manipulative when they want to be and one of their classic moves for getting people to cooperate is to find a way to make them an accomplice.  This ensures your loyalty and your silence because you become equally culpable by not exposing his secret.

It sounds like you were trying to mind your own business when it came to your brother’s affair and it probably would have worked if your brother had done you the courtesy of doing the same.  Unfortunately this is not what happened which means that you have to have to start protecting your own interests now or wind up paying the price later.

Does your relationship to your brother mean more to you than your relationship to your family and friends?  If it does, then you can continue to look the other way.  If it doesn’t—and if it’s your reputation with family and friends that matters most to you-- then you need to have a sit down talk with your brother’s wife.  And be ready for things to get messy.  Things always get messy when two Children of Mars go at it.  Mars rules your brother’s sign, Scorpio, as well as your sign Aries.  Yet Mars’s recent entrance into your zodiac sign (Mars entered Aries on April 1, 2011) means that Mars is in your corner of the sky until May 2011 and not your brother’s.  This gives you the upper hand—but only as long as you exercise it, which would be during this time.

Remember that the truth will come out eventually.  In fact, it may already be out which could explain the cool reception you’re receiving from family and friends.  They may be wondering about how much you know and why you aren’t saying anything.  This will only get worse once your brother goes public with his affair.  At that point you’ll be the “bad” guy for having kept quiet.  You really must ask yourself why you’re being faithful to someone who doesn’t deserve it because the end result could be you being ostracized for your brother’s infidelity and I don’t think you want that.

I was born February 13, 1975 and live in Philadelphia.  Sometimes I feel like more of a Pisces.  My Moon, Jupiter and Venus are in Pisces.  Is there any truth to this?

I can think of a couple of reasons for why you would feel this way.  The first is that you have a stellium of planets in Pisces.  Pisces is a water sign.  And a stellium is when you have three or more planets in one sign.  Whenever you have a grouping of planets in one zodiac sign like you do, then those planets are naturally going to draw more attention to themselves.  The Moon symbolizes “what I feel”, Jupiter symbolizes “what I believe”, and Venus symbolizes “what I like”.  Venus in your horoscope describes what attracts you and the way that you relate to people.  These planets in Pisces say that you have tremendous empathy for everyone you meet.  You believe that people’s actions have a wide ripple effect which is why we all have a moral obligation to take responsibility for the things that we do in life.  You also like to hang out with imaginative and deeply feeling people who understand where you’re coming from on a soulful level.

Your two Ruling Planets are also in water signs.  Your Saturn is in Cancer and your Uranus is in Scorpio.  This infuses even more water energy into your horoscope so that you really do pick up on what lies beneath the surface.  Aquarians don’t always get this personal in their day-to-day exchanges—but you do.

Your Sun sign is the heart of the chart.  It’s your identity and it shows you where your center is.  The wonderful thing about being an Aquarian is that you are connected to other people, but you don’t get lost in other people.  You have strong opinions, a set way of doing things, and a fundamental belief that there is a greater design at work in the way that we live.  This is very useful when you have as much water as you do in your horoscope because the air energy of Aquarius allows you step outside of a situation and to study it objectively.  There are times when you will have to make decisions based on what’s right for someone and this may fly in the face of what that person wants and may even hurt their feelings.  This is when that Aquarian objectivity can be very useful.  If you were all water then you wouldn’t be able to do that because you would feel too attuned to that person’s emotional life.  The inability to draw boundaries is when water signs can go from being supporters to enablers.

The beauty of getting to know all the planets in your horoscope is that you can see what each planet brings to the table.  Sometimes the planets will be on the “same page”—like with your Moon being in Pisces along with your Jupiter and Venus—and sometimes they’ll approach situations very differently: like with your Sun in Aquarius.  What’s nice is that you were born with such a wide variety of experiences to draw from and that the planets will work together to give you a rich and eclectic worldview.

My DOB is 4/20/68 and I live in Florida.  I received a job promotion several months ago.  I really wasn't looking for the promotion; it just fell into my lap.  I don't want to let the person down who offered me the job.  He really seemed like he believed in me.  I also want to prove to myself that I'm up for the extra responsibility.  Is this the right fit for me?  Do you see me really making a success of this new job?

Yes, I do see you making a success of this new job, but I can also see where the insecurities stem from in your astrological chart.  It’s hard to feel like you’re doing a good job at anything when you’re born with your Ruling Planet Venus conjunct Saturn in Aries.  Saturn is the planet of tests in Astrology so when your Venus falls in close proximity to this planet then you will always feel inadequate or insecure—especially around men.  Thankfully this is all subjective-- it’s more about your feelings and self-esteem than it is about what’s really going on in the world around you, but that doesn’t lessen the anxiety or make the apprehensions go away.  Each of us has a unique approach to self-confidence.  Some people are born feeling like they’re on top of the world while others feel like self-confidence is a show.  Some people need everyone to believe in them and then there are those who discover the courage of their convictions by rejecting the expectations that have been foisted on them.  But for you, self-confidence comes from rising to the challenges that life puts in front of you.  It isn’t always easy, but it’s the best and most heroic expression of Venus in Aries.  You are hell-bent on proving yourself—no matter what.

Yet the problem with being a Child of Venus is that others often seen the potential in you long before you do.  And this can leave you asking “what do they see in me?”  This blind spot can lead you to hide your talents and abilities under a bushel out of fear that you might disappoint people who have a high opinion of you.  I think you can rest assured that you wouldn’t have been offered this promotion unless the person who offered it to you felt confident that you could do it in the first place.  I think that you can also be assured that this person knows that there would have been a learning curve and he’s probably more patient about your progress than you are.

Right now several planets are making their way through the zodiac sign of Aries. This increase in fire energy will do a lot to boost your spirits, energy, confidence, and resolve.  It’s true that you will have your struggles—like the week of April 3rd and the first week of May—but I am confident that you’ll master them especially with benevolent Jupiter entering your own zodiac sign on June 4, 2011.  Jupiter is all about evolution and growth.  This will be the time when you will really feel like you’re getting the hang of things and like you’re showcasing your talents and abilities in ways that you didn’t know you could before.

I have been with my boyfriend for two years.  Our problem stems from what he calls a "low sex drive".  I feel that this is actually reflective of something deeper.  He says that he sees a future for us, but his actions say he's bored.  We are taking a break.  His birthday is 12/4/1967 and mine is 3/1/1980.  Is this the end of our time together or should we seek counseling and try to work through this?

Astrologically speaking you and your boyfriend are compatible.  The strongest pairings in Astrology are between people born in the same month or between people born under the same Ruling Planet.  You and your boyfriend are both Children of Jupiter.  Jupiter rules the zodiac signs Sagittarius and Pisces.  Moreover you were both born with your Ruling Planet Jupiter in Virgo and in an almost perfect conjunction.  Your boyfriend’s Jupiter is at 5 degrees Virgo whereas yours is at 4 degrees Virgo. This strengthens the bond between you and shows a willingness to work on things to improve your relationship.  Virgo is pretty gung-how when it comes to self-improvement.

Yet there are some factors at play.  The first is that your boyfriend was born with Saturn retrograde in Aries.  Aries is the zodiac sign of passion and Saturn, the planet of tests, could definitely act like a cosmic dampener-- especially when your boyfriend’s Saturn is being squared by Pluto like it is now.  This square will loosen up later in the year, but right now it’s going to act like a muscle cramp in your boyfriend’s horoscope.  It can choke off the passion energy and send it underground.  The Saturn/Pluto square also points to the way that your boyfriend manages his stress levels vis-à-vis work.  My sense is that this is what’s stealing a lot of his focus now.

You were born with Jupiter in Virgo.  You were also born with Mars conjunct Jupiter in Virgo and both planets are retrograde in your horoscope.  This indicates that the “low sex drive” issue with men isn’t new.  I imagine that you’ve dealt with something similar before.  But I don’t think that this is a sex problem per se.  The Mars and Jupiter retrograde conjunction could describe an attraction to men who are workaholics, who start out hot then turn cold, or men who never seem to really close the deal romance-wise.  These retrograde planets in Virgo point to men who have difficulty feeling like they’re manly men—mostly because men with Jupiter in Virgo tend to do a lot of worrying and can get preoccupied.  The Mars and Jupiter retrograde in your horoscope essentially says that you understand this type of fellow—which is why they’re attracted to you.  They know instinctively that you can help them through this. 

I would advise counseling because I think you have a future together.  You’re undergoing a shift this year with Jupiter in Aries and Neptune entering Pisces on April 4, 2011.  The change in planetary temperaments will do a lot to revive the bond you share with your boyfriend and to rekindle what’s been missing.  I would hate to see you miss out on that just when you’re both getting ready to turn over a new leaf.

My name is Shelly and my birthday is 05/23/59.  I live in Minnesota, United States.  I need to lose weight.  A lot of it.  I have been trying to start and can’t get started.  Why???  Will I succeed at doing this?  I need to lose it by August.

You need a buddy-- or at least someone that you can touch base with on a regular basis.  You were born under the zodiac sign of Gemini and Geminis are most successful when they do things in pairs (or even small groups).

You also need a game plan with very specific targets set up throughout the day.  You can’t be detailed enough when your Ruling Planet is Mercury.  That’s because Mercury is the planet of the mind and communication as well as the planet of guides.  In other words Mercury rules maps, how-to books, daily agendas, and to-do lists.  This is how Children of Mercury organize their day and their lives, so this is what I think you should do--

First of all meet with a nutritionist.  Don’t treat this diet as an on-again, off-again sort of thing.  Find out what foods work with your body and what foods don’t.  Each of our bodies metabolizes differently which is why fad diets don’t work.  Taking the time to learn what your body needs (rather than craves) and what your body can process (rather than stores away as fat) would be enormously beneficial.  It also ensures that once the weight is off that it will stay off.  Exploring an exercise regimen would also be a good idea.  As a Child of Mercury you need to stay active both mentally and physically.  But again these should be activities that are reasonable and that can be integrated into your day-to-day life.  No one’s expecting you to train for the Iron Lady Marathon.

Secondly: you might consider joining some sort of weight loss group.  It’s amazing what camaraderie and support can do.  So much of our eating habits are unconscious or stress-related so dialoguing with others will do a lot to raise consciousness and cut down on stress.  Moreover sharing stories, exchanging tips, and bouncing ideas off of people is a Gemini’s idea of seventh heaven.

Thirdly: keep a food journal.  Record what you eat, when you eat it, and how much.  Not only will this get you to think twice about what you reach for—because everything you eat will be written down on paper—but you’ll really ask yourself if you need to eat as much (or as many times) as you do.  The anxiety of being without often drives people to eat more than they need to so seeing that you have plenty of food and plenty of time in the day in which to eat it will do a lot to alleviate these tensions.

Finally: accept yourself for who you are.  We all come from a variety of body types and that’s the beauty of humanity.  Lose the weight you want to lose—not the weight you feel you have to lose-- and you may come to discover that finding the right diet can be a very creative and fulfilling experience.  You are what you eat, after all.

My name's Kamy and I'm a Virgo who was born on September 20, 1991. There was this guy named Alex who's born on January 14, 1992. I've had a really up and down friendship/fling with him for about the past four months now. I feel like it's finally coming to an end, but the last time I thought we'd never talk again, we ended up talking again after a couple weeks.   So here's the question: what is the purpose of him being in my life? I guess what I mean is: is he supposed to stay in my life or is he supposed to teach me something and then go away. How do these two signs generally end up?

I think Alex is in your life to teach you how to friend a guy.  This is a lot harder than it looks—especially when a guy says that he wants to be friends but then doesn’t act like it.

You take friendship very seriously.  The fling-thing can come or go as far as you’re concerned but how someone acts as a friend—like can you rely on him or not?  Well, that’s the thing that matters most to you.  It sounds to me like Alex isn’t doing very well with this and it’s probably because the lines got blurred in the friendship versus romance departments.  When something like this happens then things totally change as far as a Capricorn is concerned.

As a Virgo you can go back and forth without too much of a problem.  If things don’t transition easily into romance then you can go back to being friends.  It’s not a big deal.  These are just labels, after all, and labels can be changed.  But a Virgo’s relationship to labels isn’t the same as a Capricorn’s relationship to labels and for Alex you have now become associated with being a “responsibility”.  That’s because Capricorn is ruled by Saturn and Saturn tends to see the world in terms of heavy obligations and expectations that are always being heaped on to their shoulders.  He probably thinks that you want all of these things from him and it sounds to me like you’d rather just have your friend back.

If this is the case, then tell him.  He won’t believe you at first (Capricorns never think that problems can be solved that easily), but he’ll figure it out eventually.  As for romance?  Well, Alex may talk a good game, but you’re the one who comes across in her horoscope as being more mature and grounded which makes me think that Alex doesn’t make for very good boyfriend material now.  Maybe in five years, but not now.  Nevertheless I think he’s worth being friends with because he really is a good guy and you can learn a lot about the way that men think and feel by hanging out with him.  Alex could also use a good friend.  He looks like he doesn’t really let people in, but you know how to talk to him.  You guys look like you really enjoy each other’s company, so it would be a shame to lose the friendship just because things didn’t gel romantically.

My get up and go has got up and gone - what's up?  I was laid off my j-o-b in October.  I thought I would dive into my writing projects.  But that has not happened.  I feel like a slug.  Can you offer any clues as to why I am in this space?  August 4, 1951.

You may be asking too much of yourself considering that you were laid off in October.  A job—whether you loved it or hated it—is still connected to your identity and sense of self worth.  Being laid off is a blow to your confidence and this is going to be particularly paralyzing for someone born under the sign of Leo. Moreover to switch focus from what you were doing to make a living to pursuing more creative projects—like writing—is a pretty tall order in and of itself.  When you add the pressure of writing projects needing to make up for lost income -- is it any wonder that your writing abilities would suddenly freeze up?  It would be no different from a performer auditioning for a role in the morning only to find out that she’ll be opening in the lead that very same night.  It sounds like it should be a good thing, but in reality it’s scary.

It’s OK to be a slug.  And it’s also important to remember that slugs get to where they’re going eventually.  2010 was not easy.  You had Mars retrograde in Leo for the first six months and this would have created a three steps back for every one step forward type of progress.  This was followed by Saturn completing its second Saturn return in July 2010 followed by the Jupiter and Uranus opposition to your Saturn on January 4, 2011.  Translation?  Every time you thought you had figured out the game plan something came along in your life to kick over the game board.

Thankfully this all changes for the better as the gathering stellium of planets comes together in the zodiac sign of Aries this spring.  Aries is a fire sign (like Leo) and it’s also ruled by Mars—the planet of gumption and drive.  What this says to me is that you’ll start to feel like you’ve got your mojo back after March 11, 2011.  Not only will you feel motivated to write, but you’ll reconnect to that creative spirit that’s been burning on a low flame for so long.  Your peak time for moving forward with all of this will be from March 25 to April 19, 2011.   This is the perfect time to set up your schedule so that you’re writing easily and consistently.  And speaking of peak times, do you know what time of day you were born?  Were you born in the morning, afternoon, or night?  You might try writing around the time of day that you were born because this is when the energy flows better.  Leo is ruled by the Sun which makes you sensitive to the time of day when your Ruling Planet passes over where it was in the sky when you were born.  Writing at this time of day when your energy is at its peak would be very conducive to your own personal creative process.

My job is in flux.  I have no car and piling bills.  However there are promises and possibilities that things will be solid again although friends and therapists tell me it’s time for a change because of the personal relationship with 'my boss'.  Meanwhile I fell in love with a man who had begun talks of divorce but in a "downtime" --while I was letting him sort out his personal affairs-- he found himself attracted to another woman.  Heartbreak!  Can you help? DOB 11/21/62 1:21am.

What I like about what lies in store for you over the next six months is the increase in fire energy that will be coursing through your horoscope.  Fire energy is very bold, active, and future-oriented.  This is very different from water energy which can be emotional, conventional, and focused on the past.  Now this isn’t to say that water energy is bad.  It’s actually quite good.  Your water energy gives you your empathy, creativity, perseverance, and ability to tell it like it is.  People turn to you with their problems because they know that you will give them sage advice along with a dollop of tough love.  You’ve gone through hard times and survived them and your experience speaks for itself.

However when you are born under a stellium of planets in Scorpio like you were (a stellium means that you have three or more planets in one zodiac sign) then you can focus more on the hell you know than the heaven you don’t.  Why?  Because one of your Ruling Planets, Pluto, was named after the Roman God of the Underworld.  People with strong Pluto tend to get obsessed about things and this obsession can become hard for them to give up.  Obsessions are tricky because they’re based on not getting what you want.  If you got what you wanted then the obsession would be over.  It’s not getting what you want that fuels your passion and love and begins to take on a shadow life of its own.  It’s a side of Scorpio that makes sense to Scorpios but leaves people born under different zodiac signs scratching their heads in bewilderment and frustration.  Scorpios do eventually find a way to redirect this energy into something more constructive, but they have been known to spend years fostering these feelings-- sometimes even decades.

But like I said before you will have a lot of fiery energy coursing through your horoscope this spring which means that you’re ready for a fresh start.  You’ll find yourself getting impatient with old patterns and eager to move on.  The nice thing about this is that it will be based on your decision and not anyone else’s.  This will do a lot to embolden you and make you even more eager to pursue a new direction in March and April.  June looks like a time when you will be changing jobs or career paths.  You need to be doing something that’s personally fulfilling and that pays the bills.  Your job isn’t doing its job if you’re coming home to a pile of bills at the end of the day.  That’s something that they used to call indentured servitude back in the 17th century.

My DOB is 06/27/1976 and my husband’s DOB is 10/26/1969.  My question concerns what feels like a poverty curse-- or karma as it were.  My husband has had periods in his life where he made tons of money, traveled the world, and was offered jobs in New York City working in the clothing industry.  Since moving to Utah 7 years ago, (and being married to me for 6 years), we have struggled to just stay afloat.  He's had to fight for any kind of promotion and saving money has been not an option.  Is there an aspect in his chart-- or mine-- that shows a negative karmic aspect towards ever being financially stable?  As one might imagine being hard up for money has been a source for fighting and unhappiness.  Just wondered if there may be something to it.

Rest assured that your husband doesn’t suffer from a poverty curse.  However you are right about him going through boom and bust cycles when it comes to money.  He was born with his Sun at 2 degrees Scorpio exactly opposite Saturn at 5 degrees Taurus at the top of his chart.  Usually this would be more bust than boom except for the fact that your husband was also born with his Moon in Taurus and a Taurus Moon is one of the best Moons that you can have because it is exalted.  Moreover the Moon is ruled by Venus which is in Libra (her own sign) in your husband’s horoscope which is also very good.  However it takes time for the planets to move around the sky and to activate these points in the horoscope and when these points aren’t activated then your husband’s fortunes can resemble the sagging sails of a ship at sea waiting for the wind to change course and move in its direction again.

In 2005 Saturn moved into the zodiac sign of Leo, effectively forming a square to your husband’s Sun, Saturn, and Moon.  A square is an adversarial aspect in Astrology and this would account for the derailment of your husband’s finances because Saturn is the planet of tests and challenges.  Saturn was in Leo for two years before it moved into Virgo in the fall of 2007.  Virgo is the sign that rules your husband’s second house, the house of finances in Astrology.  This is where you would have seen the money drain and this energy would have cast a shadow over your husband’s fortunes until about now.

You should see things improve after March 11, 2011 and on June 4, 2011 Jupiter (planet of prosperity) will begin its twelve month cross over your husband’s midheaven.  This will bring a change for the better in your husband’s career and it will boost his finances.  But don’t expect things to change overnight.  It takes a while for Jupiter to work its particular magic.  Nevertheless Jupiter will hover over your husband like a protective angel for a year which means that you will enjoy real financial stability in June 2012.  This is when you can breathe a long and well-deserved sigh of relief.

Hello Christopher.  My BD is 07-28-59.  My partner's BD is 11-13-53. We have great friendship and passion.  Could you tell me more about our planets together?

I have seen a lot of Leo and Scorpio pairings.  People born under the Sun (that’s you) are often drawn to the power of people born under Pluto (that’s your partner) and they have more in common than one would think.  As a Child of the Sun, you’re going to be naturally fiery.  You speak from the heart, express what you feel, and can get quite ferocious when it comes to protecting a loved one.  You generate heat and light through your body, love, and words and you believe that you make a personal difference in people’s lives.  Nobody places as much value on being an individual as a Child of the Sun.  You believe that people need to be true to themselves.

Children of Pluto understand this, but aren’t always good at showing it.  Children of Pluto can be just as passionate about being true to themselves, but that self they’re being true to lies buried beneath the surface.  The planet Pluto was named after the Roman god of the Underworld, so burying their feelings, thoughts, and impulses is perfectly natural for them.  They’re doing this to protect themselves from rejection.  I imagine that you play an instrumental role in helping your partner to find the strength and courage of self-expression.  As a water sign, Scorpios are very emotional but they can also be unexpressive because they feel their feelings.  When one feels their feelings there’s no real need to talk about them because it’s the feeling that matters most.  As a fire sign you need to express what you feel because it’s the nature of fire to give off heat and light.  Expressing and showing is very important to you.  However this could also lead you to misread your partner at times.  You could mistake quiet moments for dark moods where you feel like it’s your job to get your partner to lighten up or to “get over” something.  It’s important to understand that you and your partner process your emotions differently.  If you’re angry, for instance, you’ll get mad and loud and be over it because fire burns hot and bright in the moment.  Your partner’s anger, on the other hand, is slow burning and slow moving—like molten lava.  The anger will pass, but it needs to pass when your partner is ready to let it pass—and not before.

Your partner may not always be the easiest person to read on the surface, but you can sense the devotion underneath and would never question it.  This comes from the fact that your partner’s Ruling Planet Pluto is in your sign, Leo.  This is one of the strongest bonds that you can hope to have in Astrology.  It looks to me like you both came into each other’s lives when you really needed someone to believe in you and to help you make the changes that needed to be made in order to live truer and more fulfilling lives.  It’s clear that you will always be in each other’s corner and that your bond will last a lifetime.

I’ve been going through a rough patch with mixed feelings about everything in my life.  Nothing is where I would like it to be.  I’ve been practicing spirituality, but can’t even keep a positive attitude.  Can you give me any insight?  My birth information is December 29, 1973, 4:14 AM, Hartford, CT.

You sound like someone who’s been living with eclipses rolling through her horoscope.  These have impacted everyone born under the zodiac signs of Capricorn and Cancer since July 2009.  Eclipses are a pretty big deal in Astrology because they’re regarded as life course correctors.  They’re aimed at getting you to redirect the direction of your life.

Now it would be nice if eclipses were illuminating, but my experience is that they’re more blindsiding than enlightening.  It’s only in the six months following their occultation that they begin to make any kind of sense.  The most recent lunar eclipse on December 21, 2010 took place right at the north and south node axis of your horoscope.  Lunar eclipses are connected with clearing out past baggage, so this would have pushed you to make some sort of break with a situation you felt was bringing you down or holding you back.  It might have been connected to the way you make money, your living situation, or even a family matter (perhaps something involving a sibling?).  In any case it would have been heavy and emotional.  The recent solar eclipse at 13 degrees Capricorn (January 4, 2010) fell over the part of Fortune in your horoscope.  This would have acted as a wake up call pertaining to a financial matter.  I expect that it lit a fire under your feet so that you could act in a timely manner to protect your interests.  Both of these eclipses look like intense experiences, but neither would have given you a solid feel for where things are heading in your life.

