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So this concerns my current ex-boyfriend of 3.5 years. His birthday is
August 8, 19**. We’ve broken up twice in the past 4 years, but we always
end up back together. Although we match up in so many ways, were very
different in many as well. I just need to know if the reason we keep
coming back is because there is a future for us? Or are we just wasting
precious time and opportunities for finding other people that were meant
You and your boyfriend were born under opposite signs of the zodiac. These are the signs that are six months away from each other in the calendar year. You were born under Aquarius, which means that you were born in the heart of winter and he was born under Leo, which means that he was born in the heat of summer. This means that you guys will always run hot and cold with each other. These types of relationships are as irresistible as they are impossible. That’s because opposites attract, but just because opposites attract doesn’t mean that they will stay together.
One of the things that we look for in Astrology is common ground. This can be established by a Sun/Moon conjunction between horoscopes, Ruling planet connections, or even something as simple as being born in the same season of the year. These create bonds between zodiac charts so that people can lay down their comfort zones and get close. Opposite sign attractions are pretty much star-crossed because the lovers involved are rarely in sync for very long. Imagine two people sitting opposite each other on a seesaw. When one person is up, the other person is down and vice-versa. This gives the relationship a constant on-again, off-again quality. It can be dramatic in a break-up-only-to-make-up sort of way, but after a while it becomes exhausting.
Using a phrase like “my current ex-boyfriend” is never a good sign because it says that you’re stuck in a loop, which is what I’m talking about. This can also set up some pretty unhealthy relationship patterns if you let it go on for too long. My advice is to kick the habit and move on to someone new. You may be surprised to discover that men don’t have to be such hard work after all.
All my life I've been a loner. Acquaintances are few, friends are
scarce and after a couple of hours with them... I'm ready to go home. I
like it that way. Is it because of my Scorpio moon? 3/19/57.
Your Scorpio Moon would certainly explain your desire for the solitary life. Scorpio is one of the few zodiac signs that really enjoys being by itself—especially if it is surrounded by its favorite things like books or collectibles or whatever passes for a personal treasure. There is never enough time in the day to contemplate a deep thought, to envision a great masterpiece, or to research a favorite topic. If people with Scorpio Moons could go off and become hermits, they would do it in a New York minute.
Retreating into yourself is also supported by the heavy presence of water in your horoscope. The water signs all prize the interior and private experience over the exterior and oftentimes hectic-paced one. You have your Mercury, planet of the mind, in Pisces along with Venus—the planet of what I like. You enjoy images, reveries, memories, and dreams. You also have one of your Ruling Planets, Neptune, in Scorpio along with the north node next to the Moon. The north node acts like a waxing energy in Astrology—it augments and empowers the planet that it is closest to. In your case this creates an even stronger Scorpio Moon energy, so that the desire to be at home (you have your Moon in the fourth house of your horoscope and the fourth house is the house of home) becomes even more pronounced. Your home really is your castle.
I wouldn’t be surprised if you find—like the hermits did of old—that people just can’t leave you alone. They may come seeking your advice and your counsel. They may do this in person or they may do it over the Internet. It’s something that seems to follow solitary types despite their best efforts to escape. If this is the case (like I suspect it will be this summer) then I would advise that you be a good sport about it. You exude a kind of wisdom that people trust and want to be around. Share your knowledge and insights and you could wind up wanting to spend a couple of more hours than usual with this new group of acquaintances. One or two may even graduate to your inner circle of friends.