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So this concerns my current ex-boyfriend of 3.5 years. His birthday is
August 8, 19**. We’ve broken up twice in the past 4 years, but we always
end up back together. Although we match up in so many ways, were very
different in many as well. I just need to know if the reason we keep
coming back is because there is a future for us? Or are we just wasting
precious time and opportunities for finding other people that were meant
You and your boyfriend were born under opposite signs of the zodiac. These are the signs that are six months away from each other in the calendar year. You were born under Aquarius, which means that you were born in the heart of winter and he was born under Leo, which means that he was born in the heat of summer. This means that you guys will always run hot and cold with each other. These types of relationships are as irresistible as they are impossible. That’s because opposites attract, but just because opposites attract doesn’t mean that they will stay together.
One of the things that we look for in Astrology is common ground. This can be established by a Sun/Moon conjunction between horoscopes, Ruling planet connections, or even something as simple as being born in the same season of the year. These create bonds between zodiac charts so that people can lay down their comfort zones and get close. Opposite sign attractions are pretty much star-crossed because the lovers involved are rarely in sync for very long. Imagine two people sitting opposite each other on a seesaw. When one person is up, the other person is down and vice-versa. This gives the relationship a constant on-again, off-again quality. It can be dramatic in a break-up-only-to-make-up sort of way, but after a while it becomes exhausting.
Using a phrase like “my current ex-boyfriend” is never a good sign because it says that you’re stuck in a loop, which is what I’m talking about. This can also set up some pretty unhealthy relationship patterns if you let it go on for too long. My advice is to kick the habit and move on to someone new. You may be surprised to discover that men don’t have to be such hard work after all.
All my life I've been a loner. Acquaintances are few, friends are
scarce and after a couple of hours with them... I'm ready to go home. I
like it that way. Is it because of my Scorpio moon? 3/19/57.
Your Scorpio Moon would certainly explain your desire for the solitary life. Scorpio is one of the few zodiac signs that really enjoys being by itself—especially if it is surrounded by its favorite things like books or collectibles or whatever passes for a personal treasure. There is never enough time in the day to contemplate a deep thought, to envision a great masterpiece, or to research a favorite topic. If people with Scorpio Moons could go off and become hermits, they would do it in a New York minute.
Retreating into yourself is also supported by the heavy presence of water in your horoscope. The water signs all prize the interior and private experience over the exterior and oftentimes hectic-paced one. You have your Mercury, planet of the mind, in Pisces along with Venus—the planet of what I like. You enjoy images, reveries, memories, and dreams. You also have one of your Ruling Planets, Neptune, in Scorpio along with the north node next to the Moon. The north node acts like a waxing energy in Astrology—it augments and empowers the planet that it is closest to. In your case this creates an even stronger Scorpio Moon energy, so that the desire to be at home (you have your Moon in the fourth house of your horoscope and the fourth house is the house of home) becomes even more pronounced. Your home really is your castle.
I wouldn’t be surprised if you find—like the hermits did of old—that people just can’t leave you alone. They may come seeking your advice and your counsel. They may do this in person or they may do it over the Internet. It’s something that seems to follow solitary types despite their best efforts to escape. If this is the case (like I suspect it will be this summer) then I would advise that you be a good sport about it. You exude a kind of wisdom that people trust and want to be around. Share your knowledge and insights and you could wind up wanting to spend a couple of more hours than usual with this new group of acquaintances. One or two may even graduate to your inner circle of friends.
I just read that I was born with both of my Ruling Planets retrograde. In my case it's Uranus and Saturn. It all makes sense, but now I feel doomed. Am I? DOB February 13, 1975.
Don’t worry, you’re not doomed.
Now it’s true that things don’t come easily for people born under a retrograde Ruling Planet. It will take you longer than most to reap the rewards that you deserve and you will definitely have to cope with unexpected wrinkles. But dealing with these kinds of setbacks actually does more for you in the long run than what you might think. For instance you don’t take anything at face value—which is a plus in a world where we all have to deal with phishing, identity theft, and fly-by-night get rich quick schemes. You won’t throw your hands up at the first signs of trouble because you’re a seasoned veteran when it comes to managing all of the monkey wrenches that get thrown into your best laid plans. And finally the last minute reversals that a Retrograde Ruling Planet brings teaches you to think on your feet and to rework plans on the spot. These are all qualities that you probably wouldn’t have developed if things had come easily.
I have found that to be born under a retrograde Ruling Planet confers a special type of genius. I have seen retrograde Ruling Planet clients of mine become more resourceful, inventive, and resilient. Now who’s to say whether this would have happened had the planets been situated differently? It’s a moot point because that’s just the way that things turned out and nobody really knows how life would have been otherwise. We have no choice but to work with the horoscope we walk in with. It’s no different than working with the body we’re born into. However I have known a number of people who were born extremely talented and I have known a number of people who have gotten every break that one could hope to get. Have these good turns guaranteed success? Sometimes yes; sometimes no. I have seen talented people fail to live up to their potential and I have seen lucky breaks lead to others’ stagnation and even ruin. Fortune is capricious. One person’s blessing is another person’s curse and vice-versa.
In the end your Fortune—like your horoscope—is what you make of it. And if you can develop an appreciation for what your retrograde Ruling Planets bring to the table, then you will find that you’ve been given some very special gifts. The first is a “if at first you don’t succeed, then try, try, try again” perseverance -- that’s the Saturn retrograde-- and the second is a “make-it-up-as-you-go-along” spontaneity that only a retrograde Uranus can bestow. These two planets may disappoint when it comes to immediate gratification, but what they deliver in the long run is self-sufficiency, wisdom that comes from hindsight, and a creativity that will never grow stale or complacent. And these aren't such bad things to have if you think about it