There’s often a fumbling around in the dark feeling that comes with an eclipse.  And this makes perfect sense when you remember that a solar eclipse is by definition when the Moon passes in front of the Sun and blocks out its light.  This energy funk should lift by July 1, 2011 but I have a feeling that you will start to feel more inspired, motivated, and revitalized on January 22, 2011 when Jupiter enters Aries and then again on March 11, 2011 when Uranus also enters Aries.  This kicks off a very fiery and dynamic period that lasts until early May 2011.  Now you will see a lot of dips and rises in your life (think rollercoaster ride), because both Jupiter and Uranus are “rock your world” types of planets.  Things are never the same after they pass through and they will be forming a powerful square to your Sun during this time.  But I can assure you that you will also find their effect to be both revelatory and exhilarating.  More importantly they will rekindle your life purpose so that it’s no longer burning on a low flame, but roaring like the open fire it should be.  Work with the energies that are being unleashed and you will find this to be an exciting and adventurous time.

My darling (almost) 4 year old is turning out to be quite challenging and I want to do my best for her.  I was advised to ask you how to best go about this.  Her birthday is December 6, 2006 and mine is May 29, 1975.

There’s no denying that you’ve got a livewire on your hands.  Your daughter was born under a stellium of planets in Sagittarius.  She has so much fire energy coursing through her horoscope that she expresses everything she feels right when she feels it and it’s going to be stormy and loud.

There are four elements that we work with in Astrology.  Water, earth, air, and fire.  The water signs are deeply feeling, sensitive, and rarely express their emotions.  The earth signs are physical, industrious, and very territorial.  The air signs are cerebral, communicative, and always factor in the other person’s point of view.  The fire signs are spirited, dramatic, and they’re all about ME.  The fire signs are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius.  They’re the fierce individualists who make a personal difference in everyone’s lives.

Sagittarian children tend to be free-spirited.  Ruled by their enthusiasms and their roving interests, they have a very strong imagination, a love of play, and a philosophical bent (yes, even at age four).  Your daughter may put you on the spot by asking some awkward questions about life and she may also have a knack for wise and provocative utterances.  As a Gemini mother you naturally want to encourage her development as a unique individual, but you also want to rein things in.

Don’t be afraid to rein things in.  Your daughter’s birthday is six months (or six zodiac signs) away from yours.  This creates an inborn disagreement which means that if you say something’s black, she’ll say it’s white. Oppositional relationships can be creative and enlivening because they get us to question our assumptions and to expand our horizons, however they require a lot of work and loads of patience.  You and your daughter are also bottom-line personalities.  You can both be fixed and stubborn—although your daughter is more comfortable with this than you are, which is why it’s up to you to take the lead.

The funny thing about Sagittarians is that they really are a lot like horses.  For all of their bravado, they can be quite skittish.  They need a lot of support and reassurance and though you can lead them to water, you can’t make them drink.  The best way to deal with her is through play—a Gemini strong suit.  Your love of games, wordplay, and puzzles will get her to chuckle and laugh and lighten up.  Appeal to her sense of wonder about the world and life.  Also remember that she was born under a very moralistic sign.  Your daughter has a strong sense of what’s right and wrong (even if she likes to test boundaries) and this will never go away.  Sagittarians believe that there is a higher purpose to everything we do.  If you can show her the reason (that is the purpose and not the science) for why things happen the way they do, then you will always have her attention.

I'm an Aquarius born on February 13, 1975 living in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.  I have been trying to find a career that is right for me for 10 years now and I am still very unhappy and feel stuck.  Will I ever find something I enjoy?

Aquarius is one of the few zodiac signs in Astrology that has two Ruling Planets—Saturn and Uranus.  Saturn is the planet of rules and order and Uranus is the planet of revolution and change.  When you have two Ruling Planets like you do, then you have to answer to both—even if what they’re asking from you appears contradictory.

Ten years ago Saturn formed a square to Uranus in the sky.  Squares symbolize conflicts in Astrology and the best way to think of them is as two forces locked in an arm wrestling match.  Each planet is trying to get the better of the other.  In your case Uranus was traveling over your Sun in Aquarius, so the year 2000 was a time of terrific change and volatility—a sort of up-in-the-air; anything goes period.  It looks like it was very exciting and also potentially upsetting.  You may have felt like you were too “out there” and like you needed to get your feet back on the ground.  Your other Ruling Planet, Saturn, was traveling through the more earthy and practical sign of Taurus in the year 2000.  This would have directed your gaze towards a career move that promised a regular paycheck and where you wouldn’t have to worry about struggling to make ends meet.  My feeling is that this is when you opted for money and security and that would have made perfect sense for where you were at the time.

However in the past few months you would have felt the need to connect with a higher purpose—or at least a truer purpose—and this feeling will intensify as you approach March 2011.  Now the planets aren’t asking you to walk out on everything you’ve built, but they are urging you to be truer to yourself.  My sense of things is that you’ve proven to yourself that you can make money and build a career. You’ve satisfied the more practical Saturn side of your personality.  However yours is a creative and conceptual type of horoscope, so maybe it’s time to reinvent what you do at work or even to go into business for yourself?  All you need is a vision of what you really want to do and a plan—even if it is only a rough sketch.  If you can come up with these two things, then the whys and wherefores will take care of themselves.  Ruling Planet Uranus enters the adventurous sign of Aries on March 12, 2011 and it will be there for seven years.  This is a trailblazing type of energy and signals a new start for Aquarians everywhere.  Where you want to go—and how far you want to go with your vision of what you would like to do in life—is entirely up to you.  Give yourself the chance to pursue what you want and you’ll find that you’re more capable of putting all of this together than you ever imagined you could be.

My birth date is January 30, 1967 and I live in Piscataway, NJ.  There have been a lot of changes for me this year.  I am on a new career path, will be leaving my marriage, got rid of some toxic relationships and so on.  I was wondering what is in store for me in 2011?

There is a lot to look forward to in 2011—once you get passed the Jupiter/Uranus conjunction on January 4, 2011. The reason why your life has been so topsy-turvy since September 2010 is because these two planets have been triggering a very important opposition in your horoscope.  They have been forcing you to make a break with the past (this has been building for two years) and to set your sights on a different direction.  This energy peaks on January 4, 2011 and will last through January 22, 2011.

On March 11, 2011your Ruling Planet Uranus will enter the zodiac sign of Aries.  Aries is the zodiac sign of the spring equinox and Uranus here shows you making a fresh start of things.  It will give you the kind of confidence you need to pursue a new path along with the single-minded focus necessary to take on steep challenges—and to succeed.  March through June looks like it will be a very busy period when you will be juggling a lot of concerns and priorities.  Remember to breathe during this period and to keep on going.  “Reinvention” is one of those words that looks good on paper but can prove to be a very long and exhausting process.

Thankfully Jupiter enters Taurus on June 3, 2011.  Not only will this give you more physical strength and endurance, but it will also put more money in your pocket—as long as you use it to set up the foundations of your new life.  Jupiter is connected to prosperity and higher purpose, but that prosperity only comes through working in tandem with your higher purpose.  It’s not just prosperity for prosperity’s sake—which is where people can run into trouble when Jupiter energy comes into play in their lives.  They think they’re being given a free ride from the Stars and that’s just not the case.  But if you think of the Jupiter in Taurus energy that will be coursing through your horoscope from June 3, 2010 to August 30, 2011 as the Universe “investing” in your life, then you will find money available when you need it as long as it’s in service to rebuilding your new life and career.

The only thing to watch out for is a case of the jitters when Uranus retrogrades down to the early degrees of Aries in October and November 2011.  This will be a time when you experience unexpected delays or a drop in momentum.  It may be when you question your bold decisions and wonder if you should slow down and put things off for another time.  Don’t.  You are clearly on the right life path and need to keep doing what you’re doing.  Constancy of purpose is important during this time as is maintaining faith in yourself.  Keep pursuing that life you’ve always wanted to live and you will see it materialize in 2012.

My husband (8/21/1981) and I (9/4/80) are trying for a baby after a miscarriage.  I am trying to be patient and let things take their time but it is very hard to wait! Can you please let us know when we could expect some good news?  We are in Chicago and we can't wait for our little bundle of joy!

I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriage and I can certainly understand why you would want to get pregnant again as soon as possible.  However I would advise against trying to get pregnant right now because there are certain planetary alignments that are currently working against you and you need to wait for these to clear up.  Otherwise you will be moving against the current of events and making life unnecessarily difficult.

Astrology is calendar.  Which is why every major civilization on the planet—whether it’s Indian, Chinese, Middle Eastern, or Meso-American—developed some form of Astrology.  Astrology doesn’t tell you what to do in life as much as when to do it.

You were born under a stellium of planets in Virgo.  You have the Sun, Jupiter, and Mercury in Virgo and lastly Saturn—the planet of delays and obstacles—at 27 degrees Virgo.  Saturn is the planet that catches my eye when I examine your horoscope because Saturn was traveling through the zodiac sign of Virgo from September 2, 2007 through July 21, 2010.  This coincides with your Saturn return and it’s the Saturn return that would have made this recent 2 ½ year period extremely difficult.  Saturn in Virgo would have had a stressful impact on work, health, and body.  What makes this even more pertinent is that Saturn is the ruler of your fifth house in your horoscope.  The fifth house is the house of children.  Long story short?  This recent 2 ½ year period would not have been a good or easy time to become pregnant.

It is still not a good or easy time to become pregnant.  Why?  Remember that your Saturn is at 27 degrees Virgo.  We have an upcoming lunar eclipse at 29 degrees Gemini on December 21, 2010.  This creates a square—which symbolizes conflict in Astrology.  Moreover the lunar eclipse influences pregnancy and therefore both the square and the lunar eclipse would make this a time when you are not at your physical peak.  This is compounded by the upcoming Jupiter and Uranus conjunction at 27 degrees Pisces on January 4, 2011 which will be exactly opposite your Saturn at 27 degrees Virgo. 

You really don’t want to do anything before Uranus departs Pisces on April 3, 2011 and even then I would strongly recommend that you wait until Jupiter enters Taurus on June 4, 2011.  This looks to be a stable and fertile period for you and for two reasons.  The first is that Jupiter in Taurus (June 2011 through June 2012) will form an earth trine to your stellium of planets in Virgo and this is good because earth trines confer physical strength and endurance along with “protection”.  The second reason is that your husband’s Moon is in Taurus and Jupiter in this part of his horoscope will also increase his fertility.  All in all June 2011 looks ideal for conceiving a child.

I have two people in my life that I care very much for.  One (4/28/1983) was a relationship in my past and we were very passionate and the other (2/18/1982) is someone I’ve been with for years and it’s a very comfortable relationship.  I am still in contact with both and sometimes wonder if I am in the right relationship.  My birthday is 10/24/84.

It makes perfect sense to ask this question while Venus is retrograde.  Venus turned retrograde in Scorpio on October 8, 2010.  Venus was named after the Roman goddess of love and beauty and her retrograde in your sign signals that you are having some serious second thoughts about who you want to be with romantically.  All Scorpios are experiencing this as well as people born under Aries, Taurus, and Libra. Venus comes out of retrograde on November 18, 2010 but won’t emerge from her “shadow period” until December 20, 2010.

Of the two people you ask about, it’s the one you are in a relationship with now who looks better on paper.  Although he was not born in your zodiac sign or under either of your Ruling Planets (Mars and Pluto), he was born with his two Ruling Planets in autumn zodiac signs.  This puts him in your season and “in season” pairings are good.  It shows that he gets you on a deep level and that you feel very comfortable with him.  However relationships that are supposed to be good for you are not always the ones that Scorpios pursue.  Scorpios often choose passion over love—especially before the age of thirty.

The fellow from your past looks passionate and that’s because his birthday is six months away from yours.  You two were born under opposite zodiac signs and, as everyone knows, opposites attract.  But just because opposites attract doesn’t mean they’ll stay together.  They often don’t and that’s because when you’re “in season” (which is in the autumn) he is “out of season” and vice-versa.  What this sets up is an out-of-sync quality that is hard to reconcile.  Opposite sign attractions appear in extra-marital relationships or relationships where people are separated by long distances, family backgrounds, or cultural differences.  They can work but it takes a lot of effort.

I suspect you stayed in contact with your old love because you weren’t quite sold on the current fellow.  If that’s the case, then I think you have your answer and you’ll probably break up some time between November 18, 2010 and January 4, 2011.  But I wouldn’t put all of my eggs in one basket vis-à-vis the Taurus fellow either.  The sex may be great, but you have very different ways of looking at the world and there’s not a lot of flexibility on both sides.  You would really have to work on the friendship aspect of your relationship—especially in the ways that you read each other signals, communicate, exercise tolerance and acceptance.  You have some very high expectations about what you want in a partner and I’m not sure if he’s up to them.  But then again the only way to find out is by being together.  Love is like the lottery.  You’ve got to be in it to win.

My birthdate is June 26, 1974.  I live in Derby, CT.  I would just like to know about my future—career, love, and family.

Life hasn’t been easy since the summer of 2009 and that’s because of the eclipse cycles that have been rolling through the zodiac signs of Capricorn and Cancer.  We have two types of eclipses in Astrology—the solar eclipse and the lunar eclipse.  Your ruling planet is the Moon so eclipses will always impact you in some way.  This becomes even more powerful when the eclipses are taking place in your zodiac sign (Cancer) or the sign opposite you (which is Capricorn).  Therefore July 2009, January 15, 2010; June 26, 2010; July 11, 2010; December 21, 2010; and finally January 4, 2011 should be significant dates for you.  These would have been times when you had a lot going on with career and family—particularly in June 2010.

Eclipses work like course correctors in Astrology.  They introduce dramatic events where you have to make larger-than-life decisions.  Sometimes it feels like you’re getting hit with these things from out of left field, but if you sit down and really think about what’s unfolding then you’ll see that the situation you face has been building over a prolonged period and that the eclipse is simply bringing matters to a head.  It’s the eclipse’s job to hold your feet to the fire in order to get you to act.  My feeling is that you have to make some big decisions regarding career, love, and family.  The important thing to remember is that you are in the driver’s seat here.  It may feel like you aren’t, but the truth is you are.  What’s needed is a clearer idea of where you want to go.

It isn’t easy for you to voice the things you want.  As a Cancer you’re deeply feeling and sensitive, but rarely express your own emotions.  Cancer is a water sign (which tends to be non-verbal anyway) and the close conjunction of Saturn and retrograde Mercury in your horoscope is going to make you even more guarded when it comes to sharing your true feelings.

This becomes even stronger when I see that your Ruling Planet, the Moon, forms a close conjunction to Pluto.  This suggests that you take your relationships and friendships very seriously and that you will go the extra distance for the people in your life.  You’re intensely loyal, supportive, and caring.  However it does beg the question—do the people in your life do the same for you?

After January 4, 2011 you will be clear of the eclipse cycles.  You will be in a very different headspace than the one you’ve been in since the summer of 2009.  My feeling is that you will be much more assertive and expressive of what you want.  This will lead to substantial changes in all of your relationships—be they personal or professional—in March and April 2011.  I can’t really tell from your horoscope if you’re single or married; however what I can say is that by the time that Saturn departs Libra in 2012 you will have the sort of family life that you’ve always wanted.

I have been living with and looking after my father since my mum died earlier this year.  His care needs have increased to the extent that he has had to go into a home and now I have to move out of his rented accommodation.  I have three months to find a new place to live.  Is there anything in my chart to suggest that there will be any opportunities coming my way to help me out of this worrying situation and what type of jobs to look for?  29/03/1959, UK.

Your three month window makes perfect sense when I look at your horoscope.  Jupiter moves into your astrological sign of Aries on January 22, 2011 followed by Uranus on March 12, 2011.  Both planets are connected to major life changes involving a move or relocation.  The fact that your Ruling Planet Mars is in Gemini shows that you will land on your feet.  Gemini is ruled by Mercury and Mercury is always good at escaping a tight spot.  Indeed the combination of energies shows that you have both the survivor’s instinct and resourcefulness to get through this trying period.  And you will.

But you’re navigating a tricky passage here because you have an obligation to your father as well as to yourself.  It’s important to remember in times like these the airplane rule of oxygen masks—first you apply the oxygen to yourself and then you help the person seated next to you.  In other words now is the time when you need to take care of yourself because if you don’t then you won’t be of any good to anybody.  This is a tall order for anyone who has been a major caregiver because so much of your day has been taken up with looking after your father.  Nevertheless you must make yourself the top priority.  Your father has a roof over his head and his needs are being administered to whereas the same cannot be said for you.

Mars in Gemini means that you will have no problem finding part-time and/or short-term work.  Moreover it will probably be in the neighborhood of what you do—either literally (like geographically in the neighborhood) or figuratively (as in similar to what you’re doing now).  Should you be interested—I could see a possibility for some kind of return to school or training when Jupiter passes over your Mercury and Sun in Aries which would be from late February to mid March 2011.  This could be government funded or the result of some community program.  Jupiter rules higher education, the church, as well as philanthropic institutions.  Mars in Gemini is something that shows up a lot in sales and media.  It means that you have a companionable nature so you’re good at helping people to access information and resources, to get from one place to the other, and people are comfortable giving you their things for safekeeping.  I have seen this placement in the horoscopes of au pairs, nannies, and home companions as well as in the horoscopes of financiers who manage trusts, celebrity handlers, and television producers.  It’s quite a range, but the underlying theme for employment is still the same: people entrust you with the things that matter most to them.

My final suggestion is this: don’t worry so much about whether you have the proper credentials or even job experience.  You’re a fast learner and you can learn the ropes as you go along.   Your primary goal is to land the job.  And if affordable housing is an issue, you might consider a temporary roommate situation.  I know that that’s anything but ideal, but it would only be temporary-- probably until about late May and/or early June 2011.

I am a Capricorn, born January 3rd/1977 at 11:41am.  I heard that my sign-- and particularly the planet Mars-- has a strong influence on money.  I have never been worried about money because I always had "enough to get by".  Recently I discovered how fun it is to make money and to enjoy some of the finer things in life. What are my money strengths and weaknesses?  How can I best maximize my potential for making money?

It sounds like you’re in a place in your life where you really want to make money.  This is different from being in a place where you need money to meet expenses or where you wish you had more money so that you can escape the problems you face.  Your upbeat attitude that money is fun reflects Capricorn’s down-to-earth approach.

Capricorns—along with their fellow earth signs Taurus and Virgo—are famous for making money.  But why?  Part of it stems from motivation.  The earth signs are motivated by the question: how do you live in a world where everything falls apart?  It’s a sobering thought which is why earth signs don’t rely on Fate or Fortune to make their way in the world.  Earth signs rely on themselves which means that they turn to their own ingenuity, resourcefulness, and indefatigable work ethic.   Earth signs like to work hard and they like to have something to show for it at the end of the day.  The other thing that makes earth signs good with money is that they actually like it.  And this is interesting because not a lot of people like money.  A lot of people wish they had money, but they don’t really like it.  They like what money can buy.  Earth signs, however, like the business of money.  They like making it.  They like managing it.  And they like coming up with new ways to generate revenue.

You were born with Mars exactly conjunct your midheaven in Capricorn.  This is important for two reasons.  The first is that it places Mars at the highest point in your horoscope which means that you are extremely motivated to succeed and to succeed big.  And secondly, Mars is exalted in Capricorn.  That says you have the drive and willpower to succeed beyond your wildest dreams as long as you keep raising the bar.  Older men play a huge role in your life, so you should seek them out as advisors, mentors, patrons, and even business partners.  Mars in Capricorn shows that you truly value their worldly experience and that you’re eager to learn from them.

The downside is that Capricorns tend to work hard at working hard by asking for too little in pay or by being so preoccupied with deadlines that they can’t see past the grindstone and thereby miss out on seizing opportunities to build their business.   But these are things you’ll work out for yourself along the way.  Just know that it will always take you longer than most people to achieve your goals (it’s because you’re steadfast and deliberate in everything you do) but that once you do, your accomplishments will stand the test of time.

I am leading a labyrinth walk and mini-retreat in Salt Lake City on the Winter Solstice, December 21, 2010.  There will also be a full lunar eclipse visible in North America on the solstice.  Can you give me some information on the significance of this event, both personally and globally?

There are two types of eclipses: solar and lunar.  A solar eclipse is when the Moon passes between the earth and the Sun and obscures the Sun from our eyes.  This takes place during a New Moon.  A lunar eclipse is when the earth stands between the Sun and the Moon and casts its shadow on the Moon.  This takes place during a Full Moon.  In Judicial Astrology (that’s the type of astrology that focuses on global affairs), the solar eclipse impacts heads of state (the Sun rules rulers and people in the public eye) while the lunar eclipse impacts the masses (because the Moon rules over “plain folk” and its changing appearance in the sky was said to reflect the fickleness of public opinion).

The lunar eclipse will be taking place at 29 degrees Gemini on December 21, 2010 and what makes this significant is that the 29th degree is seen as a critical degree in Astrology.  This will probably impact the areas of life that are traditionally associated to the planet Mercury which is the planet that rules the eclipse.  Mercury rules communication, information, the media, education, and transportation.  Chances are something will be revealed that will send waves through the blogosphere and get certain people up on their high horses decrying this or that.  It will likely stem from events that took place in mid July 2010.  I’d love to say it will be significant, but it’s hard to tell given our hyperventilating news cycle.  What’s important one day seems to have exhausted itself by the next.

What intrigues me most about your labyrinth walk is that Mercury was named after Hermes, the greek god of roads, paths, and mazes.  The messenger god Hermes was also the guide of souls.  Hermes is the pathfinder in Greek mythology and of all the Olympians, Hermes was the only god who could travel from heaven to earth to hell and back again.  He knew all the ins and outs.  Moreover we get our word “hermetic” from Hermes—in essence making him the father of the hidden mysteries which is why Hermes Trismegistus is named after him.

Most importantly Hermes was known as the companion to man.  He wasn’t remote or hard to fathom like other gods could be.  In fact you never knew where you might run into him.  He might be standing behind you in line at the marketplace or the god who came for you at the hour of your death to lead you from this world to the next.  To me what’s beautiful about Hermes is that he represents the sacred in your everyday life.  He doesn’t live in a church nor is he hidden in an altar or closed up inside a book.  He’s out and about; providing guidance in a world where it isn’t always easy to find one’s way.  If I were to suggest an idea for your meditation it would be that.

I got divorced in 1993 and never remarried.  I do not have negative feelings against marriage, I just never found anyone who I wish to share my life with.  Recently I have been in touch with a former friend and we discovered that we still have deep feelings for each other.  I feel good about this and very hopeful, however I live in Georgia and he lives in Alabama.  My birthday is 4/01/55 and his is 3/22/54.

It makes sense that you and your former friend are back in touch with each other because you have very compatible horoscopes.  There are certain things that Astrologers look for when judging the success of a relationship and one of these is same season pairings.  Same season pairings are when both people are born at the same time of year.  In your case, you and your former friend were both born in the spring and under the zodiac sign of Aries.  So this is good.  The next thing we look for are Ruling Planet connections.  You were born with your Mars in Capricorn while your friend was born with his Mars in Sagittarius.  If you look at the zodiac calendar you’ll see that Sagittarius and Capricorn share the month of December.  This is another positive sign that the two of you would have a successful relationship.  The question, of course, is how are you going to make this happen when you both live in different states?

Your friend has a lot of things coming up for him in the first six months of 2011.  This looks like a time when he will have to get his house in order—both literally and figuratively.  It looks like he will be saddled with heavy family obligations in January 2011 and that he will be busy taking care of unfinished business that’s been left at loose ends for too long in late February and March.  This will be a very challenging period for him and you may feel like you’re losing his interest or that he’s not making you enough of a priority.  The trick to surviving this rough passage is to not let your insecurities muddy the waters.  You have a unique opportunity to be there for him as a friend and confidante.  These are important qualities that people look for in a lifetime partner at this age and you’re being in his corner will mean a lot.  As for you?  Well, you will see for yourself how good he is at following through with things.  He was born with Mars in Sagittarius and this can be a very exciting energy to be around because it’s fiery, romantic, and adventurous.  However Sagittarius energy can also have a problem with delivering on promises.  A Child of Mars with Mars in Sagittarius means well, but doesn’t always cross the finish line.  It’s during the first half of 2011 when you will learn if he’s got what it takes to win your hand.  Again I think that you and your friend have a lot of relationship potential and that this is something worth pursuing.  I also feel like you’ll know where things stand by the end of June 2011.

My birth date is June 8, 1966.  I am divorced.  My ex-husband is taking me to court on November 1st claiming that I need to be psychologically tested.  He wants to eliminate my alimony and reduce child support.  I know this is a legal issue, but I hope that you can help me.  Will this happen?

I’m sorry to hear that you are having these legal issues with your ex-husband.  It sounds very unpleasant and like the last thing you need to deal with right now.

That said, it looks like the onus will be on your Ex to prove his case.  To that purpose it does look like you may have to undergo some psychological testing and honor his requests.  This is symbolized by Mars being the ruler of Venus retrograde in Scorpio at the top of the horoscope that I cast for the time when you asked this question.  Mars is the planet of men (in this horoscope Mars symbolizes your Ex) and Mars is also the planet that rules Scorpio.  We are currently in the month of Scorpio and this gives Mars supremacy and power.  The best thing that you can do right now is to cooperate with your Ex’s requests.  Indeed the more you cooperate, the more you will succeed at undermining his case.

So will he win?  It looks unlikely.  The reason I say this is because Saturn is the planet that represents you in the horoscope cast for your question.  Saturn was in Libra when you asked your question and Libra is the zodiac sign of Justice, marriage, and the courts.  The symbol for Libra is the scales and Saturn is exalted—i.e. Saturn is at its most powerful and benevolent—when it is in Libra.  My interpretation of this is that the law will back you up on this matter so I expect that your alimony will not be eliminated nor will child support be reduced.

However I must point out that Venus is retrograde in Scorpio near the midheaven, so you won’t emerge from this trouble-free.  The retrograde (which is a backwards motion) shows that your Ex will get some kind of sympathetic hearing from the court on Monday-- especially if the judge is a woman.  This could introduce new hurdles that you may have to jump over in order to prove that you’re entitled to the things you are entitled to.  This could last until Venus emerges from her shadow period—which will be on December 20th.

Again the best way to navigate this situation is to cooperate with your ex-husband’s requests.  Remember that cooperating with his requests does not mean that he is winning.  On the contrary, the secret to prevailing over Mars energy is to use your antagonist’s maneuvers against him (just like in jiu-jitsu).  It’s by agreement and appeasement that you will best demonstrate that he is being outrageous in his demands.  However this won’t be easy as it will require a great deal of patience and fortitude on your part.  You will have to steer the middle course—no matter how stormy things get.  Do this and it looks like you will find safe harbor by Christmas.

I can't seem to put into practice all that I've learned with training, books, etc.  I want so much to BE the light I know I really am spiritually (not religiously) but can't seem to keep the motivation going long enough to manifest the change I desire.  I hate this feeling of being so stuck.  Please help me remove the glue!  My birthday is July 6, 1947.

I don’t think you’re stuck.  But I wonder if you have a clear idea of what “being the light” truly is?  Is it possible that you already practice what you’ve learned spiritually, but don’t recognize it?

Astrology is divided up into four elements: water, earth, air, and fire.  Water rules emotions, earth rules our material existence, air rules our intellect, and fire symbolizes the spirit.  The fire signs are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius.  These three signs all yearn for spiritual experiences, but it is Leo that is the most ME about it.  It’s this Leo part of your horoscope (you were born with Saturn and Pluto in Leo) that wants to experience firsthand what it’s like to be a beacon of light to others by unlocking the spirit within.

You were born with Pluto in Leo in the ninth house and the ninth house is the house of religion and philosophy in Astrology.  What this says to me is that you’ve had a number of very powerful and personal experiences that have made you question life and the way that life works.  You don’t buy into any of the easy answers for sale on the shelves of our spiritual marketplaces.  You’ve done a lot of questing and questioning over the years and I imagine that you have a healthy respect and appreciation for the mystery in our lives.  What you feel in your gut-- and in your heart of hearts-- will always serve as your personal touchstone when you have Pluto in Leo in your horoscope.

But you also have Saturn right next to Pluto here in Leo.  Saturn is the planet of doubt and fear.  When Saturn is powerful-- like it is in this position-- then you will find yourself doubting the authenticity of your spiritual experiences.  You will ask yourself: are my experiences REALLY that spiritual?  Do I REALLY make a difference?  How can I talk about belief when I question so much?

Friending your doubts is the life mission of Saturn in Leo and that’s because doubts have a unique role to play.  We could never believe in anything or tap into the power of faith unless we had doubts.  Our doubts give weight to our convictions and depth to our philosophy.  Questioning leads us to press further with our intellect, our heart, and our spirit.  Otherwise these qualities would atrophy.  I think you play a more pivotal role in people’s lives than you give yourself credit for.  And if you don’t believe me then try asking those who come to your for support and guidance.  Sometimes we think that spiritual experiences are supposed to be these big AHA moments—and they aren’t.  Oftentimes they’re just simple passages where you help someone to glimpse the highest in themselves—and then encourage them to live according to that.

I'm going to be applying for a government grant in my field (substance abuse) in the near future and wonder about timing.  I would be working with large numbers of people who are either on their way to prison or on their way out into society again.  Since this grant is huge, I don't want to take chances on the timing of it.  I don't have any relationships with people who are in a position to give me a grant.  I'm a complete unknown, unfortunately.  I'm afraid that I'm not very good at promoting myself.  I'm attending conferences, but I'm an introvert, so it's very difficult for me to make important connections.  I was born 8/13/47 in the early a.m.  What do you see in the stars for me?

You should apply for the grant as soon as possible.  Now most astrologers would probably caution you against doing such a thing while Venus is retrograde.  Although a Venus retrograde isn’t as bedeviling as a Mercury retrograde, a Venus retrograde will still bring out people’s dark sides—as evidenced in the recent cases of bullying and gay teen suicides.  Yet this may also be the very thing that brings attention to your cause.  How people treat each other in society is something that’s on everyone’s radar now and you have an opportunity to tap into that.

Meanwhile you were born with Jupiter in Scorpio and Jupiter rules government and philanthropic institutions.  A Scorpio Jupiter says that you would want to apply for a grant during the Scorpio time of year which is October 23 through November 21, 2010.  Indeed November 18th and 19th look particularly auspicious as the Moon in Taurus will be arcing over your midheaven.  The midheaven is like the 12 Noon point.  It’s the most important part of the astrological chart.

Now even if you’re turned down, I still feel this is a worthwhile experience because you’ll learn what to do (and what not to do) for next time.  However I do have a good feeling that this is the time to get the ball rolling.  Jupiter enters Aries (a fire sign like Leo) on January 22, 2011.  Aries rules the 9th house of your horoscope (the house of grants) and Jupiter will be forming a trine to your stellium of planets in Leo from February 12, 2011 through April 19, 2011.  After that Jupiter enters Taurus and will be passing over your midheaven for an entire year beginning in June 2011.  These are strong indications that you will be taking a significant step forward with your career.  So what about your introversion?  I think the more that you can stay “on message” about the work that you do, the more impassioned and emboldened you’ll become.  Few people are good at promoting themselves, however that all changes when you promote something that you believe in because you take yourself out of the equation and you let that higher purpose of yours speak for itself.  This should help you to transcend your shyness and to make the connections you need to make.  Always remember that what you’re doing is exciting and the more that other people find out about it, the more excited they’ll become too.

I have been an RN for over 25 yrs.  My current job is very stressful.  The providers have hired an efficiency expert who is taking a lot of work from the doctors and giving it to me.  A year ago I was diagnosed with kidney cancer and I'm trying to avoid stress but find it very difficult to get the energy to go to work every day.  All I would like to do is retire and take care of my health.  Do you see me retiring and if so when? If not, what can I do as I feel completely burned out.  My DOB is 6/15/56.

Retirement looks like the way to go.  You asked your question when the Sun was at 28 degrees Virgo forming an exact opposition to the Jupiter and Uranus conjunction at 28 degrees Pisces.  Jupiter is a planet associated with hospitals (it rules over government agencies and philanthropic institutions) and Uranus is the planet of revolution and change.  The conjunction (which means that Jupiter and Uranus were in the exact same place in the sky when you asked your question) shows that you are currently undergoing radical changes in your work environment.  This is due to an overall re-structuring and though it was probably represented as something that would take place quickly, I suspect that this re-structuring is lasting longer than your superiors anticipated.  This is due to the fact that Jupiter and Uranus were both retrograde at the time that you asked your question.  Retrogrades often bring unforeseen complications, delays, and postponements.   This workload that you’re describing doesn’t look like it will be lifting any time soon.  In fact there’s good reason to believe that it’s going to get heavier, so this would be a good time to retire.

Now be forewarned that your superiors won’t be too happy about this because you are a valued member of the staff and they appear to be shorthanded.  Nevertheless your health is your top priority right now and you really need to stand by that.  It looks to me like you can retire some time between January 14, 2011 and February 8, 2011.  This is when both Jupiter and Uranus will be out of retrograde and passing over the opposition points at 28 degrees Pisces.

Meanwhile I think the idea that there’s a light at the end of the tunnel (i.e. setting a retirement deadline) will do a lot to boost your energy and spirits.  This will help you to get through the workday.  However I would advise you to seek out some kind of personal counseling as you make this transition.  You’re fortunate in that you were born with a very strong body, however my concern is that you are a Gemini with Ruling Planet Mercury in Gemini.  Mercury is the planet of the mind and Gemini minds needs to be kept busy or they can start to worry and stress out.  Start looking for ways to channel your mental energy in constructive ways (perhaps you want to explore some kind of visualization exercises, meditation workshops, or even yoga) so that the transition to your new life will be a joyous and empowering one.

Last year was a tough one.  I lost a loved one to suicide, my job of 15 years and helped my father as he struggled with a bout of cancer.  I visited with a psychic after my friend passed.  She told me I am a strong empath and have a gift of healing.  She urged me to find a way to use this gift, that I need to do so in order to stay spiritually healthy and to continue to grow.  I want to make a new job for myself where I can make a little money and also make a difference in one or two lives.  What is my next step?  I need help finding a way.  My birthday is 6/15/70 Salt Lake City UT 11:22am

I can see why the psychic says that you are a strong empath.  You have four planets in water signs and the water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces) are often referred to as the “psychic” signs of the zodiac.  That’s because the water element rules what Carl Jung called the Collective Unconscious which means that these are the signs that have unlimited access to their own dreams and psyches—as well as the dreams and psyches of others.  Having been through an emotionally challenging year, I can see how you would want to help others deal with their own hardships.  Not only do you know what it’s like, but it could be both rehabilitative and restorative.

However you were born under Gemini and Geminis are not empaths.  Geminis are communicators—and this is an important difference.  Empaths take on people’s emotions.  Much like a chameleon takes on the color of the foliage surrounding it, empaths heal by submerging themselves in others’ psyches and then changing the flow of that emotional undercurrent on a depth level.  This requires an ability to erase the line between “you” and “me.”

Gemini is an air sign and air signs are acutely aware that no two people share the same experience.  Emotions can be felt on a universal, non-verbal level while language was invented for the express purpose of describing people’s distinctly individual points of view. We use language to describe what kind of love we feel for someone or to articulate the reasons for our despair.  Air signs do better with “talking” cures because they believe that words can redirect one’s thinking in a more positive and constructive way.

My feeling is that you are in the process of processing last year’s losses.  You went through a heavy time and that can give the false impression that life will always be sorrowful and intense when the reality is you went through a heavy time and now you may be moving into a lighter one.  Yet you still sound like you’re interested in doing some kind of spiritual work and I would encourage you to explore the different disciplines.  Choose something like palmistry, numerology, tarot, etc., learn the nuts and bolts of it, and then see for yourself if it’s a good fit.  The wonderful thing about being born under Gemini is that you’re a quick study and if anyone can turn a “pastime” into a source of revenue in no time—it’s a Child of Mercury.

I met an intriguing man whose 18 years my junior and I asked him out for a date on July 7.  We had our first date on July 17 and have had many more dates since.  We discussed our age difference and it isn't an issue.  This seems to be developing into a serious relationship and he is a Libra.  Do we have a future?  My birth date is 12/31/1961

I like the fact that you started dating just as your Ruling Planet, Saturn, entered Libra on July 21, 2010.  This is good because your Ruling Planet traveling through your friend’s astrological sign strengthens your rapport and solidifies the attraction between you.

The nice thing about going out with a Libra is that he will always check in with you to see how you’re doing.  Libra is the sign of relationships in Astrology and the focus is often on the other person.  This is what makes them so sensitive, well-mannered, and easy to get along with.  Although Librans do have a reputation for being “wishy-washy” it’s not really the most accurate way of describing them.   Librans are pretty decisive (Libra is a cardinal sign after all) but they want to make sure that everyone else is on board with whatever it is that they decide to do.  Rather than boss people around (like an Aries), Libras will often ask questions, make suggestions, or introduce hypotheticals to alert you to what they think is the best course of action.  Their approach is indirect and subtle but it serves two purposes.  They win you over to their side by making you feel like their idea of what you should do was your idea all along and they wind up getting their way without having to fight for it.  This is why so many four-star generals were born under the zodiac sign of Libra.  They’re natural born strategists.

Where you may run into trouble as a Capricorn is when you try to pin him down on specific future plans and dates.  As a Capricorn you’re very agenda driven when it comes to your schedule because you don’t like to feel like you’re wasting your time and energy.  Librans, however, like to maintain a strict open-ended policy when it comes to dating.  They really believe that a relationship should be free to unfold on its own.  As a Capricorn you’ll need more concrete assurances and may even have trouble with this Libran laissez-faire approach.   Just remember that laissez-faire does not mean careless.  It’s a different type of relating—perhaps an approach that you’re not used to—but a valid way of interacting nonetheless.

Also keep in mind that his Ruling Planet Venus will be turning retrograde on October 8, 2010.  In fact Venus has already entered her “shadow” period which means that you may already be experiencing some bumps on the road to happiness.  If so, then it’s good to remember that this happens to everyone and the success of any relationship depends on the way that you negotiate these as a twosome.  The idea of “twosome” is Libra’s cardinal virtue.  Focus on that and you should never have cause to doubt him.

My daughter is living with a man 20 years older than she is and he has a daughter who is 11.  The daughter does not have a stable home environment and every time her father talks about bringing her home to live with him, my daughter freaks out.  She says she does not want to be a mom at 22.  This last time it happened, she realizes she can't do it and realizes she has to choose.  They have been together 3 years and she says it will be like getting a divorce.  He is begging her to stay.  Can you tell me what her stars say?  Will she finally be strong enough to leave?  I love her so much.  Her birthday is 6-28-88.

It looks to me like your daughter will be moving out.  There was a lunar eclipse opposite her Sun in Cancer on June 26, 2010 followed by Saturn passing over the last degrees of Virgo in July 2010.  This is critical because Saturn formed a square to your daughter’s Ruling Planet, the Moon, in Sagittarius.  The eclipse and the square work like a one-two punch.  Lunar eclipses clear away anything that’s on shaky ground and Saturn squaring her Ruling Planet seals the deal because squares will bring anything that’s in conflict to a full boil.  However I would like to recast the conflict here if I may.  I don’t believe that the choice lies with your daughter.  From your description it sounds like she made it pretty clear that she wasn’t going to live with her boyfriend’s 11-year old daughter which is perfectly understandable because your daughter is only 22.  The person who has to make the painful choice here is the boyfriend who appears in your daughter’s horoscope as Saturn.  Saturn is the ruler of the lunar eclipse that took place in Capricorn on June 26, 2010 which makes Saturn, the planet of trials and tribulations, the astrological agent for what’s transpiring.  Saturn also typically describes an older person who can be anywhere from seven to fourteen to twenty-one years older.  Saturn rules over seven year increments.  In any case it looks to me like this is about your daughter’s boyfriend being forced to choose between his lover and his child who does not have a stable home environment.  Obligation and responsibility always win out in a Saturn dilemma and I believe that your daughter’s boyfriend will ultimately choose to provide a home for his 11-year old daughter.

But just because your daughter moves out doesn’t mean she will end the relationship.  And this is where you need to be careful because you clearly don’t approve and could unwittingly become the villain of the piece.  The best thing you can do is to provide support, but steer clear of giving your daughter advice because it will only blow up in your face.  Be neutral and loving and bite your tongue.  Rest assured that the outcome was decided back in July so all you have to do is let things play out to their inevitable conclusion and everyone will see that it’s for the best.

Hello Mr. Renstrom.  I have been in touch with an old boyfriend after 35 years.  He was my first.  I believe we still care for each other.  When we talk, it feels as though we were never apart.  We live about two hours driving distance apart.  Do you see us reuniting in the near future?  I am single and I believe he was married, but I’m not sure if he is single now.  If he is married, I will cut my losses and move on.  My birthday is 04/01/1955 and his is 03/22/1954.  He lives in Alabama and I live in Georgia.  Please advise.

The first order of the day is to find out if he’s married or not.  If he is, then that’s the end of that.  If he isn’t, then I would encourage you to proceed.

The strongest pairings in Astrology are between people who are born under the same zodiac sign.  You and your old boyfriend were both born under Aries and this is good because Aries is a cardinal sign.  The cardinal signs are the zodiac signs connected to the equinoxes (like Aries and Libra) and the solstices (like Cancer and Capricorn).  They take life seriously and expect everyone else to do the same.  What this says to me is that you and your old boyfriend are both on the same page when it comes exploring the possibilities of entering into a relationship now.

However you do need to pay attention to one thing and that’s the fact that your old boyfriend was born with his Venus in Aries.  Venus is the planet of relationships in Astrology and truth to tell she doesn’t do so well in Aries.  People born with Venus in Aries tend to be combative and argumentative.  In a man’s chart it can signal someone who can be passionate one moment and then “over it” the next.  My sense is that he doesn’t have the greatest track record with women because he either runs hot and cold or he gets too critical and controlling.  These qualities will be exacerbated during the time that Venus is retrograde (October 8, 2010 through November 18, 2010) so be on the look out for it.  This won’t be an easy time for him (or you) and he’ll be doing the three steps forward two steps back shuffle.  If you guys can make it through to December then I would say that your future together looks pretty good.

What I like about your two horoscopes is that his Venus in Aries is conjunct your Sun.  What this says is that you “get” him.  You understand where he’s coming from and probably don’t mind his provocative remarks too much because you have a thick skin and will likely fire back with some choice comments of your own.  The strongest link between two people born under Mars (which is your Ruling Planet) is the camaraderie.  You two will always be there for each other.  If things don’t work out between you, then you still couldn’t ask for a better friend; and if things do work out love-wise?  Then you will see that it was well worth the effort by the spring of 2011.

I am 60.  I have been single forever.  I have always felt that I would rather be alone than to be with someone just for the sake of having someone.  Is there some unknown to me blockage that prevents me from finding my man?  I have had dates here and there and although these men are good and nice and decent, I just don't feel the spark that makes me want to see them again.  I am fiercely independent and most of the time I have no problem being alone.  What is my problem?  Or is there a problem?  My birth date is December 1, 1949.

I don’t think you have a problem with being alone.  You were born under the fiercely independent sign of Sagittarius.  Sagittarius is a fire sign which means that you value your freedom more than anything else.  Fire is the element of spirit in Astrology, so being who you are—which includes doing what you please and going where you want to go-- is very important.  You are ruled by your enthusiasms, your beliefs, and your love of adventure.  You want to be open to whatever happens in life and you are always looking to broaden your horizons.

You are not going to change any of this for the sake of being with someone.  I think you’ve spent enough years on the planet to know that that’s a zero-sum game.  Moreover you were born with your Ruling Planet Jupiter in the zodiac sign of Aquarius.  Like Sagittarius, Aquarius is a freedom-loving, independent thinking sign.  This heightens the roving tendencies that are already inherent in your birth planet.  It also tells me that you may be more comfortable doing things in a group.  You enjoy the company of friends and are always on the lookout for meeting like-minded people.  The more challenging area for you is one-on-one relationships.  Now you may say it’s because you don’t want anyone bringing you down or that you even get bored easily, but Children of Jupiter have problems with intimacy.  Part of this stems from the fact that Jupiter’s Children are notoriously restless and part of it comes from the fact that you believe that you can always do better.

You can be with someone without feeling like you have to sign away your life.  My suspicion is that you went through a rough passage a few years ago (between 2007 and 2009 maybe?) and that it’s made you skittish.  The partner thing can get pretty heavy with all of its expectations and baggage, however being friends with men (and I do mean plural) allows you to enjoy their company and to be who you are at the same time.  If you approach men from a friendship place—rather than a romantic interest place—then I think you’ll find that they’re a lot more fun.  And if anything develops—like it could in the spring of 2011—then it would evolve organically.  The best relationship comes from two people who want to be together and not from two people who feel like they have to be together.  These are relationships borne out people who truly enjoy one another’s company and who want the best for each other.

My birthday is 3-21-45 and his is 9-13-52.  We are best friends, but he has no appreciation of how other people think.  What works for him should work for everyone-- for instance anyone who doesn't have a Mac is stupid or I am stubborn because I won't go see Avatar.  He told me, albeit when he was frazzled, that I have stupid ideas.  I have tried to talk to him before and it does no good.  He just says that's the way he is and he is not going to even try to change.  Well, it happened again and we have parted ways.  I KNOW it's not personal.  I know he doesn't mean to be rude but I can only take so much.  So should I let my best friend fire me or always be the one who compromises?

First of all you are not stupid.  You’re an Aries and Aries is one of the brightest signs of the zodiac because Aries rules the head.  Your friend is a Virgo and Virgo is ruled by Mercury—the planet of the mind.  Virgos don’t have stupid friends.  However people born under Virgo and Aries do tend to be headstrong—but in different ways.  Virgos are unapologetic intellectuals.  They pride themselves on their analytical abilities and their technical prowess.  This is why your friend thinks you should be up-to-date on the latest technological wizardry like Macs and Avatar.  He wants the best for you and this is his way of saying it.  People born under Aries, however, are what I call  “closet” intellectuals.  For some reason they put themselves down when it comes to their book learning and will often play dumb.  Your friend knows that you’re smarter than you let on and he probably gets impatient when you pretend otherwise.  He may see himself as your self-appointed mentor, which might have been all right once, but not now.

You are in the process of changing as a person thanks to Jupiter, the planet of spiritual evolution, traveling through your zodiac sign. You aren’t going to suffer fools gladly—nor are you going to put up with intellectual bullies.  I think you’re tired of your friend’s intolerance and given the ornery behavior you describe, it sounds like you’ve had enough of his take-it-or-leave-it attitude as well.  Now relationships are all about give-and-take and compromises are a necessary fact of life.  But there’s a difference between compromise and feeling compromised.  A compromise involves two people working out their differences together by establishing common ground.

I think the best way to talk to your friend is to talk about yourself.  Talk about how you need to be who you are in your friendship and not his idea of who you should be.  Isn’t that the point of friendship?  If you can’t be yourself with your best friend then who can you be yourself with?  Being true to oneself should never come at the expense of someone else’s authenticity.  This is something that I’m sure your best friend would understand.  Have the conversation after August 21, 2010 and you’ll find that your friend is a lot more open-minded about these sorts of things then you might think.

My son (born 11/20/91 8:14 am, Orange County, NY) appears to have a grand trine.  What can we expect?  He starts college this fall, majoring in engineering.  Mom in NJ

Your son was born with a grand trine in earth which means that he has at least one planet in each of the three earth signs in his horoscope.  In your son’s case he was born with four planets in earth signs in addition to the north node.  Each of these planets stands at one point of an enormous triangle that appears when you draw a line from his Moon in Taurus to his Jupiter in Virgo, and then finally to the north node, Uranus, and Neptune in Capricorn.  This triangle is called a “grand trine”.  Grand trines confer good fortune and protection in the element where they appear.  When the element is earth then you can expect protection in health, wealth, and work.  Now grand trines usually show up in the horoscopes of people who have been severely tested in these areas of life, so your son may have undergone periods where he experienced health challenges, financial hardship, or difficulty in school.  I wonder about health issues—particularly early in his life.  He was born with his Ruling Planets Mars and Pluto conjunct his Sun in Scorpio.  One often sees this in the horoscopes where infancy was difficult.

Thankfully that Mars and Pluto energy also gives your son his drive to succeed.  He may have been thrown a few roadblocks early on, but these roadblocks make Scorpios even more hell-bent on mastering their circumstances.  I like that he’s majoring in engineering because Mars is the planet of machines and Pluto is all about harnessing power—whether it’s oil, electric, water, or an alternative energy source.  These planets will work nicely with the grand earth trine because the earth signs are Astrology’s builders.  They’re famous for their hard work, industry, and love of structure and design.  Finally Uranus—the planet that is the most closely connected to architecture, engineering, and design-- is almost exactly conjunct his north node in Capricorn.  The north node rules over “where you are going” in the horoscope so this is yet another indicator that your son is on the right path.

The Jupiter in Virgo up in the 9th house says that this is a very scholarship friendly chart and that your son can expect to receive money through higher learning institutions.  He also has good luck with philanthropic institutions and should keep that in mind for future grants.  Finally, your son should always think BIG.  Jupiter is the planet of governments, so he would do well working for a city or state government.  And by the way, that doesn’t necessarily mean he will remain in the United States.  Jupiter in the 9th house could indicate working for the United States government overseas OR working for an overseas government.  In any case first thing’s first and that’s getting through school.  It looks like your son will be taking on quite a workload this fall, so remind him to keep his eyes on the prize because it’s a prize that will yield enormous dividends later.

My name is Irene.  My birthdate is June 8, 1966.  Mike's birthday is April 6.  What does he feel about me as far as a relationship is concerned?  Is he interested in me romantically?

Mike’s birthday is April 6, so that makes him an Aries.  Aries is a cardinal sign, which means that if Mike sees something he wants, then he’ll go after it.  Moreover Mars, the planet of passion, rules Aries.  This means that Mike has strong feelings, strong opinions, and will pretty much tell it like it is.  You would know by now if Mike was interested in you romantically, which begs the question—have you told him what you feel?

You’re a Gemini and Gemini is a very people friendly sign.  Your Ruling Planet is Mercury and Mercury is the planet of communication in Astrology.  Children of Mercury are easy to talk to which is why so many people look forward to spending time with you.  Plus you’re a lot of fun!  You always have a story to tell or an idea in mind for something entertaining to do.  When you add that you’re a natural born problem-solver then is it any wonder why yours is one of the most popular signs of the zodiac?  The problem with Geminis (and Virgos too because they’re also ruled by Mercury) is that you can come across more like a friend than a romantic interest.  Geminis tend to keep things “light and breezy” and when your Ruling Planet Mercury is in Cancer like yours is, then you’re also going to be shy about expressing your feelings.  The watery energy of Cancer makes you deeply emotional, but water signs tend to feel their feelings more than express them.  People with strong watery energy in their horoscope often come across as unfeeling when the opposite is true.  This can give the impression to someone like Mike that you aren’t interested and that you just want to be friends.  And Mike—being the kind of straightforward guy that he is—will take you at your word.

You and Mike have a lot of things going on in your lives right now.  You appear to be absorbed with taking care of a lot of family stuff and maybe even some property matters given that last month’s eclipses took place in Capricorn and Cancer.  Mike also appears to be dealing with a lot of work issues and is struggling to make ends meet.  The fact that you’re both dealing with tough times may be the reason for your talks and visits.  This can create a bond between you, but not necessarily a romance.  At this point it looks like you’re friends.  If you want something more then you’re going to have to be the one to float that idea out to him.

I would advise waiting until after August 10, 2010 to test the waters about how he feels.  Mike will be in a much better headspace (and heart space) to listen to what you have to say.  Even if he just wants to be friends, you’ll find that you mean a lot to him and that he truly values you for who you are.

For the last several years, I have made a sincere effort to get fit.  I have lost 30 pounds in the process, but still have those last five pounds that I just can’t seem to lose.  To mix up my routine, I set a fitness goal to train for and complete a 5k run.  Do you see me losing those last few pounds and completing a 5k over the summer?  My birthday is 1-19-1980.

If I knew the secret to losing those last five pounds, I’d be a bazillionaire!  That said, the answer to your question is part perception, part horoscope.  The perception part is simple—there will always be five pounds left to lose.  It doesn’t matter if you’re a member of Weight Watchers or a triathlon athlete.  One would think that now that we have the technical ability to count every calorie and to measure every iota of body fat that we would also possess a surefire means of attaining the body of our dreams.  But like in a nightmare dream sequence where you find yourself running down a hallway that only seems to stretch out longer and longer before you, it seems as if people have become even more frustrated and dissatisfied with their body shape and weight.  This reflects the classic split between our perception and our reality and I’m afraid that it doesn’t go away.  I have read horoscopes for top models and athletes who still see themselves as overweight even though their bodies grace the covers of magazines and are held up as the ideal.  I think it’s human nature to become even more critical of oneself as you move closer towards accomplishing and fulfilling your goals.  Maybe it’s based on perfectionism or maybe it’s based on control and the fear of backsliding.  In any case I believe it’s healthier to adopt a give-and-take approach to something like a target weight because your weight changes every day-- if not every hour.

The horoscope part of your answer is simple.  You’re an earth sign and earth signs—like water signs—have a hard time losing weight.  Earth amasses while water absorbs.  Doing things to increase your metabolic rate (like running) is always a good idea.  The only thing that I would caution you about is not to overdo.  As a Capricorn with Ruling Planet Saturn in Virgo you’re extremely disciplined and once you’re hooked into a regular exercise routine you won’t change it.  However you will also expect to maintain—if not surpass—what you accomplished the day before.  Please remember that each day is different and—like your weight—your results will fluctuate.  If you can keep that in mind then you will cut down on sports injuries, prevent burnout, and turn exercise into something that you actually enjoy doing.  Meanwhile mixing up your routine is always a good idea (especially given your Saturn in Virgo) and training for and competing in a 5k this summer is truly inspired.  You may even see a drop in poundage when Saturn enters Libra, an air sign, on July 21, 2010.  But by then you’ll probably have your eyes set on a new target weight.  What can I say?  It’s human nature.

In 2005 my spouse of 30+ years told me she didn't love me "like that" anymore.  Our devotion to family keeps us together but I feel we need a bridge, perhaps counseling to help move our relationship to a new place or have the marriage concluded.  I am also the primary caregiver for two elderly parents.  It is a consuming situation.  Finally, 30 years ago I started my business on a whim and each time my lease is up for renewal, I threaten to quit.  But my sense of obligation to my employees, the marketing needs of my clients, along with the fear of the unknown keeps me going.  I need to create change; to create renewal in my work life.  I feel like time is slipping away and my feeling of worth is diminishing.  I look forward to your thoughts.  Tom (4/24/53)

What you describe makes perfect sense for someone on the verge of his second Saturn return.  Saturn is the planet of trials and tribulations.  It tests us by placing enormous burdens on our shoulders and then it makes the weight of those burdens impossible to bear.  Nevertheless there is a higher purpose being served and it’s this: Saturn is a teacher not a tyrant; a builder and not a destroyer.  But Saturn cannot teach if we are not in the headspace to learn.  And Saturn cannot build if we already have structures in place that we insist should be there—even if they are getting in the way of our personal happiness.  It is only by showing us that our habitual approach to life no longer works that Saturn forces us to try something new.

You were born with Saturn in Libra, so being “married” is very important to you.  But being married doesn’t just mean married to your wife.  It can also mean being married to your business, your parents, and your obligations.  You are tremendously loyal and you take your responsibilities to others seriously.  You would never leave anyone hanging.  However the problem with Saturn in Libra is that you can lose the person for the responsibility.  This can lead you to treat people like items on a to-do list rather than as the spouse or parent or friend that you want them to be.

There’s something humbling about burdens proving to be too heavy and problems that defy our best efforts to solve them.  Humbling and more importantly: liberating.  Saturn, planets of tests, is also the planet of limits.  And it’s during its second return that Saturn says you’ve done everything you can do and you need to accept that for what it is.

So let go.  You won’t disappear off the face of the earth, be branded a failure or be cast out by family and friends.  Letting go—which means filing for a divorce, getting more help with your parents, and even (perhaps) selling your business or at least bringing in someone to help you manage things—would do a lot to rebalance your life.  Right now things are out of balance and it’s Saturn in Libra’s job to rectify that.  You need more “me” in your “we” and that’s what the next two years are all about.

I am going to be turning the big "40" next month.  I am happy with life and age is not bothering me at the moment.  My question is how is the outlook on money, health and travel/adventure for this maturing Leo?  I have to say that travel has been good since November of 2009 and I have been working out since February 2010 and still going strong.  Money has not been so great since October 2009. Which areas am I going to be hiding my tail and for how long? July 30, 1970. 8:46AM. SLC, UT

I’m glad to hear that you’ve been working out.  It’s a great stress-reliever and a wonderful way to channel all of that Mars energy that’s coursing through your horoscope now.  In addition to exercise, I hope that you’re also investigating changes in your diet so that you can live a more nutritionally healthy life.  We don’t always get the opportunity to make lifestyle changes because we’re often overruled by our to do lists. 

You were born with Virgo rising.  The rising sign describes the way that you approach the world.  Right now you have Mars passing through Virgo and this is good.  Mars rules action and muscle-power and Virgo is the zodiac sign of health and work.  This says that this is a good time to make changes to your daily regimen because you’re feeling motivated and driven so there’s an excellent chance that these changes will stick.  Moreover Saturn’s presence here also says that you’re serious about self-improvement and you’re disciplined as well.

However what’s good news for health may not be good news for work as Mars and Saturn together in the same sign often point to conflicts with authority.  It should be abundantly clear by now that you have either outgrown your current job or that you are working for someone whom you feel is limited.  I don’t think that this person (it could be a boss, client, or supervisor) is deliberately trying to hold you back, I think it’s more along the lines that this person is out of his depth and doesn’t know what he wants or what he is doing.  I suspect that this is common knowledge at the office, but unfortunately it doesn’t look like it will be resolved in a timely manner—which means that it would be a good idea for you to put in for a transfer or to start circulating your resumé.

You may not know it, but it looks like you hit the ceiling a while ago vis-à-vis work, so what’s needed is a fresh start in a totally different environment.  This could happen around your 40th birthday (which I personally think would be a bit too soon) or between late January and March 2011 (which I think is more likely).  In any case, I would encourage you to embrace your Mars energy and to take a proactive approach.  Not only will you rekindle your passion for the work that you do, but you will also see your income increase—which guarantees that there will be plenty of travel and adventure in your future.

My birth date is 12/31/1961.  I have my Sun, Mercury, Venus, and Mars in Capricorn with the eclipse of 12/31/09 falling on my birthday and Pluto moving into Capricorn.  I finally ended a 12-year relationship with a Scorpio and started a new job with a demanding boss and co-workers who don’t work as hard as me and are paid much more.  Will life get better for me or is this the life of a Capricorn?  I’ve also met an intriguing man who is 18 years my junior.  Should I pursue a relationship?

There’s never a dull moment when you have eclipses rolling through your sign at the same time that Pluto is passing over Venus and Mars in your horoscope.  Everything feels intense and like you’re playing for high stakes.  And you are.  But this is also the best time to make changes because you won’t feel weighed down by responsibilities or held back by obligations.

There are two very different things going on in your horoscope right now.  You’re dealing with eclipses in Capricorn and Cancer and you’re dealing with Pluto.  Let’s begin with the eclipses.  Eclipses have one job to do in Astrology and that’s to get your life back on track so that you’re living the life you want to live and not the life you feel like you have to live. This makes me want to ask if you took your current job for the financial security?  If so, then you need to rethink the game plan because it’s not a good sign if you’re working for a demanding boss and colleagues whom you feel don’t work as hard as you but still get paid more. You’re at a point in your life where you are probably more accomplished than you think but you’re never going to know it (much less own it) if you keep working for lesser lights.  When you’re born with a stellium of planets in Capricorn like you were then you need to be the person in charge otherwise you will always be chomping at the bit.  My advice is to focus less on the money (it’s not going to bring you the security that you think it will) and more on the kind of job or career that you feel would be fulfilling.  Even if you have to accept an entry-level position with another organization, you will be much happier doing something that excites and enlivens you.  Do this and the money will come.

Meanwhile Pluto going over your Venus and Mars is all about that intriguing man who’s eighteen years your junior.  Venus is love, Mars is passion, and Pluto introduces the slightly naughty, taboo element that makes the whole thing irresistible.  This may be exactly what you need right now to feel like you’re your own person again and if the fellow’s game—why not?  My only advice would be to treat this like an energy bar—something to hold you over between meals—and not like the real deal.  You have a lot of things to figure out between now and the summer of 2011 which is when the eclipse energies will have run their course.

Hi there, I noticed there is an eclipse in Cancer, right before my birthday June 27th . . . any insights or tidbits you can give me on how this eclipse will be affecting me?  Thanks!

Yes, you have a lunar eclipse taking place at 4 degrees Capricorn on June 26, 2010 on the day before your birthday.  This is important for two reasons.  The first is that you were born under the zodiac sign of Cancer which means that your Ruling Planet is the Moon.  This makes you a natural conduit for lunar eclipse energy.  The second reason is that the lunar eclipse creates a “full moon” effect in your astrological chart which means that this will be an extremely emotional time for you.  All of your wants, needs, cravings, and passions will come to the surface—including the ones you didn’t know you had.  Now I’m not saying that this will transform you into a werewolf, but things could get a bit hair-raising.  Obviously it’s not a good time for making any major life decisions, but rest assured that you’ll be thinking clearly again by July 11th.

The simple rule of thumb for surviving a lunar eclipse is to let anything that’s on iffy footing collapse and fall by the wayside.  There’s nothing you can do to salvage it because it’s outlived its purpose and you need to move on.  Sometimes this is good because the lunar eclipse allows us to shed old habits and dead-end routines that have been getting in our way for months and sometimes this is bad because we may be surprised to learn that it was our job or relationship or health that was in worse shape than we thought.  Like I said, the eclipse will be taking place at 4 degrees Capricorn, so it looks to me like it will be concentrated mostly in the area of relationships.  You could be parting company with a spouse, lover, or business partner or you could be saying good-bye to an old way of doing things. The nice thing about lunar energy is that every ending plants the seeds for a new beginning—which you should see materialize some time around September 30, 2010.

Meanwhile you will be taking a serious bottom-line view of the things that are—or are not---working in your life.  There will be no more fence-sitting or waiting around for people to make up their minds.  Your focus will be on getting your house in order—both literally and figuratively.  This is good in that you will feel very motivated and you’ll be actively making changes instead of just talking about them, however this same energy could cause you to be short and impatient with your nearest and dearest.  You’ll want to keep an eye out for that and maybe even call “time outs” for yourself during the day so that you can remember to breathe and relax.  Lunar eclipse energy may not be the easiest kind of energy to work with, but six months from now you’ll see that it was the very thing you needed in order to start living the life you want to live instead of the life you feel like you have to live.

Can you give me some insight into my love life?  I was dating a man 1/26/1978 and thought everything was going well, even though I was a little cautious because his divorce wasn't finalized.  He told me he was over it and we went from there.  Well, he just signed the divorce papers and told me that he's not ready to be in a committed relationship.  He said he might change his mind next week but right now he needs to figure out his life.  My birthday is June 4, 1971, 2:14pm Oklahoma City.

People get a little crazy when they sign their divorce papers.  It’s kind of like winning the Lottery.  There’s life before and life after and never the twain shall meet.  It’s why your gut told you to exercise caution before his divorce was finalized and your gut was right.  What also confirms this is that the fellow you were dating is an Aquarius, which means that he was born under two Ruling Planets—Uranus and Saturn.  On May 27, 2010 his Ruling Planet Uranus changed zodiac signs.  After seven years in the dreamy wistful sign of Pisces, Uranus entered the take action sign of Aries.  This would have signaled a new start for him.  Mars energy is on the ascendancy in his life right now, so he’s going to want a lot of freedom and elbow-room to pursue whatever he feels like pursuing.  Aries is much more freedom loving than Pisces is and it also increases the macho factor in his life.  Now I’m not saying that he’s going to start cruising bars with ropes of gold chains wrapped around his neck and his shirt unbuttoned down to his navel, but that might still serve as a useful visual.  I don’t think he’s in the headspace (or the heartspace) where he’s looking to get serious—much less settle down.  It would probably be a good idea to let him be on his way.  Moreover your two horoscopes don’t really line up all that well.  His other Ruling Planet, Saturn, is in Leo and it forms an almost exact square to your Ruling Planet Mercury in Taurus.  Over time you would have found that you were always playing second fiddle to his concerns and his concerns are pretty much wrapped up with him finding himself.  I don’t doubt that he’s on a journey of self-discovery and that he truly is looking.  However it’s the finding part that has me worried because I don’t think that that will be happening any time soon.  Meanwhile you have a few planets that still haven’t made their crossovers into their new signs so things are still up in the air for you love-wise.  Saturn won’t depart Virgo (your sibling sign) until July 21, 2010 and even then you still have to contend with planetary retrogrades in November and December 2010 that will be introducing an ex into the picture.  This is my way of saying that you still have some sorting out of your own to do vis-à-vis your love life, so don’t expect things to make any kind of sense before late January and/or early February 2011.

I was born January 26, 1960.  I was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer (Stage 2) right as Pluto was passing over Venus in 2007.  I’m doing well now, but am apprehensive knowing that Pluto will be hitting several other planets, all in the first house, in a few years.  What’s your take on this?  Karen

If you were diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer (Stage 2) when Pluto was passing over your Venus in 2007 (you were born with Venus at 28Sagittarius 32) then it looks like this happened around February 21 or December 17, 2007.  If so, this is good news because it means you received the diagnosis in a Jupiter month.  Jupiter rules the signs of Pisces (February 18–March 19) and Sagittarius (November 21-December 20) so any event that takes place during these dates falls under Jupiter’s influence.  Jupiter makes any good event better and any bad event will be made less severe.  But let’s say you didn’t receive the diagnosis in a Jupiter month.  It’s still not bad because you were under Jupiter’s influence throughout 2007.  Jupiter was in its own sign, Sagittarius, when you were born on January 26, 1960 and Jupiter was once again in Sagittarius in 2007. This is called a Jupiter return and it’s good because it means that Jupiter was taking on a powerfully protective role in your horoscope. 

Pluto passing over your Venus in 2007 was certainly a cause for concern.  But what really spelled trouble was that one of your Ruling Planets, Saturn, was forming a conjunction to your other Ruling Planet, Uranus, in Leo.  From an astrologer’s perspective this is what exposed you to the malevolent rays of Pluto.  Leo sits exactly opposite your sign Aquarius on the zodiacal wheel and the conjunction of Saturn in the sky in 2007 with Uranus in your birth horoscope shows that you were “out of season” and vulnerable.  It’s another way of saying that your deflector shields were down.  Thankfully Saturn has moved on and will exert a more protective influence when it enters Libra on July 21, 2010 and begins to trine your Sun in Aquarius. Your other Ruling Planet, Uranus, has also moved into a better place.  Uranus is in Aries and is now forming a sextile to your Sun in Aquarius.  Trines and sextiles bring protective energies and so your Ruling Planets will work together to counteract all of that Pluto energy.  But Pluto isn’t all bad.  Pluto is the planet of ordeals and the transformations that arise from those ordeals.  This is why Pluto is called the planet of re-birth in Astrology.  It isn’t easy putting your anxieties on the back shelf when you’re a cancer survivor.  You’re going to have your good days and your bad days.  But Pluto energy is also about reconnecting to your will to live and that reconnection often comes from brushes with death.  You may never live a fear free life, but Pluto energy can give you the courage and ferocity to live life on your terms and that’s how Pluto energy can compel you to live life to the fullest.  You really can’t ask for anything more empowering than that.

I am curious about the chart Chris uses for his daily horoscopes.  My birthday is September 22 and on every chart I have ever seen, that makes me a Virgo.  But according to the daily horoscopes, my birthday falls under Libra.  How does one chart out the dates of the signs?  Brian

Hey Brian, great question!  In Astrology the year is divided into twelve zodiac signs and each zodiac sign symbolizes a month.  But a month doesn’t begin on the 1st and end on the 30th (or 31st) like a regular calendar month does.  In Astrology a month begins when the Sun “enters” a zodiac sign and that can be any time from the 18th or 23rd of any calendar month.  For instance this year, 2010, the month of Virgo begins on August 22nd and ends on September 21st which means that anyone born between these two dates in 2010 would be a Virgo.  Anyone born on September 22, 2010 would be a Libra.  However in 2007, for instance, the month of Virgo began on August 23rd and ended on September 23rd which means that anyone born on September 22, 2007 would have been born under the sign of Virgo.  Some years Virgo begins on August 22 and some years Virgo begins on August 23.  So why does this happen?

We actually live according to two years.  There is the sidereal year and the calendar year.  The sidereal year is the time that it takes the earth to complete a single orbit around the Sun and that works out to be 365 days 6 hours and 9 minutes.  The calendar year—which is based on the Spring Equinox (and which is also what we use to set our clocks by)—works out to be 365 days 5 hours and 48 minutes.  What this means is that there is a difference of 20 minutes between our sidereal and calendar years.  That difference adds up over time which is why every four years we will reconcile the two by adding an extra day—February 29th—to the calendar.  This is the reason for the leap year.

Yet Astrologers can’t wait four years to make this reconciliation.  If we did then the timing for our horoscopes would be horribly off.  This is why adjustments for the Sun’s change of signs are made every year and if you check the newspaper horoscope column at the start of each year then you will see that some of the zodiac sign dates have changed by a day, but no more than a day.  Newspaper horoscope columnists also have the added complication of determining what time of day the Sun changed signs.  Sometimes the Sun changes signs at two minutes before midnight and sometimes the Sun changes signs at 1:35 in the afternoon.  This is always a vexing problem which is why we will often round up to the next day.  In any case you always want to check the year that you were born to see when the Sun changed signs.  If you were born in a year when the Sun moved from Virgo to Libra on September 23rd then you are definitely a Virgo.

What do you see in the next 6 months for my job and health?  Any new romance? My birthday is 04/22/1954

Your life improves after the lunar eclipse on June 26th.  Lunar eclipses are one of the most powerful planetary energies in Astrology and they are all about letting go of people and situations that have outlived their purpose or overstayed their welcome.  As a Taurus you’re not going to have an easy time with all of this “unraveling”.  That’s because Taureans tend to be territorial and fixed in their ways.  It’s in your earthy nature to stick with situations even if they aren’t working out because that is better than finding yourself at loose ends.  But jettisoning things like a dead-end job or a toxic relationship makes room for new and better situations to come into your life.  Try to embrace this energy coursing through your horoscope.  It’s not easy, but you won’t be sorry.  As for health?  Well, I’m no doctor so I can’t give you any kind of diagnosis.  Yet it looks like you’ve been living with a lot of stress and it makes sense that that stress would manifest in your body.  It’s true that Taureans are famous for their enormously powerful constitutions and—like the old Timex commercial used to say-- you can take a licking and keep on ticking.  However you may be making yourself endure an ongoing condition—perhaps something having to do with your back, joints, and/or knees—and this may require you to make some changes.  You can do this by meeting with a nutritionist or by adopting a new exercise regimen that increases flexibility like yoga or even swimming.  One other possible concern that stands out in your horoscope is headaches.  I wonder if you get these in waves and if so, then you may have to explore a medical remedy because these could become very painful and temporarily incapacitating.  From October 8, 2010 until November 18, 2010 your Ruling Planet Venus will be retrograde.  I’m afraid that this will also be a challenging time as it will trigger a lot of Scorpio’s less than flattering characteristics—like obsession, anger, and betrayal.  Needless to say this is not the time to begin a relationship and should you meet someone during this time you will find that it’s almost impossible to get together.  My advice would be to steer clear of it until after January 7, 2011.  This is when the skies clear relationship-wise and you’ll be in a much better position to pursue your heart’s desire.  In fact January and February of 2011 look very nice for you when it comes to romance and spring 2011 shows that you are in much better place than where you are now.  To sum up?  Batten down the hatches for the next six months and say good-bye to any situations that are negative and/or bringing you down.  Health concerns look manageable as long as you make changes in your lifestyle that address them.  And finally your relationship energy improves in early 2011.  It also looks like your new partner has strong Venus or Saturn energy so chances are he’ll be born under Taurus (like you), Libra, Capricorn, or Aquarius.

My husband and I have been trying to have another baby since my daughter was 6 months old.  I have gone through IVF twice with no success.  According to the doctors my husband has a low sperm count but they cannot tell us why.  My daughter prays for a sibling every night and I get so sad thinking that she may never have a sibling.  I have one frozen embryo in storage but I don't know what to do about it.  We used 25,000 dollars of our own for the IVF that didn't work and if I use the frozen Embryo it will be another 5,000 dollars that we do not have right now.  Should I go ahead and use the frozen embryo or is there a possibility that I can get pregnant naturally?  I would be devastated if the IVF didn't work again.  My birthday is 6-10-67

I am not a doctor and I have absolutely no medical knowledge.  And certainly the history you share suggests that the chances of you having another child are slim.  I would also advise against trying again if you feel like you would be devastated if the IVF didn’t work out.  I just don’t see the point of putting yourself and your family through this when there are alternatives like adoption.

However I am also an astrologer and there are certain planetary indicators in your horoscope that hint at the possibility of a surprise turnaround when it comes to having a child.  I must emphasize that these are hints and they are by no means definite.  When I cast your horoscope for the time that you asked your question you had Jupiter, the planet ruling the 5th house (which is the house of children) moving towards Uranus (the planet of revolution and change) in the astrological sign of Pisces.  Uranus is famous for unexpected twists and Jupiter is the planet of fertility named after the Greek god Zeus who was famous for impregnating various goddesses, nymphs, and maidens.  Now the Jupiter opposition to Saturn in your second house of finances says that this will cost you money which is why it leads me to believe that if you are going to have a second child then s/he would come through IVF or adoption.  Your husband is represented in the horoscope by Neptune in Aquarius ruled by Saturn and Uranus in almost exact opposition.  This confirms the low sperm count diagnosis and the need for a third party’s intervention symbolized by Jupiter in his own sign (Pisces).  Now again I have to reiterate that Astrology is a symbolic art and not a science.  Symbolically speaking Jupiter’s approach to Uranus can represent an unorthodox means of insemination but it can also represent adoption because of Jupiter’s connection to charitable institutions like churches and hospitals.  Should you choose to take the risk, then the timeframe suggested by the stars would be between now and June 26, 2010.  Again, this is a very remote chance and there is no guarantee of success, but then sometimes we have to do these things in order to put our minds at rest and that may be what makes this whole experience worth it to you in the end.

My name is Irene.  I live in Connecticut.  My birth date is June 8, 1966.  Will I have a romantic relationship or date Mike, birth date April 6, or anyone else soon?

You’re coming out of a challenging period that began in late 2007 when Saturn, the planet of tests, entered Virgo.  Saturn in Virgo would have tested you in areas of your life that pertained to health, finances, and work.  Whatever the issues—or the responsibilities—they would have built up slowly over time until they eclipsed just about everything in 2009.  2009 might have been a year when you were struggling with health matters, working long hours or perhaps spending long hours looking for work or waiting on loved ones hand and foot.  In any case it’s not until recently that you would have felt like situations were back under control and that you could start to focus on other areas of your life—like love.  Now this Saturn influence will still be with you until May 23, 2010 so I wouldn’t expect to see much of anything romance-wise before then.  However things can—and will—change considerably around the time that Uranus enters Aries on May 27, 2010.  Uranus is the planet of revolution and change in Astrology.  And when Uranus enters Aries on May 27th, it will create a square to your Mercury in Cancer.  This is a pretty big deal because Mercury is your Ruling Planet.  What this says is that you will undergo some electrifying changes in your private life and they should be dramatic and exciting.  But you should also know that these changes will be volatile and unpredictable.  Now these changes could involve Mike.  Uranus is moving into the zodiac sign of Aries after all and Mike is an Aries.  But it could also mean that Mike serves as a catalyst for change in your life, so you have to be open to that possibility as well.  In other words you may go on a date with Mike and find that you like him, but not romantically; or that you two hit it off but then things fizzle out quickly.  One must always expect the unexpected when Uranian energy is strong because Uranus is like that bolt out of the blue that strikes us without warning and winds up turning our lives around.  Now if things work out between you and Mike—great!  But if they don’t, then I wouldn’t worry about it too much if I were you because Jupiter—another eye-opening and life-expanding planet-- will also be crossing over into Aries in June and forming a square to your Ruling Planet Mercury in Cancer.  The upshot is that Uranus and Jupiter will work together to change the fixtures in your life—and for the better but only if you’re willing to get into the spirit of adventure and to let yourself try things that you wouldn’t normally try.  Things rarely turn out the way that we imagine when Uranus and Jupiter energy is strong, but chances are that whatever takes place this summer will pave the way to a long-term relationship that begins in earnest in early 2011.

I met a woman named Jennifer (2/17/57) on the internet when she lived in Chicago but now she is temporarily helping her mother in Davao City, Philipines.  I have had many false starts since I last got divorced in 1978, so tell me what is real.  Is this person intended for me or is there someone else?  Although I am in a good place, having a mate might make it better.  Look forward with interest to your response.  Angel (8/01/45).

I think the biggest question I have when I look at yours and Jennifer’s charts is how much time have you two actually spent together in person?  You and Jennifer were born in opposite zodiac signs which means that you were born at opposite times of the year.  Opposite sign pairings can be exciting, but they can also be challenging too.  You can think of opposite zodiac sign pairings as two people sitting across from each other on a see-saw.  When one of you is up, the other one is down.  This can manifest as an out-of-sync pattern in the relationship so that when one of you is coming the other one is going, when one of you is here the other one is there, when one of you is ready to move forward in the relationship, the other one is unavailable, etc.  Now there are plenty of opposite sign pairings that work out successfully—Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are an example—but they can by tricky and they require a lot of time and patience.

My feeling is that things have been on “automatic pilot” since December 2009 and that it’s not until Mars came out of retrograde on March 10, 2010 that you began to seriously assess what kind of future you and Jennifer have together.  Now Jennifer looks like she’s been busy caring for her mother, which is understandable, but this could also continue for another year and a half due to Neptune’s prolonged stay in Aquarius.  I don’t think you have to put things on hold until then but I do think that you and Jennifer should start spending more time together and that needs to be a higher priority if you want your relationship to grow.

If you can, try to get together in person between May 27, 2010 and June 7, 2010.  Planetary shifts in both of your horoscopes show that this would be a very good time to discuss the future of your relationship.  You will both be open to test-driving ideas that you might not have been open to otherwise. Again my question isn’t so much whether or not you two would make a good match—you do!—my question has more to do with the choices you need to make to get together and to be a part of each other’s lives.  It’s doable if you’re both willing to make the effort, but it really will take effort because it won’t happen by itself.  You should really know where things stand by the time that Saturn re-enters Libra on July 26, 2010.  Meanwhile I hope things work out between you and Jennifer because your horoscopes truly look nice together.

A friend of mine is an amateur astrologer and did a chart for me.  He said my Moon was in the 12th house, but he didn’t really seem to be able to explain to me what that means.  He said it had something to do with the unconscious.  Can you help explain to me what the significance of a moon in the 12th house is?  My birth date is May 2, 1965 8:15 a.m.

The Moon symbolizes the mother in your horoscope and rules over hearth, home, and family.  The Moon is also the planet that is most visible in the night sky (the nocturnal counterpart to the Sun), which is why the Moon governs sleep and the unconscious.  The Moon will always tell you “what you feel”, she gives you your sense of belonging, outlines your emotional comfort zone and describes your instinctual life-- running the gamut from predilections and habits to self-preservation.

The 12th house is easily the most enigmatic house in your horoscope.  It used to have a dreadful reputation and was connected to things like self-undoing, prisons, insane asylums, and hidden enemies.  In fact the 12th house’s reputation was so awful that there was a concerted effort by astrologers to dress it up so that by the 1970s it was reinterpreted as the house of karma and past lives.  New Age astrologers would read the planets in the 12th house as signposts pointing the way to karmic lessons that needed to be mastered in your current incarnation.  In this context the Moon in the 12th house would indicate unresolved past life issues pertaining to the mother and motherhood.  The Moon in the 12th house might indicate a separation from your mother early on in life or anxieties around the issue of mothering that interfere with you having your own children. 

I tend to read the 12th house as the closet where the family skeletons are kept.  I see it as symbolizing a psychic inheritance that’s passed down from one generation to the next.  It could be a secret talent, genius, or gift.  It could also be an addiction or that “bad seed” behavior that keeps popping up mysteriously.  Planets in the 12th house can symbolize a hidden potential or pitfall and the Moon in the 12th house would show that these are connected to your mother or to her side of the family.

Having the Moon in Taurus in the 12th house brings up matters of money and security.  Chances are you get a bit obsessed when it comes to balancing your monthly budget and this may have led to you choosing a vocation—or even a relationship—that you knew would pay the bills.  But a Moon in Taurus in the 12th house isn’t just about working hard.  It also symbolizes a secret talent for the arts (especially music) and a love for the finer things.  Now I’m not saying that you should moonlight as a chanteuse, but you may want to give your creative side more of a chance to express itself.  Whatever your secret talent I hope you make use of it because it would fulfill you on a very deep and soulful level.

I’m getting ready to move into a bigger and better home on May 1 with my children, but I am a little worried that I might have bitten off more than I can chew.  Am I heading in the right direction with my life especially with Mercury in retrograde?  My birthday is 6/4/71, 2:14 PM, Oklahoma City, OK.

I can understand your concern.  Not only is Mercury currently retrograde in the sky, but you also have the Saturn and Uranus opposition taking place on April 26, 2010 at 28 degrees Virgo and 28 degrees Pisces respectively.  You were born with Pluto rising at 26 degrees Virgo so this opposition will be impacting your horoscope dramatically.  Pluto is the planet most intimately connected to our survival instinct so it’s perfectly natural for you to be feeling stressed out and wondering if you might not be tempting Fate by making a move like this and at this time.  However it’s the Saturn and Uranus opposition that says that this is precisely the time for you to be moving and that you are doing it under favorable conditions.  Saturn is the planet of what’s status quo.  It will always take the side of consistency and stability.  Uranus, on the other hand, is the planet of revolution and change.  Uranus likes to break away from what’s tried-and-true and to do something that’s completely radical and different.  When these two planets face off then you will feel like you’re caught in the middle of a huge cosmic tug-of-war.  You’ll want to stick to with what’s safe and secure, but you also know that you need to bump things up a notch in your life.  It’s never easy going outside of our comfort zone, but then again: Isn’t that what growth is all about?


Meanwhile I wouldn’t worry so much about the Mercury retrograde if I were you.  It’s true that Mercury retrogrades are famous for throwing a monkey wrench into your best-laid plans and for interrupting the smooth running of our everyday lives (the volcano incident in Iceland that disrupted international air traffic began around the time that Mercury turned retrograde on April 17th), but Mercury retrogrades tend to be more vexing than disastrous. It’s always a good idea to add two weeks to the game plan when Mercury is retrograde so you can make time for the unexpected complications that will inevitably arise.  For instance you may be set to move in on May 1st but it could be delayed until mid-month for a variety of unforeseen reasons.  But what I like about this move is that it’s taking place during your Mercury return.  This is very important for a Gemini like yourself.  Now Mercury returns take place once a year, but this one is especially important because Mercury rules your Ascendant (Virgo) and it will be creating a powerful trine during this Saturn and Uranus opposition.  Trines are benevolent protective energies in Astrology and it’s always a good sign when they appear.  You will be under the influence of this earthy Mercury trine through Memorial Day weekend which says to me that you should be settled comfortably into your new environs by early June.

Can you give me some insight into my love life?  My husband and I have been together for 10 years.  In the past several years the relationship between us has changed significantly and we are now separated and living apart.  I am at a point in the relationship where I am not sure that things between us can be fixed.  However I am feeling a tremendous amount of guilt about this decision.  Do you think a reconciliation is in the future or should we both move on?  My birthday is 6-23-74 and his birthday is 5-22-72.

Divorce is never easy—especially for a Cancer.  Born under the zodiac sign of hearth and home it would have been very painful for you to separate and live apart.  The fact that you made this decision—and stuck by it—tells me that you’re serious about getting a divorce so you need to make peace with your decision and move on.

On October 16th, 2009 Mars, the planet of willpower and drive, entered the zodiac sign of Leo.  This is important for two reasons.  First-- your Ruling Planet is the Moon and it’s in Leo and secondly-- you were born with Mars in Leo in your horoscope.  This is called a Mars return in Astrology and it symbolizes a time when you’re feeling very passionate about what you want—and don’t want—in your life.  These passions may involve people, but they could also target goals you set for yourself or push you to live the life you’ve always wanted to live.  A Mars return (especially when it involves the Moon) is a time when you want what you want and you’re going to go for it.  However Mars turned retrograde on December 20, 2009.  “Retrograde” refers to a backwards motion and this is when you would have experienced a sudden loss of nerve.  Mars is also the planet of men, so your husband may have been going through a rough patch over the winter where he needed you and you felt like you just couldn’t leave him hanging.  This would have highlighted the split between the things you do because you want to do them the things you do because you feel you have to do them.

Mars emerged from its retrograde on March 10, 2010 and this is when you reconnected to that resolve and drive that was MIA over the winter. I see you moving ahead with your divorce and it should be finalized around the time that Mars leaves Leo on June 6, 2010.  But you need to be in your own corner.  Yes, it would be easier to stay put; to make concessions and to serve the marriage rather than yourself.  But I think you know by now that that’s untenable and I suspect that your husband knows it too. Passion is a big deal when you have your Ruling Planet in a fire sign.  Moreover Leo is the sign of the heart.  When you have your Ruling Planet in Leo then you have to be true to your heart and you have to be true to yourself.  It’s the only way to live.

I would like to know when would be the best time for me to submit my query/manuscript to a Publisher or Agency.  My birthdate is January 27, 1965.

The best time is NOW because you’re undergoing some very important planetary transits in your horoscope that pertain to publishing.  You were born under the zodiac sign of Aquarius so you have two Ruling Planets—Saturn and Uranus.  Right now Uranus is currently in the sign of Pisces.  That in and of itself wouldn’t be too interesting except for the fact that Neptune, the planet that rules Pisces, happens to be in your sign, Aquarius.  This is called a mutual reception in Astrology and it’s really quite powerful.  Now this mutual reception has been going on for years and again that doesn’t really look like much except for two things that relate directly to your question.  The first is that your Ruling Planet Uranus will reach 28 degrees Pisces on April 12, 2010 which is the same day that Neptune, the ruler of Pisces, will be at 28 degrees Aquarius.  This creates a hotspot in your horoscope so that whatever planet passes over this degree next will trigger this latent energy.  Well, Jupiter will be passing over 28 degrees Pisces on May 24, 2010.  This is important because Jupiter is the co-ruler of Pisces (which strengthens the mutual reception) and because Jupiter is also the planet of publishing.  This looks to me like a window of opportunity opening.  But keep in mind that Jupiter passes over 28 degrees Pisces two more times.  It retrogrades back down over 28 degrees Pisces on September 24, 2010, changes direction and then makes its final direct pass over 28 degrees Pisces on January 11, 2011.  This reads to me like a timetable and this is how I would break it down for you.  First get an agent.  Most big publishing houses won’t look at a query or a manuscript unless it comes through an agent.  Start searching for one now and you will probably find some interested takers by June.  Next idea?  Jupiter turns retrograde on July 23, 2010.  A retrograde is the astrological equivalent of a “do-over” so I expect that you’ll have to do some intense reworking of your piece in order to sell it and this will probably take a few months.  Should you persevere (and I hope that you do) then this would make January 11, 2011 the prime time for selling to a publisher because you will be “in season”.  You are in season when the Sun passes through any Saturn sign.  January and February are both Saturn ruled months which means that January 11, 2011 corresponds to that time of year when your energy peaks.  Now just because I mapped all of this out doesn’t mean it will happen on its own.  It’s up to you to do the grunt work.  But if you get things prepped and ready to go according to the timetable that I mapped out then it should work like unfurling a sail to catch the rising wind and with any luck the combination of planetary energies will send you speeding towards your destination.

I had adjusted to a relationship breakup on December 28th.  We remained friendly from a distance.  A recent divorce (of his choice) was too painful and he felt a need to attempt to reconcile with his ex.  The short story is that he committed suicide in the middle of February.  A brilliant, accomplished, and deeply loved man is no longer with us.  My heart is breaking.  My mind is searching for answers that can’t be found.  2010 has started with a pretty dark cloud.  Brighten my day or prepare me for what’s to come.  I don’t need any more surprises.  May 27, 1950.

I am sorry to hear about your loss.  None of us can know what it’s like to face the kind of despair that results in someone taking his own life.  He must have been in an impossibly lonely, dark, and overwhelming place to do something like that.  It’s unfathomable—especially for you who cared so deeply. 

Yet anyone who dies lives on in the hearts of those who survive them.  There are a variety of religions and spiritual beliefs that speculate about the life and fate of the soul, but the simple act of you sharing his story attests to how immortality works in our lives.  You’ve told us his story and now he resides in our hearts and minds as well as yours.  Some of us may not like hearing it and will close the door while others may be at a loss as to what the point of his story might be.  And then there are those of us who can’t help but be moved and wish that things could have turned out differently.  Imagination, compassion, forgiveness, and love are all soulful qualities.  It is because of our soul’s capacity to empathize that we can picture what it’s like to walk in somebody else shoes.  Our soul allows us to inhabit the lives of others and as long as we come from that deeply sympathetic place then no soul is ever lost.

You were born under Gemini—the sign of the twins.  And as a Gemini you can’t help but see yourself mirrored in him.  Your friend’s sorrow becomes your sorrow and that can feel like a tremendous burden.  But if you accept the pain for what it is and let it run its course then you’ll move through it because it is the heart’s natural tendency to heal.  There’s no such thing as a broken heart as far as the heart is concerned.  The heart is built to love—sometimes in spite of itself.  You can’t change your friend’s choice, but you can heal it through the actions you take in your own life.  You met because you were looking to be in a relationship—and there’s no reason for you to stop looking now.  If anything this experience deepens your capacity to love while giving you a renewed appreciation for life.  This is something that should resonate with you quite powerfully this Summer when you meet someone new who’s been through a similar experience.  Maybe you’ll just be friends and maybe you’ll become lovers, but the important thing is that you’ll feel alive again.

I started seeing this guy in September 2008.  I felt a real connection to him, almost like I knew what he was thinking and doing before he was aware of it himself.  Unfortunately I became aware “psychically” that I was involved in a love triangle.  He has been in a relationship with another woman.  They have been together since late 2007.  He has been bouncing back and forth between us ever since she and I found out about each other in September 2009.  The problem is I can’t seem to let him go and he can’t seem to let her go.  My DOB: 4/20/68; His DOB: 3/17/63; Her DOB: 9/4/79.  I live in Florida.

If you want a traditional relationship then move on.  Otherwise you will have to do some heavy soul searching.  The reason he won’t give her up-- any more than he would give you up-- is because he wants to be with both of you.  He was born with his Ruling Planet Jupiter conjunct the Sun in his horoscope.  I call this the “Big Love” planetary signature.  This could make him a philanderer, but it sounds like he enjoys forming relationships with more than one partner.  When I examine your three charts together, it’s interesting to see how he found just the right women to do this with.

You and the Virgo woman were both born with the Moon in Aquarius.  Your Moons conjoin his Venus and Saturn conjunction which is also in Aquarius so neither of you is going to win him over.  Aquarius is an air sign and air signs describe the three levels of relationships.  Gemini rules siblings, Libra rules partnerships, and Aquarius rules community.  Aquarians naturally think in terms of the overall group which is why if you’re going to date an Aquarian then you better be ready to share him with his friends, co-workers, ex-spouses and even ex-in-laws.

The Moon describes your emotional comfort level.  When you have your Moon in Aquarius—like you and the Virgo woman do—then this idea of sharing isn’t quite the deal breaker that it would be in other horoscopes.  These Moon conjunctions often appear in the horoscopes of wives and secretaries who both share the same man but in different contexts.  This works when boundaries are clearly drawn, but it can get complicated when the boundaries are blurred.  Had you and the Virgo woman met under different circumstances you’d probably be friends.

So what does this mean in the long run?  Well, it all depends on what sort of relationship you want.  As a Taurus with Ruling Planet Venus in Aries, I think that there will always be a part of you that will want to win this guy over.  The problem is that even if you did wrest him away, he would still go look for somebody else.  Triangulation is in his cosmic DNA.  Your other option is to have an “open relationship” with him.  It’s not everybody’s cup of tea, but that’s the way his horoscope is wired.  It all depends on what kind of connection you truly feel with him and if that’s worth building a relationship on.

Can you give me some insight to what’s going on in my love life?  I was dating a man (11/17/1971) who broke up with me at the beginning of the year.  I was heartbroken as this is not the first time we have dated with the same outcome.  He keeps contacting me, but I’ve been trying to move on in my life and have started dating again.  I met a man I’m not sure about (his birthday is 9/11/1971) and hope that change is on the way, but I’m getting impatient.  My birthday is 6/14/1971, 2:14PM, Oklahoma City, OK.

It sounds like you may still be holding the door open for the Scorpio guy and as long as that’s going on then you won’t be able to move on.  You say that he broke up with you at the beginning of the year, but if he’s still contacting you—and if you’re still answering him—then you two haven’t parted company at all.  It’s a pattern I’ve often seen with people who are born under opposite signs—that is people whose birthdays lie six months away from each other in the year.  Although his Sun is in Scorpio, he has four planets in Sagittarius that form an exact opposition to the Gemini planets in your horoscope.  This creates a push/pull energy where neither of you can walk away any more than you can co-exist harmoniously.  When you remember that the point of a relationship is to be on the same page then you can see how this “I can’t live with you/I can’t live without you” dynamic is ultimately counter-productive.  Yes there’s plenty of drama and trauma, but to paraphrase Shakespeare it’s really just a lot of sound and fury signifying nothing.  The sooner you give this Scorpio guy up (and that means you stop returning phone calls, texts, tweets, etc) the better.  Otherwise he’s like a bad habit that will just keep hooking you back in.

Now your Virgo friend has all the telltale signs of a rebound relationship, but there’s more going on if you’re willing to give him a chance.  The strongest pairings in Astrology are between people born under the same sign or who share the same Ruling Planet.  Gemini and Virgo are both ruled by Mercury which means that you totally get where the other one is coming from.  You don’t have to explain yourself to him nor will you ever feel like he’s tuned you out.  However Virgo men are shy when it comes to making their feelings known and I’m sure he senses that you’re not really into him.  But it’s also not his job to win you over.  That’s your emotional homework assignment.  You need to ask yourself if you’re truly available and that’s why God created dating.  You’re not ready for a relationship yet.  You’re too divided and undecided, however you are ready to date.  Open your heart, open your mind, and let yourself get to know this Virgo fellow.  You may find that spending time with someone who wants to be a lover and not a fighter can be habit-forming—and in a good way.

I am at a crossroads.  I have dated my boyfriend (6/13/1964) going on 3 years now.  He is a fantastic guy however he’s not ready for marriage.  I am trying to decide if I’m ready to walk away and find someone else that is ready for marriage or to stay patient and see where this relationship leads.  My birthday is 4/12/1973 and I live in NC.

I’d hate to see the two of you break up because you have really nice horoscopes.  It’s clear from your charts that you enjoy spending time together, you’re very relaxed with each other, and there’s a playful quality that keeps your relationship young and fresh. More importantly you will always be in his corner as he will always be in yours.

However your boyfriend is still a marriage-phobe.  But that doesn’t make him anti-marriage.  He feels that once you get married all of those things that you enjoy about each other will go flying out the window. The reason for this is that he was born with a retrograde Venus in Cancer which forms an exact conjunction to his north node.  This indicates some heavy mistrust issues around the opposite sex especially when it comes to setting up house and home.  His experience is that women change whenever the M word comes up.  He feels like they stop being individuals and turn into walking talking biological clocks or Stepford wives with pre-programmed agendas of what wedded life is supposed to be.  The reason he’s dead set against marriage is because he wants to protect what he treasures most about your relationship—and that’s you.

I imagine that things have been tense since December 2009 when your ruling planet Mars turned retrograde in Leo.  You both have Leo Moons in your horoscopes so Mars traveling backwards through this sign would have brought up a lot of anger, frustration, and a few stormy scenes. Thankfully Mars comes out of retrograde on March 10th which means that it will stop being adversarial and will start to exude a more positive and affirmative influence instead.  Even if you broke up recently it’s unlikely that you’ve been far from each other’s thoughts, so I’d advise putting out feelers to see what kind of headspace he’s in.  I’m certain that you’ll find him to be more open-minded and open-hearted.

Nevertheless I would avoid talking about marriage for the next four months—no matter how many times he drops hints or tries to broach the subject.  The upcoming lunar eclipse on his Venus/north node conjunction this June shows that he’s in the midst of some heavy soul searching.  He’s not really making up his mind as much as he’s trying to make peace with his decision to be with you.  This is very difficult for him but it’s better for you to be a part of his life now than it is for you to be apart from it.  There’s nothing to be gained by forcing the issue or walking out on him.  Trust in your love, your shared history, and your friendship and you’ll like where all of this leads to by the end of 2010.

For the past 15 years I have been involved in a sometimes passionate, other times difficult (now long distance) relationship.  There is an age difference, which took awhile to overcome but once accomplished life was easy.  I really feel there is a Cosmic connection for this friendship/love affair.  Each time we experience difficulties, I vow to let it go, but there is some inherent tie which does not let me move on.  I am very anxious to know if you see anything which prevents me from ending this or if we are bound by some other entity.  Me (January 14, 1949); Him (August 7, 1971)

The most challenging (and dramatic) relationships in Astrology are between people who are born in opposite times of year—that is anyone whose birthday is six months away from yours.  It’s true that opposites attract, but that doesn’t always mean that they will stay together.  Opposite sign pairings often show up in extra-marital affairs (re: Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie), love triangles, long-distance relationships, and other “questionable” matches.  There is always something vaguely scandalous or sensational about them which is why they get a lot of press in astrology books.  However they don’t always translate comfortably into setting up house and home together.

Think of an opposite sign pairing as two people sitting on a seesaw.  Whenever one of you is up the other one is down and vice-versa.  For instance you’re going to feel revitalized and strengthened during the time of year when the Sun is in Capricorn because Capricorn is your birth sign.  Winter is when you are “in season” and feel most empowered.  However Leos (your boyfriend’s sign) are “out of season” in winter.  Winter is when the Sun’s energy is weakest so he’s apt to feel lost, insecure, and overwhelmed.  What this means is that during the time of year when you’re feeling up, he’s feeling down and when he’s feeling gung-ho (like in the summer) you’re feeling the most out of sorts.  It’s an important thing to keep in mind as opposite sign relationships experience these ups and downs like clockwork every six months.

There are several planetary factors that draw you to each other but the most powerful one is that his Sun conjoins your Pluto in Leo.  This can create an obsessive/compulsive dynamic between your horoscopes which is why it’s been so hard for you to let go.  This energy could be channeled into something more positive and transformative if Pluto were your Ruling Planet, but it’s not.  Your Ruling Planet is Saturn which means you want something more stable in your life.  My feeling is that you’ve been wanting to end the relationship for about a year but it’s a decision that you’ve felt unable to make.  Thankfully Mars comes out retrograde on March 10th 2010 and will pass over the Sun and Pluto conjunction on May 9th thereby freeing you from this dynamic and allowing you to move one.  Ultimately you’ll be happier settling down with someone who sits closer to you on the zodiacal wheel, so keep your eyes open for an Aquarius or a Sagittarius in June.

I noticed that the solar eclipse will be in 19 degrees Cancer this July.  My Jupiter is at 18 degrees Cancer in my 8th house.  I think the 8th house has to do with other people’s money.  Would that be a good time to buy lottery tickets?  Will that solar eclipse affect that house in my chart?  My birthday is October 1, 1930, 10:00 AM, in Cleveland, Ohio.

The 8th house is known as the house of sex, death, and other people’s money in Astrology.  Its meaning stems from the fact that it sits opposite the 2nd house in your horoscope.  The 2nd house describes your wealth and possessions.  This is where you look to see how you’ll do in life and whether or not you’ll enjoy economic security.  When you count six houses away on the horoscope you reach the 8th house which is actually your partner’s 2nd house.  The reason why the 8th house is known as “other people’s money” is because it describes those things that belong to your spouse (or anyone you may be looking to do business with).  Now how do we access our spouse’s money?  Through marriage.  A traditional marriage is consummated in the bedroom (that’s the sex part) and/or you inherit your spouse’s money (or debts) when he or she dies. That's the death part. The 8th house is where astrologers look to determine the sexual and financial compatibility of potential mates.

Now to be born with Jupiter in Cancer is a very good thing.  Jupiter is the planet of fortune and it is exalted (which means that it’s most powerful) when it is Cancer.  Moreover Jupiter rules lotteries because it is also the planet of government and lotteries are usually state run nowadays.  These would be indicators that would work in your favor.  Yet what gives me moment for pause is that we’re talking about a solar eclipse.  Solar eclipses are famous for introducing radical changes into your life.  Again this could be linked to a surprise win (Jupiter is the planet of windfalls), but the problem is that it’s taking place in your 8th house which means that it’s your spouse—not you—who stands to gain.  Now the obvious solution would be to get your spouse to go buy lottery tickets on that day, but it’s not that easy because Mars (the planet of conflict) and Pluto (the planet of ordeals and the transformations that arise from them) are also just one degree away from that eclipse point in your horoscope.  This suggests that even if you win you’d lose given that Mars and Pluto could bring a dispute, a counter-claim, or a lawsuit.  My advice would be to leave well enough alone and to not tempt Fate during this time.  But does that mean that buying lottery tickets is strictly verboten?  Not necessarily.  In fact you might do better during the time when Jupiter in Pisces is forming a grand trine in water in your horoscope.  This would be in April 2010 with April 5 through the 23d looking pretty good.  I’m not saying you’ll win big, but you might get a little something.

Hi Christopher. I had a question related to my career. I just recently finished my doctoral dissertation and will be graduating in May. This was a long and difficult process for me so I am glad it is over. Unfortunately, I feel somewhat clueless as to what type of job I should be seeking at this point. I’m also undecided as to whether I want to move away from home or stay close to my family. Can you give me any specific advice? My birthday is 1/19/1980. I currently live in Tampa, FL.

Congratulations on finishing your doctoral dissertation.  That’s no small feat considering that you were doing this during the height of your Saturn return (September through October 2009) and while Uranus—the planet of revolution and change—was tossing curve-balls at you from out of left field.  The fact that you’re still forming sentences is a testament to your resilience and perseverance.  Saturn may be the planet of trials and tribulations, but it also rewards those who struggle with the hardships it imposes.  Not only will you be more disciplined and resourceful as a result of your Saturn return, but you will have the backbone to keep on going when others throw up their hands in frustration or despair.  This promises an enormous return on the blood, sweat, and tears shed in recent years and you will start to reap these benefits after April 26, 2010.  In fact late May looks like a pivotal time for you vis-à-vis your career.  I expect that this is when you will be receiving a job offer and/or hearing back from an institution about something you applied for.  It looks like you will move right from school to a paying job which makes perfect sense given that you were born under the regimented sign of Capricorn and that your Ruling Planet Saturn in Virgo indicates that you have a systematic approach to life.  Mercury traveling close to the Sun in your horoscope tells me that what you do is very specialized and technical and may even be a bit ahead of its time.  This is good in that it allows you to fill a niche position (it looks to me like research or analysis), but the downside is that it can wind up turning into a dead-end if you’re not careful.  Superiors may not recognize the potential growth in your industry or area of expertise whereas you do.  Moreover—they may not even be interested.  This is why it will be up to you to take charge of your own career and to move on to another company or institution whenever you feel like you’ve hit a wall and accomplished everything you set out to accomplish given that particular position or situation.  As for moving away from home or staying close to your family—that all depends on what takes place in the job market.  You’re a Capricorn with Saturn in Virgo so the job will always come first.  My feeling is that you will be moving away from home, but that it won’t be terribly far away and that this should take place in July or August 2010.

My boyfriend and I broke up two years ago.  His birthday is 2-24-61.  I see him at work occasionally and last week I heard him talking to a few other folks and then after he left, I puked.  It wasn't cool.  I don’t understand why he still has that effect on me.  I have tried daily affirmations, manifestations, good thoughts and feel like I keep ending up in the same place; like I can't move on.  I recently started being a couple with another guy, and he seems nice and caring but something seems off.  His birthday is 5-11-66.  I assumed if I found someone else to concentrate on then the first guy would just kind of disappear out of my mind or heart or something.  I don't want to be using the new guy either.  I also just declared bankruptcy this week as well.  I am wondering what you see coming up for me.  Can you give me some guidance?  11-28-70.

It can’t be easy working at the same place as your Ex.  Even if you’ve moved on romantically, it sounds like the pain of the break-up is still there.  His Ruling Planet Neptune is conjunct your Ruling Planet Jupiter in Scorpio so you will always feel like he got off easy or that he doesn’t have to answer for what went down between you.  This feeds into your retrograde Venus in Scorpio which can be very fixed and unforgiving.  We all need to be a little fixed and unforgiving in order to be resolute, but this break up took place two years ago and it sounds to me like the real person who’s suffering from all of this angry energy is you, not him.

The best solution is to start looking for a new job situation.  Thankfully your Ruling Planet Jupiter entered Pisces on January 17.  Pisces is a Jupiter ruled sign (just like your sign, Sagittarius) so this will increase your eligibility on the job market.  Indeed prime times for interviewing would be February 18 through March 19 and then again from April 11 through 19.  You’re bound to find something that will be just as good as what you have now—and probably even better.  Something else to look forward to is June 8th when you Ruling Planet Jupiter conjoins revolutionary Uranus in Aries.  This is a game-changing aspect in Astrology and it will chase away that dark cloud you’ve been living under since September 2007.  But you’re going to have to work with what life throws your way and not remain closed off to the possibilities-- even if they seem farfetched.  You need to embrace the spirit of adventure that this fiery energy brings and to reinvent yourself.

As for the fellow you’re seeing now, I think he’s good for what you need at the moment and you shouldn’t feel guilty about turning to someone for support and companionship.  This summer will bring many changes and you need to be free to pursue them.  Go ahead and take that leap of faith and I’m sure that you’ll like where you land after September 18th.

I’ve heard a lot of talk these past three years of the “promise of change” and that love and abundance is “just on the horizon.”  Everyone seems to believe that this change is coming, but I don’t know why I keep holding on to the idea that the clouds will part and that things will become easier.  I want to be open, but it’s hard to stay hopeful.  Maybe I should just accept life as it is? August 15, 1959.

It sounds like you’re having a bad Leo day which makes perfect sense since the Sun, your Ruler, is now in Aquarius—the sign that sits exactly opposite Leo on the zodiacal wheel.  One always feels tired, depressed, vulnerable, and listless when the Sun is traveling through your opposite sign because this is when you are “out of season” astrologically speaking.  When you remember that Mars, the planet of energy and drive, is also retrograde in Leo (i.e. moving backwards) then it makes perfect sense that you’d be feeling like you’re getting nowhere fast.  But don’t worry because you’re not alone in this.  Barack Obama (another Leo) isn’t exactly having an easy time of it either.

The reason you keep holding on to the idea that the clouds will part and that things will be easier is because you’re hard-wired for optimism.  It’s in your cosmic DNA.  As a Child of the Sun, you can’t help but look on the bright side of life and this is something you should be proud of.  It’s easy to be a cynic nowadays, but much more difficult to be an idealist who stands for something greater than the lowest common denominator.  This is why Leos are called “lion-hearted”.  You possess a nobility and courage that makes you a luminary in a world of lesser lights.

Thankfully there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.  On March 10th, Mars will come out of retrograde and start to move forward in your sign again.  You should experience a bump in energy and like you’re back on top of your game.  This rekindled vitality will build from March through June 6th when Mars departs your sign.  On June 5th (the day before Mars leaves Leo), Jupiter—the planet of good fortune and higher purpose—will enter the astrological sign of Aries.  Aries is a fire sign (just like Leo) which means that Leos-- along with Sagittarians-- will be the happy beneficiaries of all this fire trine energy.  Not only will prospects brighten but so will your outlook and confidence.  Moreover it looks like you may even be able to recover some lost ground over the summer.  This sets you up for a terrific 2010 birthday (when you’re back “in season” because it’s summer) while paving the way for a marvelous solar return that peaks in 2011.  As you can see this is no time to give up hope because the best is yet to come.  Meanwhile do what you can to slog your way through to March 10th.  Treat yourself to the things that make you happy and trust in the promise that love and abundance is just around the bend.

I’ve been divorced for over 10 years now and have really focused on raising my children.  Now that they’re getting older, I would love to put more effort into dating.  Will I have love in my life in the near future?  My birth date is October 14, 1958.

You were born under Libra, the zodiac sign of relationships, so it’s hard for me to imagine that all of your focus has gone into raising your children for the past 10 years.  It is nearly impossible for a Libra to remain single for long and given that your Ruling Planet Venus is also in Libra, I’d say that you’ve always had someone on hand for a date and perhaps even a tryst.  But just because you have someone in your life doesn’t necessarily make him a desirable partner.  My suspicion is that you’re feeling the urge to marry again and if this is indeed the case, then you’ll need to make more of a personal emotional investment.

Libras have a reputation for fence-sitting.  This gives the impression that you’re wishy-washy, but that’s actually a misnomer.  You’re a cardinal sign so you know what you want right when you see it, but Libras prefer the indirect approach.  Your zodiac sign is very “you” oriented which is why you will always want to know what other people think first or you’ll ask them what they would like to do before making any suggestions of your own.  It’s very strategic because it’s by getting the other person to lower his guard and to open up that you learn all kinds of things about him while disclosing very little information about yourself.  This allows you to subtly take over the reins in a relationship without becoming bossy or obvious.  Moreover if things go wrong you can always say that it was his idea or you were only doing what he asked you to do.  It’s a safe way of relating, but it’s not very intimate.

From 1996 through 1999 Saturn, the planet of trials and tribulations, was in your opposite sign of Aries—which sounds like that was also the time when you were divorcing.  It has taken Saturn this long to travel halfway across the horoscope to your sign, Libra, which means that the issues you were dealing with then will be coming back into your life now.  Usually Saturn in your sign isn’t good news except that Saturn happens to be exalted in Libra.  “Exalted” means that Saturn will be on its best behavior so not only does this show that there’s love in your near future but it’s likely that you’ll marry again in the autumn of 2011.  However there’s one caveat and it’s this: it’s easy for you to share your physical space, but you’re not big on sharing your emotional space.  This time around make a point of speaking up and talking about your wants, desires, and needs.  There’s no guarantee that they’ll always be met (relationships are all about negotiation and compromise), but at least you’ll establish a nice give-and-take and that back-and-forth flow between partners is the cornerstone to any healthy relationship.

I seem lucky when I work with money as a financial analyst but I wish to bring abundance through my music compositions.  I still love the freedom and joy of using my funds to travel and live well.  When is it safe to change careers and live on my retirement income and is it possible to sell my music?  My birthday is January 26, 1952.

It’s true that you have a good fortune with fortune, but I wouldn’t advise giving up your day job just yet or making any significant career changes before the solar eclipse on January 4, 2011.  I know that’s almost a year away, but there are a lot of surprise twists and turns in store for 2010.

Most people have one Ruling Planet, but you’re an Aquarius which means that you have two—Saturn and Uranus.  The only other zodiac signs with two Ruling Planets are Scorpio and Pisces.  Now it’s a pretty big deal when your Ruling Planet moves from one zodiac sign to another, but to have both Ruling Planets changing signs in the same year is pretty rare.  Moreover there’s an added twist because Saturn and Uranus will turn retrograde, leave the signs they entered only to turn around and re-enter them later.  It’s analogous to watching someone make a splashy entrance, abruptly leave, and then arrive again as if nothing happened.  One can’t help wondering if something’s amiss which is why you (and all Aquarians) will want to pay close attention to developments that unfold between April 7 and June 7, 2010 and July 21 through August 13, 2010.  

The back and forth motion of your Ruling Planets tells me two things.  The first is that you will be making a big decision in late spring and then unmaking it by mid summer.  But this isn’t necessarily bad.  For instance you may decide that you want to retire in late spring only to discover that finances aren’t as solid as you’d like them to be and that it might be wiser to keep working for a few months longer.  Or maybe your employer asks you to take on one last account with a client that you just can’t pass up and so this pushes back the date for your planned retirement.  The second thing I see is you exploring a new venture in September (this may be your music) and then putting the brakes on it.  Perhaps you realize that the business of selling your music is a lot more complicated than you expected it to be.  I see you putting this on hold until the spring of 2011 while you bring yourself up to speed on all of the do’s and don’ts of the industry.  It’s clear that the timing of things will be off for you this year, but I suspect it may work to your advantage.  Aquarians often do things ahead of their time and sometimes complications and wrinkles arise for the sole purpose of allowing time to catch up with you so that everything is aligned just right for when you’re ready to embark on a new path.

I recently started seeing this amazing younger woman who I’m really into.  I’m fairly sure that she’s into me too, but there’s this other guy (more her own age) who’s in the picture too.  Can you advise me?  I want to get an idea of where I stand and if this has the potential to be a long-term relationship despite our age difference.  My birthday is 2/2/67.  Her birthday is 10/30/87 and the other guy is 11/7/86.  Thanks!

First of all you’re a very brave man to be going out with someone who’s twenty years younger than you.  The problem with dating someone in her early twenties is that she really hasn’t completely grown into herself as a woman.  She’s test-driving a lot of things in her life—like identity, career, and boyfriends.  I’m sure that she’s a very sophisticated personality and probably comes across as being older than her years.  Scorpio women usually do.  But be careful because you may be looking to get serious about someone who’s shopping and not necessarily buying.

Love triangles are complicated.  And if there’s another guy in the picture then that begs the question of whether she’s going out with you to get back at him or to get away from him.  She may say that she only has eyes for you, but I wouldn’t believe it.  Moreover you have some serious competition.  The strongest pairings in Astrology are between people who are born under the same sign or whose Ruling Planet falls in the same sign.  She’s a Scorpio and the other guy is a Scorpio, so that already says that they’re pretty tight.  When you throw in the added element that their Ruling Planet Pluto is also in Scorpio then that pretty much seals the deal.  Nevertheless there’s still a reason why she sought you out.  Scorpio on Scorpio energy can get intense, obsessive, and emotionally suffocating.  She enjoys spending time with you because being an Aquarius, you’re like a breath of fresh air. 

It also helps that your Moon is in Scorpio (which is her sign) and her Moon is in Aquarius (which is your sign).  Sun/Moon pairings between horoscopes is always good for emotional compatibility because it shows there’s a comfortable fit and that the two people can co-exist well.  Sun/Moon pairings show up a lot in marriages, business partnerships, and creative collaborations.  If she were older—perhaps 27 or 28—then I would say that your relationship stood a pretty good chance, but she’s at a point in her life when she can’t really discern the difference between passion and love and she’s going to be making a lot of promises (and ultimatums) that she won’t be able to keep.

My advice would be to enjoy this as long as it lasts, but don’t pin your hopes on anything long term.  As an Aquarius you have a unique ability to see the spirit in the being which is why I’m not too worried about you getting hurt.  If anything I think you’ll find that your time together is well spent and even if you don’t remain lovers, you will always be friends.

I have a tendency to keep everyone at a safe distance.  In 2010 does it look as if I will learn to value myself enough to let go of that fear and allow the flow of life to lead me in service to myself and others towards whatever greatness awaits?  My birthday is 12/26/67.

As a Capricorn you know that we are all born into a world where nothing lasts forever.  People age, things fall apart, and the value of a dollar is never what it’s supposed to be.  This is why you will focus on making the most of your material resources.  You’ll get the job that makes the money that puts the roof over your head and food on the table.  Your assessment of situations are based on their faults not their merits.  This allows you to keep an eye on all the things that could go wrong so that you’re never caught by surprise when disaster strikes.  Capricorns are no strangers to tough times.  You graduated magnum cum laude from the school of hard knocks.  Driven to become a high achiever, you see yourself as the person who makes the world safe for loved ones and friends.

But you can become too good at what you do.  You’re the problem solver who never stops looking for the next problem or you’re the hard worker who will always take on more work.  When fear is the motivating factor in life then you never know when to stop.  You become like Sisyphus in the Underworld pushing his heavy stone uphill.  He was told that once he accomplished this that he would be freed yet whenever he reached the top something inevitably caused him to lose his grip and the stone would go rolling back down to the bottom of the hill-- forcing Sisyphus to start again.  Fear—unchecked—can keep you hooked on an exercise in futility.

Thankfully this gets turned around in May and June when Uranus and Jupiter enter Aries.  Uranus is the planet of revolution and change and Jupiter is the planet of higher purpose.  Their entrance into that part of your horoscope that relates to business-as-usual shows that you will be experiencing some dramatic changes.  Don’t be surprised if you develop a zero tolerance toward the obligations that you feel hold you back.  In fact this feeling that life is passing you by will reach a fever pitch in late August and/or early September.  Oftentimes it’s dissatisfaction—not courage-- that spurs us on to forge a new path.  This could result in you seeking new pursuits and fraternizing with a different group of friends by the fall.  This may leave the old crowd scratching their heads about what’s gotten into you, but it begs the question as to whether you keep people at a safe distance because you feel like they don’t get you.  We all go through times when we confuse who we are for the role that we play in others’ lives which is why shake-ups like the sort that Uranus and Jupiter bring are a good thing.  It’s the Stars’ way of showing you that there’s life beyond the grindstone.

I was born July 16, 1942 in Chicago.  I’m working very hard via Weight Watchers to lose 30 pounds and reach my goal weight.  Things are going very well right now.  What can I expect this year?

There are zodiac signs that can scarf down everything in reach and never gain a pound and then there are zodiac signs that can tip the scale just by looking at a piece of chocolate cake the wrong way.  Generally speaking it’s people who are born under Taurus and Cancer who have to struggle the hardest with their weight with Sagittarius and Pisces as close runners-up.  Taurus and Cancer typically have a lower metabolic rate (unless their Ruling Planets are in air or fire signs) while Sagittarius and Pisces are ruled by Jupiter.  Jupiter is famous for being the largest planet in our solar system which is why people born under these signs tend to be big.  You’re a Cancer born with Jupiter in Cancer so you’re going to have weight issues.  You will never be rail thin-- nor should you be because your body type is apt to be curvaceous.  However there is a way to work with the planetary energies in your horoscope to reach your target weight.

I’m glad to hear that you’re working with a program like Weight Watchers.  Going it alone with some fad diet isn’t wise.  Cancers are emotional eaters which means that you turn to food for comfort.  Deprivation only makes you fixate on the refrigerator and there’s no way you’re ever going to convince yourself that celery and carrots are yummy for the tummy.  Moreover your Ruling Planet the Moon rules over hearth and home.  When you’re born under the planet of the nurturer then you naturally bond with people over food.  One of the good things about Weight Watchers is that you diet together as a group.  Instead of food being a divisive issue (other people can eat this but you can’t), food becomes the reason for getting together because you’re united by a common cause-- which is to lose weight.  Diets have always been a team sport.  They’ve been bringing people together since Deuteronomy.

Now there may come a time when you outgrow this regimen and will want to meet with a nutritionist to set up a more flexible diet plan but for now this is good because the Weight Watchers plan helps you to re-learn the way you eat.  The Moon is connected to memories, feelings, and the unconscious so the force of habit is very strong with you.  It’s only by redirecting your emotional association to food (through moderation and substitution) that you’ll be able to change your eating patterns.  This takes time which is why I see you reaching your target weight in June 2010.  June 2010 is also when there will be a lot more fire energy coursing through your horoscope.  This will activate your Moon in Leo (Leo is a fire sign) thereby making it easier for you to burn calories and to keep the weight off.   Subscribe for more features.  Only 1.99 a month!

My name is Evon.  I was born 5/25/74 and the last year has been rather tumultuous, but I’m finally seeing the light of day.  I’m feeling rather excited and hopeful in general.  After my last relationship, I took a bit of time for self-reflection and healing.  I’m now ready to get back on the dating scene.  I have no interest in trolling the clubs to find a new guy though and would prefer to meet guys in a more natural setting.  I’ve also found that lately my typical shyness is in overdrive.  What’s the deal?  Is my flirter broken?  How can I get back into the swing of things now that I’m ready?

It isn’t easy getting back into the swing of things when you’ve been hurt and you were wise to take a break.  But it’s also important to remember that you’re a Gemini, an air sign, and air is the element that rules relationships in Astrology.  Too much time alone makes you stagnate.  As an air sign, the best way to mend a broken heart is to be out and about and circulating again.  Not everyone is built this way, but you are.

I don’t see any difficulties with your flirter being broken.  Your Ruling Planet Mercury in Gemini shows that you can talk to anyone about anything and your Venus in Aries makes you a natural man magnet.  But you’re right-- trolling the clubs isn’t the way to go if you’re looking for something serious and I don’t think that you would have much luck with those on-line dating sites either.  One of the wonderful things that Astrology teaches us is how to play to our strengths—especially when it comes to love.  Like attracts like when it comes to the laws of attraction and the best way to attract someone you would want to be with is by doing the things you love to do.

It’s really very simple.  Make up a short-list of things you like to do and then go find a group of people to do them with.  As a Gemini, you have a passion for learning so enrolling in a class or signing up for a workshop would probably be the way to go.  This puts you in the right headspace (and therefore the right heart space) to meet someone new.  But don’t enter into this like a heat-seeking missile with your sights set on the most eligible guy in the room.  The whole point of doing something with a group of people whom you don’t know-- but who all share a common interest -- is that it allows you to express yourself in ways you might not be able to express yourself around your friends or co-workers and to talk about the topics you find fascinating.  In a class you can sit next to someone you wouldn’t normally sit next to or meet people you wouldn’t typically meet (like your fellow student’s recently divorced brother).  In any case this would certainly provide a much more natural setting for you to show off your smarts, beauty, and talent—and for him to show off his.  Subscribe for more features.  Only 1.99 a month!

My question is about my love life.  It seems to wear me out.  Always doubting love and looking for my true soul mate is exhausting.  I am dating a man that I’m not sure is for me.  I thought he was, but I feel like his mother.  So is he?  Birthdate: September 30, 1982.  I do not have luck with men.  I always say I enable them to be losers.  My birthdate is June 19, 1974.

You two look pretty compatible, so it sounds like you’re having a bad day.  This time of year when the Sun is traveling through the opposite side of your horoscope is never easy.  It’s when spirits are down, your self-confidence is low, and you’re vulnerable to feelings of insecurity and self-doubt.  As you can imagine it’s not the best headspace for making any big life decisions.

You were born with your Ruling Planet Mercury in Cancer.  Cancer is the zodiac sign of the mother so chances are you will always find yourself mothering men-- regardless of whether they’re younger or older than you.  This isn’t strange or unusual.  We all play different roles in our love relationships—sometimes we’re the parent, sometimes we’re the child, sometimes we’re even the ex-spouse.  Role-playing is the psyche’s way of soul mating because without these labels (which mean different things to each of us) we wouldn’t be able to identify who or what we want in a partner.  If you believe in reincarnation then you know that the soul isn’t married to any single identity.  The soul tries on lives the way that one tries on clothes while shopping.  But it’s our memories in this life—along with our personal histories, tastes, desires, and values that allows us to bond with another person.  However you always run the risk of getting stuck in a role or typecasting your lover in a part that he’s outgrown.  It’s by embracing the spirit of growth and change that we create a fulfilling life together.

I don’t think that you’re unlucky in love nor do I think that you go out with losers.  I do, however, believe that you’ve hit a wall in your relationships with men and that you want to break on through to the other side.  In order to do this though you’re going to have to ask yourself two things.  First—how much do you really listen to your partner?  And second—how much do you truly respect him?  When you have Saturn next to your Ruling Planet in your horoscope then there’s a tendency to believe that you’re the one who does all the work in a relationship and it’s simply not true.  I feel like this summer will be an eye-opening experience.  In the summer of 2010 Jupiter and Uranus will form an opposition to Pluto in Libra in your horoscope.  Libra is the zodiac sign of relationships and I suspect that what might prove to be the biggest revelation of all is how this fellow stuck around despite all of your attempts to push him away.  And that, in and of itself, will be food for thought.

I am planning on doing a farm apprenticeship next spring—one in particular being at the Green Gulch San Francisco Zen Center for six months.  Everyone (parents, ha ha) thinks I’m being hasty especially in this economy, so I start second guessing sometimes if this is a bad idea.  I feel it is right, but I do have a tendency to be impatient.  Maybe the planets could give me an idea?  November 21, 1979

I think that this is an excellent idea and I would strongly encourage you to follow through with it.  You were born under Scorpio, a zodiac sign that’s intimately connected to the Underworld.  The Underworld is associated with death in many people’s minds (after all bodies are buried in graves), but the underworld also rules over everything that lies beneath the surface of the earth like precious metals, fossils, ruins, and seeds.  Indeed our notion of reincarnation stems from agrarian societies that observed how after a seed grew into a plant, it produced new seeds before it withered and died.  The following spring that plant would pop back up again—with maybe a few others in tow.  The idea of going to seed and then returning again not only laid the foundation for the belief in reincarnation—which is treated as a mundane fact of life in eastern cultures—but it also inspired the karmic notion that the seed you sow yields the fruit that you reap.  This plays a central role in the Zen philosophy of life.

What makes the Green Gulch San Francisco Zen Center even more appealing as a choice for you is its connection to spirituality and farming.  You were born with your Ruling Planet Mars in Virgo.  The brightest star in the constellation of Virgo is Spica and Spica basically means  “ear of corn” (sometimes “ear of wheat”) which is why images of Virgo often depict a young woman in a field surrounded by the fruits of her labors—wheat, spelt, vegetables, corn, and barley.  Virgo rules the time of year (late summer/early fall) when these are harvested here in the northern hemisphere.  September is the Virgin Mary’s birth month (which explains the “virgin” in Virgo) as well as the month of the Eleusinian mysteries which celebrated the reunion of Demeter (Greek goddess of the grain) with her daughter Persephone who had been abducted by Hades, lord of the Underworld.  The reunion of Demeter and Persephone symbolized the triumph of life over death through the continuation of the agricultural cycle.  The themes of seeding, farming, and spirituality all appear in your horoscope -- especially given that Jupiter, Saturn, and your north node are also in Virgo.

When you have this kind of Scorpio/Virgo energy in your chart then it’s not the job that matters as much as it is the good work that you do.  It’s very important for you to connect to your higher purpose in a way that yields tangible results and makes a difference in the world.  And what could be better than to nourish human nature by putting food in people’s stomachs and Buddha in their hearts?

What is the best way to get along with your young adult children?  My birthday is 3-21-45 and my daughter’s is 11-26-80.

You and your daughter should get on like a house on fire given that you’re an Aries and she’s a Sagittarius.   You both have a positive outlook on life.  You both value independence, spirit, and pluck.  And you both believe that willpower and faith are the motivating forces that drive people to fulfill their potential.  Indeed helping others to fan their inner sparks of faith into flames of self-confidence is what you and she are all about.  Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius are the fire signs of the zodiac and fire signs believe that each of us is born with a unique purpose and that is to be the best that you can be.  Rise to the highest expression of yourself and others will do the same-- thereby showcasing the finest that humanity has to offer.

But the fact that your daughter just turned 29 and that you still refer to her as a “young adult child” is a little disconcerting.  Is she really that immature?

If she really is an overgrown child (and there are plenty of them running around these days) then you need to cut the apron strings.  It would be a good idea to start mapping out a transition process now so that she’s living on her own and supporting herself financially by June.  The upcoming Jupiter/Uranus conjunction in Aries on June 8, 2010 shows that you both see eye-to-eye on this and that by working together your efforts will be successful.

If, however, you are refusing to acknowledge that she’s an adult in her own right then that would spell trouble because you are inadvertently pushing a major red button on the fire sign console.  Not recognizing your daughter for who she is is a major no-no and would make any Sagittarian rear up in alarm.

Now there can be a provocative—and even a competitive—dynamic in play between mothers and daughters born under fire signs and it stems from the fact that you both have big personalities and expect to get your way.  Had you been born under different elements (like water or earth) then you would look for ways to accommodate each other, but Aries and Sagittarius can start engaging in flame wars when they both believe they’re in the right and they’ll turn up the heat if they feel like they’re not being listened to. You can change this by giving your daughter what she wants—which is probably acceptance for who she is.  You may also want to ask yourself why you would withhold that.  Chances are that your motives aren’t as straightforward as you believe.  You were born under Mars and Mars, being a power planet, will always fight to gain the upper hand.  Once you understand that this is not the way to go with a Sagittarian (like a horse they’ll bolt in the opposite direction), then you’ll learn to treat your daughter with more respect.  Respect her and she’ll respect you.  With fire signs it’s as simple as that.

My birth date is 08/18/1979, 12:55 am, in Bountiful Utah.  I am trying to decide between another year of AmeriCorps or looking for a job with the degree that I soon will finish.  But not in the degree I actually got.

2010 will be a dramatic year given that all the major planetary action will be taking place in fire signs.  The fire signs are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius.  Fiery years tend to be sensational, pulse pounding, and conflict-ridden.  That’s because fire is the element that rules passions, enthusiasms, and beliefs.  As we approach 2010, people born under these signs will feel increasingly restless and like they have to do something (anything!) to get their lives back on track.

Now this would all be fine and good if you had a clear idea about what your next step should be -- but that’s unlikely given that Mars (the planet of drive and ambition) will be turning retrograde in Leo on December 20, 2009.  “Retrograde” refers to a backwards motion and it’s during this time that Mars could prompt you to undo all the good you’ve done recently.  That’s because Mars retrograde will make you feel like you’re losing ground and that you have to do something daring to push yourself forward. There’s always a danger of jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire when Mars is reversed which is why you should avoid making any major decisions until Mars comes out of retrograde on March 10, 2010.

At first glance AmeriCorps looks like the perfect fit because you were born with Jupiter next to your Sun in Leo.  Jupiter is the planet of government agencies and philanthropic institutions and AmeriCorps’ commitment to community service and higher education resonates nicely with your horoscope.  But I can also see how money has been a problem since July 2009 and that the upcoming lunar eclipse in Cancer on January 31st will be tightening the purse strings even more.  This can leave you feeling squeezed between a rock and a hard place.  It’s almost as if you can’t afford to continue with the job you have now, but you’re not really in a position to part ways either because doing what you do also exempts (or protects) you from certain debts or obligations.  Instead of walking out on what you’ve done, you could use this time that Mars is retrograde to go back over the ground you’ve covered.  Sometimes it’s only by retracing our steps that we recognize the opportunities that lie underfoot.  For instance: how much have you really maximized the resources and contacts of this organization?  Could you use them to transfer to another department that would be of greater interest to you or even to reinvent what you do?  This would require some research along with drawing up some proposals, but give it a go.  Trailblazing is all part of the fire sign credo and with Mars in your sign until June 2010 the end result could be you creating a position for yourself in this organization where there wasn’t one before.

The last year has been very challenging.  My husband has been unemployed for over 6 months and is looking/hoping for a more fulfilling career.  I desire better communication and mutual support in our relationship.  Are we going to see an upswing any time soon?  Do you see any short cuts or special signposts on this learning curve?  Is a long distance move part of this transition?  Him: 8/25/1961; Me: 9/10/1962.

You and your husband make a great team.  Being born under the same zodiac sign is one of Astrology’s strongest indicators for a deep and lasting bond, so I’m sure you’ll work out a way of getting through this rough patch together.  But even though you’re both Virgos, your Ruling Planet Mercury is in Libra whereas his Ruling Planet Mercury is in Virgo and that says a lot about your differences.

Mercury in Libra makes you an idealist.  A born interviewer, you naturally seek the opinions and input of others.  Not only does the lively exchange of ideas get your own mental wheels turning, but you feel that everyone has something unique to bring to the table.  Mercury in Libra is all about collaboration.  You truly believe that two heads are better than one-- which is just as well because you often need someone else to do the legwork.

Your husband’s Mercury in Virgo makes him more of a doer.  He likes to draw up to-do lists and then tackle every item on them.  Nothing makes him happier than checking off each task upon completion.  But to-do lists aren’t mission statements and this could be the source of your trouble.  It’s easier for your husband to busy himself with chores then it is for him to contemplate abstract questions like: what would he like to do with his life?

The reason Virgos have a hard time taking any big step forward (and this applies to you too) is because they get mired in technicalities.  They’ll tell themselves they aren’t qualified, haven’t got the proper tools and skills, or they’ll fixate on the one thing that isn’t right while disqualifying everything else that is.  These are stalling tactics designed to keep Virgos in their comfort zone— which is dutifully following a routine.

Now that Saturn, the planet of tests, is out of Virgo you should be feeling less under pressure and more there for each other.  Begin by telling him that you’re both on the same learning curve.  This will make him feel more comfortable.  Then get him to talk about his big life plans by talking about yours.  What would you like to do if you could do anything?  Show him your dreams and ambitions and he’ll show you his.  You may think you’ve heard it all before but it’s amazing what emerges with a fresh hearing.  Finally— a long distance move is not out of the question.  Next year you’ll be experiencing your Jupiter return and Jupiter is the planet of greener pastures.  Don’t be surprised if you hear about an opportunity to pull up stakes and start anew somewhere else in February 2010.

My daughter was born on December 13, 2007.  Though not yet 22 months old, her verbal skills are very advanced and she seems to be able to memorize bits of song already and constantly loves to draw.  Are people born under this sign more artistically inclined?  Thank-you.  Anthony.

Sagittarian babies are quick out of the gate—and the crib.  Born under the sign of the centaur (a mythological creature that was half human and half horse), they take life at a full gallop.  Sagittarians are ruled by their enthusiasms and interests and they’re eager to engage the world in every possible way.  Given that her Ruling Planet Jupiter is also in Sagittarius, it’s clear that your daughter has a big personality and she wants everyone to know it.

Beethoven, Michelangelo, and Maria Callas were all Sagittarians, so I think it’s safe to say that people born under this sign are artistically inclined.  They can also have “artistic” temperaments.  Jupiter was named after the Greek god of storms and the planet’s famous red spot is actually a storm that’s been raging since the 17th century when it was first spotted by telescope.  Although Children of Jupiter can be tempestuous, they’re quick to get over themselves and rarely hold a grudge.  That’s because they have a wonderful sense of humor and are just as likely to poke fun at themselves as anyone else.  Mark Twain, Charles Schultz (the creator of the Peanuts comic strip), and John Stewart are all Sagittarians-- humorists with a moral bent.  They can be pointed, but not acerbic; irreverent without being disrespectful.  You may find as she gets older that you’ve got a natural born entertainer on your hands.

She certainly is a great mimic—and has all the makings of a captivating storyteller.  Born with four planets in Sagittarius in the seventh house, she is very much a people person.  There’s nothing remotely shy and retiring about her.  She learns by imitating and she imitates because she wants to be a part of every group she meets.  You may notice that she will unconsciously take on the accent of someone she’s talking to and may even copy their gestures and mannerisms.  This isn’t mockery; it’s her way of “trying somebody on” like one would try on a coat to see how it fits and if it looks any good.  Children of Jupiter (Jupiter also rules the zodiac sign Pisces) are always incorporating elements of other people’s personalities into their own.  It’s what makes them so enriched and enriching.

Whatever your daughter decides to do in life, she’ll do with a seriousness of purpose.  That’s because she feels—like most Children of Jupiter—that she was put here for a reason.  Even if she winds up pursuing a career in education, law, or philanthropy (she has the planets for it), she would do it in service to a cause that celebrates and promotes people’s creativity and ingenuity.  Sagittarius is perhaps the most spirited of all the fire signs (the other two are Aries and Leo) and developing the human potential to its fullest is what this sign is all about.

Christopher, I have been dying to ask you what you think about the Mayan theory of 2012 and the ending of the world?  Troy

What can I say?  Doomsday sells.  Where would The Learning Channel be without their late night marathons of the Nostradamus Prophecies?  They rank right up there with Shark Week.

We began the 21st century with the Y2k millennium bug, moved on to the Rapture, and now it’s 2012 that’s all the rage.  I’m sure the Mayans had good reason for constructing their calendar in the way that they did, but if Astrology teaches us anything, it’s that cultures don’t keep time in the same way.  We may all begin and end our days with the rising and setting of the sun; but our seasons are different-- like our hemispheres are different-- which means different calendars and different astrologies.  For instance Chinese astrology is based on a lunar calendar, while Western astrology is based on a solar calendar.  Just because we can reconstruct the way that Mayans told time centuries ago doesn’t mean that that’s the way our time is told.

Something always gets lost in translation when you begin searching another culture for sacred signs and symbols.  You may think you’re uncovering hidden truths, but oftentimes you’re simply projecting your own hopes and fears-- albeit recast in the exotica of that particular culture.  Sometimes it’s a benevolent worldview—like a call to reconnect to nature and simplify your life; sometimes it’s a dark prophecy—like our current fascination with the Mayan calendar.

The real question here is: why do we want the world to end?  The Apocalypse has its roots in the revenge fantasies of slaves.  First conceived by early Christians who were understandably tired of being feed and fodder to lions and gladiators, the Apocalypse held out the promise that someday the meek would inherit the earth and that the evildoers in power would get their comeuppance.  Yet being oppressed doesn’t necessarily make you a nicer person than your oppressors.  If anything history has taught us that the oppressed can be equally nasty.  Longing for the day when humanity will meet its end beneath crashing tidal waves, spiraling firestorms, and falling stars is no different than sitting ringside at one of Rome’s bloody bread and circuses calling out for the kill.  Instead of exemplifying the highest in Christianity—which is invoking the Kingdom of God through the daily practice of love and forgiveness-- the Apocalypse typifies the lowest.  The Apocalypse is, in my opinion, a cop out.  It underscores the hopelessness and pessimism of people who can’t conceive of a future generation doing a better job of making the world a decent place to live in.

I don’t know if this is what the Mayans foresaw, but it’s certainly what’s being attributed to them now.  And I’m sure that by the time New Year’s Eve of 2013 rolls around we will be on to the next Doomsday du jour.  It puts me in mind of what the Polish author Stanislaw Lec once warned: “Do not expect too much from the end of the world.” Subscribe for more features.  Only 1.99 a month!

My birthday is 10/08/70.  I love nothing more than a great opportunity.  In the past year many amazing doors have opened, and I have entered most of them.  Everything I’m involved with is exciting and, I feel, moves me forward in my life and learning.  Sometimes I wonder if I tend to take on too much, however, and I know it occasionally raises my partner’s (DOB 03/08/68) stress level.  What do the planets say about my proclivity for success in multiple, ambition endeavors at this time of my life?  Do I need to slow down?  How might it affect my relationship?

I don’t think you need to slow down as much as you need to be more selective about what you take on.

A Libra isn’t satisfied unless her dance card is full.  Born under Venus, the planet of love and beauty, nothing makes you happier than to be in demand and you pride yourself on having a busy and hectic schedule.  Knowing that there are places to go and people to meet keeps you lively, effervescent, and engaged.  Networking is in your blood and if you could “friend” the entire world—you would.  People are the most valuable resource in your life.  They bring you opportunity, status, and money.

However it’s the Moon in Capricorn along with the Mars and Pluto conjunction in Virgo in your horoscope that makes you a tad obsessive/compulsive when it comes to “working it”.  You are clearly ambitious and will certainly succeed at a number of different endeavors, but sometimes you can be like a famished diner approaching an all-you-can-eat buffet.  There’s a tendency to load up your plate on the first go-around only to discover when you return to your table that your eyes were bigger than your stomach.  And this is when the opportunities that initially looked so appealing turn into a heap of obligations you have to fulfill.  Learning not to bite off more than you can chew is one of those life lessons that you swear you’re going to learn one day but never seem to get around to learning.  And this could be the source of tension in your relationship.  Your partner may question if you’re truly making wise decisions.

If you don’t set limits for yourself then Saturn in your zodiac sign will.  And you could get stuck with some steep reality checks in December 2009 and again in April and July 2010 if you aren’t careful.  Thankfully you can avoid all of this by taking a cue from your Ruling Planet.  Venus is the planet of debutantes and socialites and as every socialite knows-- just because you receive hundreds of invitations doesn’t mean you have to say yes to every one of them.  In fact the more invites you turn down, the better your cachet.  You need to learn to say no in 2010.  Not only will it keep you from running yourself ragged (which means more of a love life), but it ensures that you only pursue the opportunities worth pursuing-- which of course are the ones that promise to show you off in your best light.

I feel like I’m at a very large cross road in my life and I’m nervous and unsure.  I have been teaching children for 8 years here in SLC and I am about to become an empty-nester-mom.  I have been asked to move to Idaho where a couple of old time friends want to involve me in their business.  It is another call to service which I have always been drawn to.  It all sounds wonderful but I still have a looming feeling of Karma waiting to spring on me.  Any big planets opening me up or closing me down ahead in my chart?  July 9, 1957

There was an extremely powerful lunar eclipse two days prior to your birthday in 2009.  The Moon rules your zodiac sign Cancer, so this lunar eclipse would have had an especially dramatic impact on you.

There are two types of eclipses in Astrology—solar eclipses and lunar eclipses.  Solar eclipses focus on the road ahead, whereas lunar eclipses focus on the road behind you—they’re all about taking care of business and tying up loose ends.  Now not every eclipse is going to change your life (if they did you’d be an emotional wreck because eclipses occur four to six times a year) however last July’s lunar eclipse fell exactly opposite the sun in your horoscope.  This explains why you feel like you’re standing at a cross road and it shows that you are clearly parting ways with the “old” you.

You were born with the Moon in Sagittarius and Sagittarius is a higher purpose-driven sign.  You need to know that what you do has a profound impact and that you make a spiritual difference in people’s lives.  Sagittarius is a fire sign ruled by it enthusiasms, unlike watery Cancer which is ruled by its emotions.  That means one part of you gets excited by new ideas and will go galloping off in pursuit of them while the other part of you doesn’t like to venture too far past your emotional comfort zone.  These contradictory impulses have always been present in your horoscope but they’re activated now because of the eclipses in Cancer.  It’s why you’re energized about moving forward yet fretful that you may be setting yourself up for some kind of Karmic backlash.

I question whether you’ll be moving to Idaho right away.  Upcoming planetary retrogrades indicate that things will take longer for your friends to set up business-wise and though they could use the extra help they may not be ready for you to join them until late May 2010.  This would allow you time to take care of business so that you can transition from one career path to another.  Ultimately I feel like this is a good move as there will be a lot of fire energy coursing through your horoscope from 2010 through 2011.  It won’t always be easy, but there’s no denying the call to adventure that fire energy brings and you will certainly feel inspired, fulfilled, and like you’re reconnecting to a life purpose that has your name on it.

My birthday is 12/14/1984 and I was wondering when I will meet my new boyfriend.  Right now I am single and every time I go out on a date it seems like it does not work out.  I don’t know what’s wrong with me.  Jess.

There’s nothing wrong with you.  If anything your horoscope is very guy friendly.  Exuberant and fun-loving, you should have no problem meeting men and striking up a conversation.  Moreover your adventurous Sagittarian spirit means that you’re up for just about anything on a first date whether it’s salsa dancing, getting all gussied up for dinner at a four star restaurant or racking up the balls for a game of pool.  You’re the sort of woman that men gravitate to because you’re easy to be around.  You’re not high maintenance, you don’t play head games, and you probably know all the latest football stats.  Plus men can talk to you about themselves, their problems, and what they want to do in life.  You’re a good listener and you also have a few opinions of your own that you don’t mind sharing.  So what’s the problem?  You have high standards.  And they’re probably higher—and more complicated-- than you care to admit. 

You were born with Ruling Planet Jupiter in Capricorn which means that you’re not into dating, you’re into mating.  Dates are like job interviews.  You want to know how much he makes (he doesn’t have to be pulling in a six digit salary yet, but he does have to be on the fast track), you need to know what his values are, and he has to be someone that you can bring home to meet Mom, Dad, and Great Aunt Betty.  Now this sounds pretty button down and straightforward until you add Uranus to the mix. You were born with Uranus, the planet of revolution and change, next to the Sun in your horoscope.  Volatile and unpredictable, this is what gives you your wacky, out-of-left field rebelliousness.  It’s the part of you that will bring up Darfur over dessert or wants to know all about his ex-girlfriends while walking hand in hand in the moonlight.  But you’re not doing this to sabotage things.  You do this because you wonder if getting together with a guy means saying good-bye to you.  Your Jupiter in Capricorn wants everything to be tied up nicely in a bow while your Uranian side is desperately afraid of being sold down the river.  There’s a disconnect between the guy you think looks good on paper and the guy you’re actually talking to and you can’t help wondering if you’re trying to force a fit. 

Thankfully Ruling Planet Jupiter passing over your Mars in Aquarius in December 2009 will alter the “electrical current” of your horoscope and you should find it easier to talk to men about yourself instead of focusing too much on them.  Get to know a man in the same exact way that you would get to know a new friend and you’ll have no problem bridging the gap between “love interest” and “love” in June 2010.

I am 5 months into a new relationship and it feels like it could be very long term, which is what I want. I will have Saturn going into my 7th house when it enters Libra. What do you think it will mean for the relationship? His Moon is 3 Libra and his Saturn is 9 Libra, both falling in my 7th. My birthday is 7/26/1945 and his birthday is 7/27/1952.

The strongest pairings in Astrology are between people born in the same sign and/or whose Ruling Planets fall in the same sign. The fact that you are both Leos and that your and his Ruling Planet, the Sun, is also in Leo doubly confirms—by sign and by planet—that you have true relationship potential.

But let's talk about what it means for Saturn to be going into your 7th house. A horoscope is a circle that is divided into 12 parts. The easiest visual is to think of a clock with 12 numbers on it. Each number—which we know stands for an hour of the day—is also considered a “house” in Astrology.

A house does two things. It describes a specific area of your life-there's a house of money, a house of friends, a house of small pets, and even a house of secret enemies-and it tells us the exact time that we can expect to deal with these issues. But how do we know when that exact time is? When a planet goes into a house.

The planets act like the hands on a clock. Astrologers use them to tell time. When we see a planet like Saturn move into the 7th house-which is the house of relationships—then we know that this is the time when questions of partnership will be most crucial.

Thankfully your 7th house belongs to Libra. Usually Saturn going into the 7th brings trials and tribulations to a relationship, however Saturn is “exalted” in Libra which means that it will be on its best behavior. There's something about the energy of Libra that transforms Saturn from a curmudgeon into a matchmaker. Saturn in Libra likes to marry people.

And this is where you can expect the drama to unfold. You talk about Saturn going into your 7th house, but it's important to remember that Saturn came from somewhere too. In your horoscope Saturn comes from the 4th house (that's where Saturn was on the day that you were born) and the 4th house is the house of family, home, and property. This creates a square—always a source of conflict in Astrology—and that could mean that there will be family members who aren't too keen on you and your friend getting together. They may not care for him personally or they may be worried that your tying the knot would negatively impact their financial and/or property concerns. You can expect to deal with this while Mars is retrograde in your sign from December 20, 2009 through March 10, 2010. You won't like people making your business their business but if you channel the diplomatic energies of Saturn in Libra then you should be able to put them at ease while keeping your relationship intact.

I got a bit of a bruised ego this summer on the love front, and am having a hard time forgetting and moving forward. I find that this person keeps popping up in my head. So I guess my question is what do the stars and planets say about the love aspect of my life? Is there a reason I can't forget? Is there something exciting happening in my near future that will distract me and move me forward? Birthday: July 8, 1978

Eclipses are astrology's “rectifiers”. They work like course corrections and are aimed at getting you back on track should you find yourself drifting or going around in circles like a rudderless ship. Eclipses come in two varieties-solar eclipse and lunar eclipse. A solar eclipse is when the Moon moves in front of the Sun and casts its shadow on the earth. Solar eclipses are all about new beginnings and radical departures and they take about a year to play out in your life.

A lunar eclipse is when the earth stands between the Sun and the Moon and casts its shadow on the Moon. Lunar eclipses are less dramatic and act more like biannual check–ups for your horoscope. If things are hale and hearty-great. But if anything's on iffy footing-like your job, relationship, or health matter-then it will unravel and fall apart during a lunar eclipse. This is Astrology's way of clearing out the deadwood in order to make room for new growth.

I'm afraid that your relationship with that fellow was a casualty of July 7th's lunar eclipse. It took place at 15 degrees Capricorn which is exactly opposite your Sun at 15 degrees Cancer. Break–ups are never easy, but you must admit that walking away with a bruised ego beats walking away with a broken heart.

Meanwhile you won't be single for long-not with Mars, the planet of men, having just entered Leo last week. This is a big deal because you were born with four planets in Leo—including your Ruling Planet, the Moon. When we add to the mix that Mars will be in Leo for a prolonged stay due to its retrograde (Mars usually spends six–ish weeks in a sign but this time it will be eight months) you can expect lots of drama to come with that romance. Hopefully this won't result in round two with your ex-although it's possible given that retrogrades can be regressive in their energy. However my feeling is that you will be dating someone new who also brings with him a lot of emotional baggage. Now whether that baggage is carry–on or has to be checked at the gate is up to you to decide. Thankfully you will have until June 7, 2010 to judge for yourself.

My boyfriend and I have been together for over four years. We adore each other and plan on marrying. Unfortunately we both have very demanding jobs that have us living in different cities. We have tried for three years to end up in the same city, but it never works out. Do you see an end to the separation, and if you do, how soon will we finally be able to start our life together? My birthday is 11/2/83 and his is 3/23/84.

The strongest pairings in Astrology are between people born in the same sign or whose signs share the same Ruling Planet. Mars is the Ruling Planet of Scorpio (your sign) as well as Aries (his). Add to the mix that he was born with Mars in Scorpio and that pretty much says that you're mated for life.

The wonderful thing about two Mars signs together is that it creates a “comrades–in–arms” relationship. Not only do you have each other's back, but you will push each other to be the best that you can be. Ambitious and driven, Mars is not an overly domestic planet-which is why you won't shortchange yourself career–wise just to set up house and home. I imagine that this has been a source of tension and guilt, but you're lucky in that your Aries boyfriend would never pressure you into doing anything you didn't want to do. Ironically it looks like he may be the one walking out on his career when Uranus enters Aries on May 28, 2010.

Uranus is the planet of revolution and change. Its energy is restless and volatile which is why you will see people born under Aries acting out all over the place as we approach spring 2010. Now they're not doing this to be obnoxious. What's happening is that they feel like life is passing them by and that they need to break out in some way and start afresh somewhere else.

The fact that you and your boyfriend have been living in separate cities will spare you from most of this (although the same cannot be said for his co–workers and friends). Don't be surprised if you get a phone call in the middle of the night from him saying that he wants to leave it all to be with you. It will be tempting to say yes (after all this is what you've wanted) but you need to really think through what would be in his best interests. The problem with Uranian energy when it first enters a new sign is that it brings such radical change that these changes don't stick. They're just too far “out there”. Moreover Uranus's entrance into Aries next May is a bit of a false start because it will retrograde back down into Pisces in August. This reversal of energies will throw many people for a loop and I'd hate to see you get blind–sided. Trust in the timing of the planets and you'll see circumstances line up in such as way as to bring you and your boyfriend together when Uranus reenters Aries in March 2011.

My birthday is 3–12–83 and my question is: What is in store for my love life? Will I have one?

The past two years have not been kind to Pisces. You had Saturn, the planet of tests, traveling through your opposite sign of Virgo. Your opposite sign is the sign that sits six signs away from you on the zodiacal wheel (or six months away from you in the calendar year). Saturn here creates a “low–tide” energy that would have pervaded your love life making it extremely difficult to connect with that special someone. Either you would have been preoccupied with sorting out your own troubles (health and work issues steal focus when Saturn is in Virgo) or you would have faced an array of complications every time you tried to get together with your love interest. Saturn in Virgo can be like the proverbial nun at the high school dance who insists that couples remain three feet distance apart at all times.

But Saturn is a teacher, not a tyrant, and he teaches by forcing you out of your comfort zone (the old answers don't work anymore) and getting you to stretch and grow in ways that you wouldn't have otherwise. In your case Saturn has been teaching you to be more self–sufficient so that you're not always looking to someone else for love and approval.

Your Ruling Planet is Neptune, named after the greek god of the ocean. And like the ocean you carry an entire world around inside of you that most people can't begin to fathom. They don't always see the colorful schools of emotions swimming beneath the surface nor do they fully appreciate the depth of feeling you bring to every conversation and encounter. You like living in your own world-it's a beautiful place to be. But it can also be lonely because you know that you will always be “deeper” than most people you meet. Like the smart person who dumbs it down in order to fit in, you will create ways of getting hooked on someone in order to feel close. Hence the attraction to unattainable types, narcissistic personalities and?or emotional wrecks. The melodrama of agonizing over whether or not someone loves you muddies the waters and diverts you from the realization that without that hook you wouldn't much care.

Saturn moves out of Virgo on October 30th, leaving you older, wiser, and more centered. You may also not feel very motivated when it comes to love which is actually good because now that you're not trying so hard, love will come looking for you. This should coincide with your other Ruling Planet Jupiter (you're one of three zodiac signs that has two Ruling Planets) entering Pisces on January 17, 2010. Jupiter was named after the greek god of storms and fertility which means that when it rains, it pours when he's in a water sign like yours. I see you deluged with possibilities in the spring, but finally settling on someone who feels just right in June 2010.

I've added meditation to my life and it has been beneficial in more than one way. It has however got me questioning big life decisions-namely marriage. Everything in me wants the life as a wife and mother, yet part of me feels that I will serve the world and my purpose more by remaining single. I want both, but find the struggle in the attachment of one or the other. My birthday is December 7, 1978. Mahalo and aloha! Crystal

You were born under Jupiter-the planet of moral questions and philosophical ideas. Jupiter is connected to long journeys, higher education, religion, and philanthropy. People with Jupiter powerful in their horoscopes are always looking to expand their horizons-both physically and metaphysically. Not content to be an armchair tourist or a web browsing bystander you want to experience everything that life has to offer. It's why Children of Jupiter are drawn to careers in the travel industry, foreign service, missionary work, and international causes that benefit humanity on a global level. Born under the largest planet in the solar system, it's only natural for you to think BIG. And when you have Jupiter ruling both your Sun sign (Sagittarius) and your Moon sign (Pisces) it makes perfect sense that you would feel called upon to make a personal difference in the world.

But making a personal difference doesn't mean that you stop being a person. Wanting to marry and to have children would play as much a factor in any choice you make as remaining single would. I don't think being a wife and mother precludes serving the world. I have read horoscopes for several Sagittarians and Pisceans who don't think twice about packing up their kids and trundling off to some exotic locale to do field work or help a village dig an irrigation canal. It just requires some creative planning and making sure that you marry the right partner.

What lies at the root of this is freedom. Freedom is a big word for Sagittarians-they see it as an inalienable right-but you always have to ask yourself what kind of freedom are you looking for exactly? Is it freedom from-which means avoiding situations and commitments that you fear would fence you in? Or is it freedom to do—like making life decisions that further your spiritual evolution? Marriage is not a bridle designed to keep you in line. The downside to being born under the sign of the Centaur is the assumption that people want take away your freedom or that they want to break you. It's the horsy part of your zodiacal nature. That's why it's so important not to bolt in the opposite direction when facing these big life questions. Finding a life partner who shares your values is not a tall order, but it takes some looking. Embrace the spirit of adventure that Jupiter in Pisces will bring (it's there from January 17 to June 6, 2010 and then again from September 9, 2010 to January 21, 2011) and you'll discover that special someone who enriches your world as much as you enrich his.

I'm a Virgo (8/28/69) torn between a long–term stable relationship (2/15/66) that I may have outgrown and someone (3/3/79) that I feel a very strong connection with that I can't shake. I want to go, but don't want to feel hurt and I'm also fearing the unknown with someone new and exciting. What do the Stars say?

The Stars show that you are on the cusp on some major life changes. You are coming out of a two year period where you felt pretty isolated (Saturn in your sign can have that effect) and where it also looks like your partner, an Aquarius, did a disconnect. Aquarians adopt a “bunker mentality” when feeling under–fire and your partner's horoscope has been getting slammed by the planets for the past 11 months—which would explain the duck–and–cover behavior. But a planetary explanation still doesn't excuse his absence. A relationship is a team sport, so he has to decide if he's going to re–emerge from that hole in the ground or not. If you're still interested in making things work then October is a good time to seek counseling.

I can see what attracts you to the younger fellow. He was born in your opposite sign, Pisces, and opposites attract in Astrology. But just because opposites attract doesn't mean they'll stay together. Opposite sign attractions are dramatic, volatile, and highly unpredictable. That's what makes them so intoxicating. This is highlighted by the fact that your lunar nodes crisscross in each other's horoscopes-your north node falls on his south node and vice–versa. This is what gives your relationship its fated, I–can't–live–without–you intensity. It also tells me you're looking to satisfy a craving and that once you've had your fill then you will both move on. I think your Pisces friend is in your life for the express purpose of motivating you to make some changes.

So is this really about a choice between two men or is it about your growth as a person?

You're a Virgo. You're no prude nor are you anybody's Mommy. For two years you have tried to do right by people only to discover that people haven't exactly done right by you. But this is the lesson that Saturn in Virgo teaches. Saturn makes an intolerable situation more intolerable so that you have no choice but to act in your own interests. This isn't easy for someone whose Ruling Planet Mercury is in Libra. Typically you would leave your current relationship if you knew you had another one set up and ready to go. But the Stars are changing the rules of the game with you. By denying you an easy out they're forcing you to articulate your wants and needs and to make them a top priority. This doesn't say that you'll always get your way (who does in a relationship?), but you'll have a clearer understanding of the give–and–take that makes a relationship successful. Finding this balance between the “me” and the “you” is what Saturn in Libra from 2009 through 2012 is all about.

My husband and I are losing our home to bankruptcy. Will we be able to find a home soon? And also my husband is self–employed. Will he find more work this year? I know that there are a lot of people out there with the same situation we are in, but sometimes you feel alone. Why is that? With anticipation-Sherry, KY (October 31, 1956)

I am sorry to hear that you're losing your home to bankruptcy. It must feel like Fate is kicking you when you are already down but it's important to remember that you are not alone in this. There are a lot of people in the same boat which means that there are a lot of empty properties out there with agencies looking to cut some kind of deal to fill them so that they don't have to shoulder the expense. I'm certain you'll be able to find another place to live and soon.

Ironically losing your property could be the very thing that galvanizes you. You were born under the astrological sign of Scorpio and Scorpios really come to life in a crisis. Your Ruling Planet is Pluto and it was named after the Greek god of the underworld. Pluto ruled over the shadowy realm of the dead-so he had a bit of a morbid reputation, but corpses aren't the only things that lie buried in the earth. There are other things too like seeds and fossils as well as gold, precious metals, and oil. In fact ploutos is Latin for wealth and it's where we get the word “plutocrat” which means someone who's well–to–do. But more importantly Pluto symbolizes those hidden resources that lie within you yet the only way you can tap into them is by journeying down into your own personal “hell” and facing the things you fear most.

Pluto is the planet of ordeals and the transformations that arise from them. Its energy is activated only in times of hardship. This explains why so many Scorpios live with fear and dread because there's always a part of you that's waiting for things to go bust. In some ways (and I know that this sounds strange) things going bust can actually be a liberating and empowering experience. First of all you don't have to live with the fear anymore and secondly who you become on the other side of a crisis will be a stronger and more realized version of the person you were before. This is why Pluto is also known as the planet of rebirth in Astrology. Pluto always rewards those who brave its ordeals.

That said I think you'll find 2010 will be a kinder gentler year for you. You do have some rough spots in late April and early July, but these look bureaucratic in nature and like they're all about getting your financial house in order. Expect lots of paperwork and you'll have to bird–dog financial agencies to make sure that they give you the help you need. As for your husband? I think the self–employed thing has kept him at loose ends for too long. Pay attention to what transpires around March 26, 2010. This is when he'll get an offer from out of the blue that seems farfetched and even laughable. Believe it or not this is something he should pursue because it will lead to the path he's been looking to travel all along.

My DOB is 12/28/1951 and my husband's is 3/12/1943. Our problems are mostly financial. He's retired and I am a homemaker. I am afraid of being broke and losing everything. Do you see any improvements with our financial situation? Have you any suggestions to help us? Thank–you, Carol

You're a Capricorn so fear of being broke and losing everything is practically written into your cosmic DNA. But it's important to remember that this is a fear and not a reality. You'd feel this way if you had one dollar in the bank or a million-which is why friends don't take your money woes too seriously. You're probably the most economically savvy person they know. But it sounds like the strategies that used to work no longer do and that you need a more creative means of making ends meet. This would be perfectly in keeping with the fact that you are about to enter your second Saturn return.

Once every 28 to 30 years Saturn returns to where it was in the sky on the day that you were born. A Saturn return is Astrology's version of a “rite of passage”. It symbolizes a time when you leave behind your old life to embrace the new.

The first Saturn return (ages 28 to 30) is all about getting set up in life. This is when many people marry, start a family, or get serious about their careers. The second Saturn return (ages 58 to 60) acts more like a personal renaissance. Instead of asking “what will I do when I grow up” (first Saturn return) the question becomes “now that I'm grown up, what am I doing?” In many ways the second Saturn return is more important because it's when you come into yourself. This is especially true for you because you're a Capricorn and Saturn is your Ruling Planet. People born under Saturn (this includes Aquarians as well) tend to be old souls and late bloomers. You age backwards with every passing decade so that you actually become younger as you grow older. The end result is that you're more spirited, bold, and light–hearted at sixty than you were at twenty.

Fear paralyzes most people, but it's a big motivator for Capricorns. Anxiety about finances could be the very thing that emboldens you to do the things that you'd never allow yourself to do otherwise. Now you may ask yourself what do you know about making money? After all you've been a homemaker all your life. But as anyone who watches daytime cable knows people need all kinds of help when it comes to organizing their living spaces, bank accounts, or overall day. And given that your Ruling Planet Saturn is in Libra, you have all the makings of an organizer, shopper, or life coach. All you have to do is to identify your particular niche (what do you do better than everyone else?), hang out a shingle, and people will pay top dollar for your advice and insight.